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Hello everyone. I don't really like putting personal on here but I want to get this out.

I've been praying for about five years for someone right for me. I'm an introvert so I like time on my own but not all the time. I get really lonely and don't want to spend the rest of my life like this.

...It is not good that the man should be alone Genesis 2:18

...it is better to marry than to burn. 1 Corinthians 7:9

...rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Proverbs 5:18

These are the verses I quote to God in my prayers.

I've never had a girlfriend or been on a date. I am twenty-eight and will turn twenty-nine this year. These are my last years in my twenties and I feel like I've missed out on a lot. As long as I follow God I will have Him always. A wife and my youth, not always.

I don't drink, I don't smoke, I have a job, I exercise almost every day and am the fittest I probably ever been and I think I'm ok looking (at least from the right angle). The problem is I am really shy and socially awkward and I don't go out much except to go to work. I don't get many opportunities to meet people, but I've tried to create some.

I want to be a good Christian, I want to do good, follow God and lead many to righteousness. But this one thing. I want a helper, a friend and a partner for life.

Please pray that God bring that right person into my life as soon as possible or that I can be more patient in waiting.

Thank you
 

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Hello everyone. I don't really like putting personal on here but I want to get this out.

I've been praying for about five years for someone right for me. I'm an introvert so I like time on my own but not all the time. I get really lonely and don't want to spend the rest of my life like this.

...It is not good that the man should be alone Genesis 2:18

...it is better to marry than to burn. 1 Corinthians 7:9

...rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Proverbs 5:18

These are the verses I quote to God in my prayers.

I've never had a girlfriend or been on a date. I am twenty-eight and will turn twenty-nine this year. These are my last years in my twenties and I feel like I've missed out on a lot. As long as I follow God I will have Him always. A wife and my youth, not always.

I don't drink, I don't smoke, I have a job, I exercise almost every day and am the fittest I probably ever been and I think I'm ok looking (at least from the right angle). The problem is I am really shy and socially awkward and I don't go out much except to go to work. I don't get many opportunities to meet people, but I've tried to create some.

I want to be a good Christian, I want to do good, follow God and lead many to righteousness. But this one thing. I want a helper, a friend and a partner for life.

Please pray that God bring that right person into my life as soon as possible or that I can be more patient in waiting.

Thank you

I am praying for you. Know that I am in the same situation as you and feel the same way, except that I am only 17 years old. I know how you feel, and you are not alone in this burden. I too have never had a girlfriend.

However, I must admit that, a few weeks ago, I realise that I had never been truly ready for a relationship. Many things had changed ever since, and I realised how things could have gone terribly wrong if I had had a girlfriend earlier, as I had wanted. Therefore, I must admit that I am absolutely glad and grateful that God has never yet given me a girlfriend.

I recognise, however, that I think I am ready right now. There is a girl I like and, although she clearly has little or no interest for me right now, I feel that she may soon grow to like me. Now that I take the idea of a relationship much more seriously, I just hope that God will allow her to like me and a relationship to start between us.

Well, look at me, going on and on about myself! I am sorry! I just wanted to take this opportunity to share my burden with you, given its similarities. I will pray for you as I have been praying for myself. I hope you may quickly find your partner for life.

I believe that there is an important aspect that you must never forget in your prayers about this topic: submission to God's will. Do you remember how Jesus prayed (Matthew 26:39; Matthew 26:42)? ‘My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will. […] My Father, if it is not possible for this cup to be taken away unless I drink it, may your will be done.’ Tell God that you are willing to, above all things, submit to his will; and tell him that, if he wants you to wait for longer, you will do so. However, tell him your desire that you will quickly get a girlfriend, and ask him to satisfy that desire if it is possible. ‘But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” […]’ (2 Corinthians 12:9).

I hope I am not sounding arrogant in any manner by trying to compare your problem to mine, when you have been suffering from it for much longer than I. My only aim here is to show you my perspective and comfort you that everything will be all right and God has in his hands the best plan for you.

May the Lord bless you richly, MrMoe! Do not forget that I feel the same way as you, so you are not alone. And please pray for me as well.
 
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Bless yer heart, my friend. Praying that God's bountiful blessings chase you down and overtake you and that you catch a glimpse of His utter delight in you and that before your very eyes you see His future and His hope for you that He formed since before the foundation of the world. May He grant you extraordinary favor and show you clearly that He has GOOD things ahead for you. KEEP trusting Him, my friend, even in those hardest of moments when uncertainty seems to reign. Father, may this verse bless and be manifested for your beloved one who You love beyond measure, and bless his socks off and in ways he never dreamed possible, in Jesus name, amen.

"And all these blessings shall come on thee, and overtake thee, if thou shalt hearken unto the voice of the LORD thy God." ~Deuteronomy 28:2
 
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I'll pray for you, but I'll also say this.

In the mean time learn how to be a good husband. Show God you take the prospect of being a good husband seriously. In a way you'd be loving your wife before meeting her. Put the waiting time to good use.

http://www.gotquestions.org/godly-husband.html

You'll only be able to do that if you put as much of yourself aside and run to him. Deal with any unrepentant sins or issues, work them all out with him, Anything that is standing in the way, forgive anyone you need to. Listen to good christian music and sing it, even if it's just inside your head, sing to him and you'll feel the warm chills of Holy Spirit dancing around and in you. Doing these things will also make the wait easier. Find a good church and get involved. If you want to find high hanging fruit you'll have to go where the branches are.

If you're close to God he'll automatically help with the anxiety, since you'll have his peace. But desensitizing yourself to what gives you anxiety will also help. I have it too. Social anxiety and avoidant personality disorder from a childhood full of being bullied. Try to make friends with other people at the church you'll hopefully find. You never know who will be connected to who.

Personally I don't think God would put it in our hearts to want a wife if he didn't intend on eventually bringing to pass at some point, but be sure not to desire a wife more than you desire God. It's a pitfall to avoid. It's easy for me to type that but I'm guilty of it myself. No woman, and nobody can fulfill you like He can and would if you put him in the center of your life. And having him at the center of your life will be very attractive to the type of woman you should be looking for.

Be *absolutely* sure of compatibility also. I can't stress that enough.

Stay strong with him, everything is meant for your good even when it sometimes doesn't appear that way.
 
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I'll pray for you, but I'll also say this.

In the mean time learn how to be a good husband. Show God you take the prospect of being a good husband seriously. In a way you'd be loving your wife before meeting her. Put the waiting time to good use.

http://www.gotquestions.org/godly-husband.html

You'll only be able to do that if you put as much of yourself aside and run to him. Deal with any unrepentant sins or issues, work them all out with him, Anything that is standing in the way, forgive anyone you need to. Listen to good christian music and sing it, even if it's just inside your head, sing to him and you'll feel the warm chills of Holy Spirit dancing around and in you. Doing these things will also make the wait easier. Find a good church and get involved. If you want to find high hanging fruit you'll have to go where the branches are.

If you're close to God he'll automatically help with the anxiety, since you'll have his peace. But desensitizing yourself to what gives you anxiety will also help. I have it too. Social anxiety and avoidant personality disorder from a childhood full of being bullied. Try to make friends with other people at the church you'll hopefully find. You never know who will be connected to who.

Personally I don't think God would put it in our hearts to want a wife if he didn't intend on eventually bringing to pass at some point, but be sure not to desire a wife more than you desire God. It's a pitfall to avoid. It's easy for me to type that but I'm guilty of it myself. No woman, and nobody can fulfill you like He can and would if you put him in the center of your life. And having him at the center of your life will be very attractive to the type of woman you should be looking for.

Be *absolutely* sure of compatibility also. I can't stress that enough.

Stay strong with him, everything is meant for your good even when it sometimes doesn't appear that way.


Being a woman who has had a tough marriage I eill tell you this ..it is realy hard to find a good guy they say ..but I believe God knows best and He will do what is the best for you and bring you your love at the right time...we are praying for you and what is said above is good advice :)
 
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When you say you are shy, I think of all the shy girls out there waiting for someone special as well.
Heavenly Father, there are so many women out there wanting to answer to a prayer need such as this, and yet they too are home waiting. I pray that You will help them to get out with a friend or join a Church or club or some kind of event or gathering or activity, where the two can meet. Continue to give MrMoe encouragement and grant him patience to wait on You to send him his love, at the right place and at the right time, In Jesus Name, thank You Heavenly Father for making this one's prayer request a dream come true, Amen
 
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I'll be praying for you! From my experience, especially with my current relationship, you always find the right partner once you leave it to God, not go searching for someone, and focus on you. Focus on being a great person, listening to God, and when you're not looking, that's when the woman God placed for you will find you. Don't lose hope c:
 
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