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[WalksWithChrist]

my dryer doesn't

I got what you meant right off. It's like saying "friendly fire isn't!"
We recently got one of those collapsible drying racks so we don't have to run the dryer as much.


My mother sent an email the other day letting us know our Christmas presents will be shipped to our house soon. "Great" I thought.

They came via UPS yesterday when I was struggling to get our two year old in the car and on the road...in addition to being sick and having a giant headache and just finishing talking to my wife about her taking a severance package (which she did just do) and leaving a job she's been at for almost 10 years. The shipment was four very large and very heavy boxes. Three bookshelves and a tv/entertainment cart.

A little backstory. My mom was here for a visit a few months back with my aunt. They both berated us for not having a designated room setup for our child yet...she still sleeps with us. And also we talked about getting bookshelves and my wife made it clear she wanted to pick them out cuz she didn't want cheap junk that would fall apart.

So we get these boxes. Without opening them, we have no way to really tell what the items are exactly or what they look like. Are they too big? Too ugly? Cheap as hell? I would have to either email my mom asking her to send links to wherever she ordered them from or try to get the info from the shipping labels on the box and Google them to find out what everything is. I am very frustrated right now!!!
You don't just ship four giant boxes to someone like that! First off, we really, really don't have time to even open all that junk and assemble it. Second off, I'm trying really hard right now with my "free" time to get the house in order and purge a bunch of crap.

The bookshelves I can understand...even tho we don't need more than one! But the tv cart thing we just...do...not...need. And I seem to remember telling her we don't need one when she was here. The thing is we have our daughter's dresser in our room and the tv is on top of it. She got us the tv cart so we can put the dresser in the kid room (which is full of junk and I am working on CLEARING it out still! I just had an operation recently and haven't been able to...ugh). Another thing is we're about to cut off our cable so tv is about to be very unimportant.

She did this right after she actually did get approval from us to give our daughter one of those toy kitchens. You know, the fancy one that takes up lots of SPACE! lol So now our house is even more cramped and is about to be more so when the kitchen gets here.
She just emailed me saying she got the kitchen and is already started on putting it together! Oh goody!!

My suggestion, and I may just do this out of spite, is to arrange the boxes into one big bookshelf!! Lash them together with so much duct tape they will never come apart again!


I have not emailed my mother back yet. I don't even want to! I have no idea what I would even say beyond "yeah, we got the boxes."

 

[FaithPrevails]

We are almost living parallel lives, WWC. Except it's my MIL and my mom. My MIL keeps sending money and I keep sending it back. lol (We had a falling out several months ago and things have not been repaired, so I don't want to accept her gifts).

The bebe is still in our room, too. My parents were here recently and they moved all of the baby furniture out of our room into the room that will eventually be hers at my mother's insistance. The only reason she didn't move the crib was b/c I told her she would upset my husband (who was in the hospital recovering from surgery) by moving it without his blessing. At least she cared more about his feelings than mine. *rolls eyes*

Never mind the fact that I wanted to paint and decorate the room prior to moving everything in there. Now I get to try to cram it all to the middle of the room and paint around it.

Ahhh mothers. Gotta love 'em!

 

[WalksWithChrist]

We are almost living parallel lives, WWC. Except it's my MIL and my mom. My MIL keeps sending money and I keep sending it back. lol (We had a falling out several months ago and things have not been repaired, so I don't want to accept her gifts).

The bebe is still in our room, too. My parents were here recently and they moved all of the baby furniture out of our room into the room that will eventually be hers at my mother's insistance. The only reason she didn't move the crib was b/c I told her she would upset my husband (who was in the hospital recovering from surgery) by moving it without his blessing. At least she cared more about his feelings than mine. *rolls eyes*

Never mind the fact that I wanted to paint and decorate the room prior to moving everything in there. Now I get to try to cram it all to the middle of the room and paint around it.

Ahhh mothers. Gotta love 'em!

Wow. Parallel lives indeed!

If my mom tried that I'd have thrown her out! lol She does impose her will tho. Her shipping us two tons of freight has proved that! Her general MO is passive-agressive, so this is just like her.
Hey, if your MIL sends you more money...I'll take it!

I'm sure that would chap her behind if you told her you gave someone else her money.

Mothers have no sense of propriety!!

I just emailed my mom. I did just acknowledge we got the boxes and asked for links for the items. No personal commentary at all. If I'd said anything more, I would have said something to spark a fight and that's the last thing I want right now.

 

[FaithPrevails]

I was at work the whole day and my hubby was still in thie hospital the day she did that. She's sneaky, I tell ya!

Sending the $$ back was b/c my stepFIL accused my husband of always "having his hand out for handouts" a while back. It really chapped me since we never ask them for ANYthing. So, I sent back birthday money and anniversary money. I'm stubborn. lol

Hopefully your mom won't give you too much flack about the request for the links.

 

[WalksWithChrist]

I was at work the whole day and my hubby was still in thie hospital the day she did that. She's sneaky, I tell ya!

Sending the $$ back was b/c my stepFIL accused my husband of always "having his hand out for handouts" a while back. It really chapped me since we never ask them for ANYthing. So, I sent back birthday money and anniversary money. I'm stubborn. lol

Hopefully your mom won't give you too much flack about the request for the links.

I would have done the same thing with returning the money in that situation.

I think she will send the links. I taught her how to email and copy/paste so I know she CAN do it!

 

[WalksWithChrist]

I got what you meant right off. It's like saying "friendly fire isn't!"
We recently got one of those collapsible drying racks so we don't have to run the dryer as much.


My mother sent an email the other day letting us know our Christmas presents will be shipped to our house soon. "Great" I thought.

They came via UPS yesterday when I was struggling to get our two year old in the car and on the road...in addition to being sick and having a giant headache and just finishing talking to my wife about her taking a severance package (which she did just do) and leaving a job she's been at for almost 10 years. The shipment was four very large and very heavy boxes. Three bookshelves and a tv/entertainment cart.

A little backstory. My mom was here for a visit a few months back with my aunt. They both berated us for not having a designated room setup for our child yet...she still sleeps with us. And also we talked about getting bookshelves and my wife made it clear she wanted to pick them out cuz she didn't want cheap junk that would fall apart.

So we get these boxes. Without opening them, we have no way to really tell what the items are exactly or what they look like. Are they too big? Too ugly? Cheap as hell? I would have to either email my mom asking her to send links to wherever she ordered them from or try to get the info from the shipping labels on the box and Google them to find out what everything is. I am very frustrated right now!!!
You don't just ship four giant boxes to someone like that! First off, we really, really don't have time to even open all that junk and assemble it. Second off, I'm trying really hard right now with my "free" time to get the house in order and purge a bunch of crap.

The bookshelves I can understand...even tho we don't need more than one! But the tv cart thing we just...do...not...need. And I seem to remember telling her we don't need one when she was here. The thing is we have our daughter's dresser in our room and the tv is on top of it. She got us the tv cart so we can put the dresser in the kid room (which is full of junk and I am working on CLEARING it out still! I just had an operation recently and haven't been able to...ugh). Another thing is we're about to cut off our cable so tv is about to be very unimportant.

She did this right after she actually did get approval from us to give our daughter one of those toy kitchens. You know, the fancy one that takes up lots of SPACE! lol So now our house is even more cramped and is about to be more so when the kitchen gets here.
She just emailed me saying she got the kitchen and is already started on putting it together! Oh goody!!

My suggestion, and I may just do this out of spite, is to arrange the boxes into one big bookshelf!! Lash them together with so much duct tape they will never come apart again!


I have not emailed my mother back yet. I don't even want to! I have no idea what I would even say beyond "yeah, we got the boxes."

Ok, she sent me the information I wanted. She said something to the effect of why would I want to know about it. And she said you wouldn't know what was in any other present. Never mind the items were listed on the shipping label!

I wrote her back a pretty scathing email back but tried to keep it as civil as I could.

Here's what we've got:

We have three of these in the three-shelf variety:
Mission-Style 38"W 2-Shelf Bookshelf - Mission Style Bookcase - Bookcase - Wooden Bookshelf | HomeDecorators.com
And one of these:
Mission-Style TV Cart - Tv Stands - Home Theater Furniture - Furniture | HomeDecorators.com

 

[FaithPrevails]

At least she has decent taste??

 

[WalksWithChrist]

At least she has decent taste??

Wow. That was my last line in my scathing email! I said, after several paragraphs, that at least she had good taste.

 

[Annessa3]

 

[Lena75]

Ugh, don't even get me started on family drama! Nope, not goin' there....


*passes out Brandy Beans*.......YUMMMMM

 

[Annessa3]

OK, I'm gonna confess here:

my MIL had been doing the long-distance passive-aggressive thing for months..... just irritating the everloving out of me. And because it was my MIL, I kept myself from saying anything.... until one day, my hubby said something seriously hilarious about his Mum's actions, and I realized he felt the same way.

Christmas was coming, and Joe's sister and her 3 yr old were staying at the inlaws for a lengthy period. We sent the niece a keyboard/drum all-in-one set with the batteries alreadt installed.

BWAH HA HA HA..!!!

we got a sheepish email from Mum a couple days after Christmas that referenced our 'sweet revenge'. She knew exactly what had happened. Of course she did threaten to put the 3 yr old, with keyboard, on the bus to our house.....

 

[Lena75]

Hey, at least you guys are in somewhat "speaking terms" with your parents! My parents I have no problems with so all is good.

Now HIS parents....I don't know what the heck is their problem. Seriously. I have NO IDEA. They make long distance calls to Mexico, Manitoba, Texas and numerous other long distant countries. She (mil) makes a long distant phone call to their daughter (my sil) just the next road over.....BUT......get this.......I have not nor has my husband received a phone call from them in ages and we don't know why. I get relayed messages from sil instead. It's all BS about long distance phone calls being $ related.
Hubby NEVER gets phone calls from his own mother on his birthday. My mother calls him and even gives him a card, but his own mother won't. Dunno why.

Of course, hubby likes to say it doesn't bother him. Well, geez. It sure as heck bothers ME that my husband gets treated like crap from his own family!

*Looks down at empty box of Brandy Beans....uh oh...that was the BEANS talkin!*

 

[Annessa3]

Lena, you're singing our song.....
It's the reason I never wanted to go to FL to visit his family. They treated him like crap all his life, favored 'their' child instead of the firstborn (Joe) of the mum. I was always afraid I would just erupt and tell them off.

When Joe's mum died Jan 2008... OK that's when the downward spiral for him started.
There has YET to be one phone call from his step-dad or sister since then. It hurts him so badly, but he just shuts up about it. But Mum's death was the beginning of the spiral into depression, adultery & alcoholism.

faith

 

[mkgal1]

Annessa...I am praying for Joe. It is difficult enough when a parent dies...even though it IS a natural thing to go through...it just changes your whole world...you feel as if your anchor has been pulled up and all the garbage that had grown around the anchor comes up with it. To have remaining family turn their back on you...just pours salt into the wound.

I am thankful he has you and your loving family. I pray he can heal soon....and get out of the fog that surrounds him

 

[Lena75]

Wow. We got a phone call last night. The in-laws just got back from their trip, so they just gave hubby the "we're home and we got home safely" message. Not much detail after that. This may have been fil's last trip out west since he has late stage-too advanced for chemo prostate cancer.

 

[Annessa3]

thanx MK...
I do know.... my parents both died in 1995.
I miss them every day.
faith

 

[FaithPrevails]

We're taking the baby to see Santa and get pics done in her Christmas dress tomorrow.

 

[Lena75]

Why did they invent tinsel?? It's SUCH a mess to clean up!

 

[WalksWithChrist]

Wow. That was my last line in my scathing email! I said, after several paragraphs, that at least she had good taste.

Things are smoothed over and I even got an apology. That was nice!

OK, I'm gonna confess here:

my MIL had been doing the long-distance passive-aggressive thing for months..... just irritating the everloving out of me. And because it was my MIL, I kept myself from saying anything.... until one day, my hubby said something seriously hilarious about his Mum's actions, and I realized he felt the same way.

Christmas was coming, and Joe's sister and her 3 yr old were staying at the inlaws for a lengthy period. We sent the niece a keyboard/drum all-in-one set with the batteries alreadt installed.

BWAH HA HA HA..!!!

we got a sheepish email from Mum a couple days after Christmas that referenced our 'sweet revenge'. She knew exactly what had happened. Of course she did threaten to put the 3 yr old, with keyboard, on the bus to our house.....

haha Sounds like something I would do.

Hey, at least you guys are in somewhat "speaking terms" with your parents! My parents I have no problems with so all is good.

Now HIS parents....I don't know what the heck is their problem. Seriously. I have NO IDEA. They make long distance calls to Mexico, Manitoba, Texas and numerous other long distant countries. She (mil) makes a long distant phone call to their daughter (my sil) just the next road over.....BUT......get this.......I have not nor has my husband received a phone call from them in ages and we don't know why. I get relayed messages from sil instead. It's all BS about long distance phone calls being $ related.
Hubby NEVER gets phone calls from his own mother on his birthday. My mother calls him and even gives him a card, but his own mother won't. Dunno why.

Of course, hubby likes to say it doesn't bother him. Well, geez. It sure as heck bothers ME that my husband gets treated like crap from his own family!

*Looks down at empty box of Brandy Beans....uh oh...that was the BEANS talkin!*

Mmm...that would irk anyone I think.

We're taking the baby to see Santa and get pics done in her Christmas dress tomorrow.

Got Tylenol?

 

[FaithPrevails]

The Santa line wasn't ridiculous. We did skip the photo session in her Christmas dress, though. The wait for Santa was all hubby's back could take today.