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what was the message you took away after watching the movie?
what was the message you took away after watching the movie?
One thing that I took from it that I'm not sure if they intended as a message or not is that in a troubled marriage the bulk of the problems are caused by the man's failings and anything the wife does, while maybe not entirely right, is an understandable response to his failures.
We must bring back the Patriarchs.
Men are perfect as they are
I never suggested anything close to that.
The problem though is that men are not to blame for everything that goes wrong either.
Men can and should and need to do better. I've got no problems with that. What I've got a problem with is the fact that women do to and there's little to no message out there saying that.
I mean honestly, did you feel that that movie was at all fair in it's treatment of her emotional affair? Was the "rebuke" of it strong enough? Would a rebuke of the man doing exactly what she did be strong enough in your opinion had it been handled identically?
I never suggested anything close to that.
The problem though is that men are not to blame for everything that goes wrong either.
Men can and should and need to do better. I've got no problems with that. What I've got a problem with is the fact that women do to and there's little to no message out there saying that.
I mean honestly, did you feel that that movie was at all fair in it's treatment of her emotional affair? Was the "rebuke" of it strong enough? Would a rebuke of the man doing exactly what she did be strong enough in your opinion had it been handled identically?
I never, for one moment, ever, thought this - and have never heard anyone else say it. What a horrible concept.If you aren’t haaaapy, threaten divorce and let high status men compete for your heart!
I beg to differ. But not "nice" so much as truthfully pursuing the Lord. Whether that's "nice" or not may not be the point. It's the honesty of the pursuit and the intention to be that person.The implication that being a really nice guy will win your wife back is stupid. I've never seen anything that guarantees that. In fact I most often see the opposite.
I beg to differ. But not "nice" so much as truthfully pursuing the Lord. Whether that's "nice" or not may not be the point. It's the honesty of the pursuit and the intention to be that person.
But in Castaway he had been gone so long and she had married. Would he have stayed and tried to break up the marriage? With the greatest of respect, I don't think that's the same at all.Not true in my experience. My intentions were totally misunderstood, misconstrued and actually taken no matter what was said or done as being opposite. In the Bible, doing good to others does not result in them loving you for it necessarily, and in life it is equally true. That's not even why you do it, it's because we are supposed to have the character of Christ.
In a way I liked the ending of Castaway better. He had to let the woman he loved go--even though he hadn't done anything wrong, but it was the right thing to do and so he had to painfully but clearly move on with his life.
A person pursuing an affair with a member of the same sex or opposite sex tend to be pretty good pointers when considering whether a person is honestly pursuing God. You can't pursue both with any honesty in your intentions.The other thing about someone saying "honestly pursuing the Lord" is that we get right back to here is one person deciding about another persons pursuit of God.
We are called to pursue God or emulate Christ. And God/Christ is not anywhere near today's definition of nice. In fact, as I've said before, someone who perfectly emulated Christ's tone and delivery and character would last about 3.2 seconds as a pastor in today's American church. Nearly all women and far too many men want nice and warm and fuzzy more than they want the Truth."Nice" is confused with pursuit of God
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