Question.. do you feel that you spend a lot of time pondering about romance and what it is?
I do.. for various reason.. always intensively wondered why my idea of romance was the way it was.. I find that theories like evolutionary psychology has given me a great understanding of my romance.
Sometimes I do...because sometimes I feel like the odd man out. My idea of romance is unique in a sense that instead of sending flowers and taking a woman out to an intimate dinner...I more keep in mind the little things a woman I'm dating is into....and bring those to light. Kind of like Jim and Pam on the office.
He bought her a tea pot with little mementos of their experiences during the time they knew each other. That's more like me.
I have a female friend that kind of rejects traditional romance from men. She does want a partner, but without the mushy stuff I guess.
She's in her early 50s, and some guy around the same age she was seeing, was like "I feel like as school boy when I'm around you!"
She was like "Really?!" There was just something off putting about his comment apparently when he said that. She feels sometimes these guys move to quick with their romancing her...and they were a few dates in and he was already saying this.
She believes in more of a friendship than a romance...but, isn't that just like having a brother or sister type love?
There had been times that since I never had a high school girlfriend or even dated in college...that I missed out and when I became a late bloomer...my first girlfriend was when I was in my late 20s, and after her...I hadn't had anyone I dated for about 10 years.
I felt my lack of experience in romance had made it worse for me...perpetuated the problem...and may have even stunted me when it come to interacting with women in a dating fashion.