The lonely club

[AngelDove1]

I do feel like a lot of people don't understand...I can't go to church anymore, and have no family who "really" want to talk about Jesus...I had a lot of strength to face this once...now not so much, or so it seems to me...have also doubted myself lately...isolation is a definite afflicition...most don't even have a clue what it is like...sometimes, the more I talk about it the worse it gets...yet it does come out...here online...

Now today, I can tell I have a bad attitude...soooo I am waiting it out in the Lord...LOL

I have a lot of guilt from playing at CF...just wonder how legalistic I really am sometimes...

huggles.....

 

[tapero]

My husband is very understanding about my limitations...to look at me, you would think nothing was wrong...but I am weak in body...and very sensitive to what I eat...touch, breathe...once a reaction starts it does not go away...so things add up.

I am better in a way...yet weaker and more infirm...just keep getting older...LOL

Today I am going to try to improve my attitude...the good side of this is I am much more sympathetic to people who are ill...or have any kind of physical struggle...the world doesn't sit around much for them.

Also found I can talk to and relate to people so much better...people of all ages...that is "if" I get out with them once in a while.

Hi, Yes, I can imagine being more sympathetic to people who are ill and such. If I ever get outside, among the people (yikes) I will see in retrospect what I've gained from the experience of staying in.

I'm glad your husband is understanding of the problems you have; that helps a lot to have that. God bless him.

I'm pretty down tonight, because I slept so much. Takes a long time for my body to awaken it seems. lol I take medicines to sleep and never quite feel right the next day or whenever I get up.

It sure is nice to have people to talk to. I've been looking for a forum and all you guys are great here.

Now where did that Huggles go to.

Sincerely, Tapero

 

[tapero]

2 Corinthians 12:9
And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

All we can do is rest on God's promises that allthough we are weak yet he is strong in us and that he will use us mightly for his kingdom.

Last year when I was still dong prison ministry I would pick up a lady and take her to the prison to see the inmates. I would do this only when Mel coundn't pick her up and she wouldn't miss a chance to go even though she was 96 years old and had to have a walker and a wheelchair to get her to the chapel. The guys adored their "mother" and would flock around the piano when she player the old hymns.

God bless her..............................


.

Radidio, that was just awesome. What a blessing! Tapero

 

[tapero]

Hi all you HB
(Home Bodies,not making light of it)

Good to see everyone coming together and shearing.
Sorry to hear bout the pain everyone has gone through.

I also have been on disability for 6 yrs now.

radidio,I can relate to your last post.
My pain is on the inside also.I look healthy from the outside.

I was told by my Dr. that what I have is fibromyalgia/fatigue syndrom.
Attacks the muscles.
When I over do things or stress it can get painful.
I have learned how to pase myself also.

I thank God for CF and other christian site I go to.

Love all you guys thanks for being a part of my beautiful day.

God favor you all with super great caring friends.

I just want to give you hope with the fibromyalgia. I had it for years and it's gone now. There was times it was so painful I was in tears, but it's gone, Praise God.

Mine started after an injury at aerobics. I can see why you have to pace yourself and not get stressed. The doctor said it like lays dormant and then gets triggered by stress, and so that's how I got it.

I'm so glad you wrote. I hope you feel well today.

God bless you, Tapero

 

[angelwind]

thats cool Radidio..
I don't take Meds for it either.
I do alot of stretch exercise,drink lots of water,
and veggies.Most of all think and talk positive,its importent.

The spiritual part in my life plays a huge role in my recovery.

I think..."think" and "talk" positive is very good medicine for the soul and body...agreeing with God and His word, even if circumstances scream the opposite some days...I opened the self pity door a few days ago and wow...I can barely get it closed...maybe getting closer tho.

 

[angelwind]

Hi, Yes, I can imagine being more sympathetic to people who are ill and such. If I ever get outside, among the people (yikes) I will see in retrospect what I've gained from the experience of staying in.

I'm glad your husband is understanding of the problems you have; that helps a lot to have that. God bless him.

I'm pretty down tonight, because I slept so much. Takes a long time for my body to awaken it seems. lol I take medicines to sleep and never quite feel right the next day or whenever I get up.

It sure is nice to have people to talk to. I've been looking for a forum and all you guys are great here.

Now where did that Huggles go to.

Sincerely, Tapero

I am really glad you started this thread...it is a good place to share the hurts and the goods...LOL

 

[angelwind]

I just want to give you hope with the fibromyalgia. I had it for years and it's gone now. There was times it was so painful I was in tears, but it's gone, Praise God.

Mine started after an injury at aerobics. I can see why you have to pace yourself and not get stressed. The doctor said it like lays dormant and then gets triggered by stress, and so that's how I got it.

I'm so glad you wrote. I hope you feel well today.

God bless you, Tapero

This gives me hope...you say your FB is gone...

 

[sk8Joyful]

Hi,
Yes, I can imagine being more sympathetic to people who are ill and such. If I ever get outside, among the people, I will see in retrospect what I've gained from the experience of staying in.
It sure is nice to have people to talk to. I've been looking for a forum and all you guys are great here.

Sincerely, Tapero

Hi Tapero

Actually, do you know that when *you* will go back out, to help others, you'll have your empathy to share, as the Lord directs you wisely.
(as opposed to "sympathy" which only can say "sorry about that" but little else). But with *empathy*, you can eye someone, and in all sincerity say "Been there, done that".
And of course, you'll know you've got a smart student in front of you, when said person next asks: "What do you mean by "been there, DONE that"? - you make it sound like I was in a fix, in which I had choices??" - and you can eye them again, and say: "Well yes, you don't think we all can just heal ourselves,
without God's Divine Interventions, right? - See,
God's already DONE it for us, individually already - so it was just me Allowing CHANGE/healing inside my *inner part*.. And I can guide, and teach you how , too" Time, for celebrating, again - the more, the merrier!!

Now supposing, this other person is not-yet, a *Christian* - well, in case they're additionally ready for that and want to CHANGE/have Jesus heal their soul, well - as a Christian, you know how to help them with this also, right? ~ oh YES!!, you see this is what Jesus referred to when He said: "Come, follow me - and I will make of you, fishers of men". Talk about CELEBRATING!!, eh - Go get 'em, Sistah!
~~~
For starters tho -
you also said: "I'm pretty down tonight, because I slept so much. Takes a long time for my body to awaken it seems. lol I take medicines to sleep and never quite feel right the next day or whenever I get up."

Now, supposing the roles were reversed here, meaning I were to come to you, repeating those same words - and you are well. AND you are really intently listening, because you really, as you say "sincerely" want to help me... which I believe you are, yes?

Well, you might place that in sequential-order for me, for that chain of behavioral-strategies, like backwards: " I take medicines to sleep, and never quite feel right the next day or whenever I get up. Takes a long time for my body to awaken it seems. I'm pretty down tonight, because I slept so much."

Notice, if you will, what is the very first word now? - It's > "I" <, yes? - so, right away, you can see just how much choice you do, in fact, have. For instance, you can explore with your Medical-doctor, or by yourself should you want, any number of options that do allow you to Awaken feeling better the next day - just by making one simple change, physically.

Oh yes, I know - I left out your expression of "lol" - but I thought, I'd save some of the best for last.. Nottin' like starting to feel better, already - because you now have a greater glimmer of self-empowering Hopefulness, lol

Such, and much more, are some of the few Faithful ways that I used - for Allowing myself to Heal from "acute lymphocytic Leukemia" in 1982 (after docs gave me less than 7 months to live, and my own family totally abandoned me, leaving just little orphan-Annie me, and Jesus ~
and yet,
at about age 50 - with me never having laced-up a pair of skating boots in my life before, here I am today at the youthful-age of 55, with a God-blest Coach, learning how to *Figure...skate*, and
having the time! of my life... yeah, it's taken me a couple years, to pass the first 2 of my tests on the Ice, but I'm here to tell you, God willing, after passing the next 3 more tests, I will graduate as a *Free-style* skater, because this means I can go skate at 6AM, when I'll have the entire rink almost to myself for practicing JUMP ing, LOL - oh, can you tell yet just how *passionate* I am

Now why would I lead you here, pray tell - Well, I'll let you in on another little secret. It ain't my passion that's important, for you. It's **Christ's plus your own passion, Tapiro** whatever you choose. Yeah,
these 2 - when matched/paired, equal THE "Winning Ticket". So, repeating "Go get 'em, Sistah!"

Sincerely, I do wish you *Well* ~ with Love, Annie

 

[AngelDove1]

I just want to give you hope with the fibromyalgia. I had it for years and it's gone now. There was times it was so painful I was in tears, but it's gone, Praise God.

Mine started after an injury at aerobics. I can see why you have to pace yourself and not get stressed. The doctor said it like lays dormant and then gets triggered by stress, and so that's how I got it.

I'm so glad you wrote. I hope you feel well today.

God bless you, Tapero

Hi tepero,
Thank you for the nice note.
I'm doing much better 2day.

I was under stress at work.I was a manager
and had 10 ppl under me.And when things went wrong...
well I'd get all kinds of phone calls all hours of the night.
Not enough sleep and rest.

After 2 yrs of this.....
finally my Dr.insisted I quit work.

God bless you all
Have a super blessed wkend

 

[AngelDove1]

I think..."think" and "talk" positive is very good medicine for the soul and body...agreeing with God and His word, even if circumstances scream the opposite some days...I opened the self pity door a few days ago and wow...I can barely get it closed...maybe getting closer tho.

hey angelwind....
Thx for your reply....greatly appriciate.

Well I know what you mean...not being able to close that door.
One of my prayer every morning is...God take my heart and my mind.
And don't let anything happen 2day that You and I can't handle.


I find when this committe of negative trys to control my mind.
I am awear of it.....
So then I take that old tape out.
And repalce it with an Attitude of Graditude tape.The mind...
(as Joyce Meyer's puts it in her book "Battlefield of the Mind,
great book by the way) its all in out head. We ...
if we try real hard, can control that. I'm prof of that.
Its not easy for some....but it can be done.

We have so much to be greatful for...

I look at all the other positive Blessing God has granted me with.
And low and behold.....I'm back to thinking healthy.

God bless you

 

[AngelDove1]

sh8joyful....
God bless you

 

[sk8Joyful]

sk8joyful....
God bless you

Aww, THANK YOU!!

On Wed (less than 3 days ago), I fell ill , from some nasty bug! -
Really,
1. I had a fever of 102+ ... (thank Goodness! God programmed my *subconscious MIND* into knowing how to raise it's body-temperature just high enough, to make for an inhabitable-environment for
unwelcome invading bacterias & virii, etc.
and
2. as I went to up-chuck, I started to faint. But wait! - I just laid on the floor - and said, "No, you can choose to change this behavioral-Strategy right now"; and before I knew it - I had fallen into a sleep, and (yes,
I had to cancel one day's work, but worse! 2 of my Skating-lessons this week, boo hoo)

Yet,

Ta-da! - Today I'm back, good as *NEW*

PRAISE GOD, *each! & every! day*

Annie

 

[AngelDove1]

Praise God...

Aww, THANK YOU!!

On Wed (less than 3 days ago), I fell ill , from some nasty bug! -
Really,
1. I had a fever of 102+ ... (thank Goodness! God programmed my *subconscious MIND* into knowing how to raise it's body-temperature just high enough, to make for an inhabitable-environment for
unwelcome invading bacterias & virii, etc.
and
2. as I went to up-chuck, I started to faint. But wait! - I just laid on the floor - and said, "No, you can choose to change this strategy right now"; and before I knew it - I had fallen into a sleep, and (yes,
I had to cancel one day's work, but worse! 2 of my Skating-lessons this week, boo hoo)

Yet,

Ta-da! - Today I'm back, good as *NEW*

PRAISE GOD, *each! & every! day*

Annie

 

[flaglady]

That was wonderful, sk8! It's really great how God can use such a simple thing as sleep to heal. Do hope you're feeling lots better now.

I had a wonderful day as well. My friend and I did a workshop at a little church nearby. There was only three adults and seven children 4-12, but you know what? Every time I've done a workshop, God's sent me exactly the right number of people for the space available!! Never fails!

When I went into the church I was hobbling like an old crock but as soon as things got underway, I was leaping around like a teenager! And when the afternoon was done, I was back to hobbling and leaning on my walking stick! Aint God grand?!

 

[sk8Joyful]

That was wonderful, sk8!

It's really great how God can use such a simple thing as sleep to heal. Do hope you're feeling lots better now.

Thank! you, Flaglady!

And yes, with the exception of missing my 2 Ice-lessons, I am at about 90% of my usual bouncy TIGGER (from Winnie-the-pooh) self again. boing ...,
Boing! ...
Yes, this can be cross-contextualized into what is known as a figure-skating "bunny-Hop": http://sd.essortment.com/figureskatingj_rgnm.htm . Oh, but this ain't the right place to post this, now is it ~ roflol

(Will you let me create *a new thread* on it - pretty please? )

I had a wonderful day as well. My friend and I did a workshop at a little church nearby. There was only three adults and seven children 4-12, but you know what? Every time I've done a workshop, God's sent me exactly the right number of people for the space available!! Never fails!

That's right: God never fails ~ in fact, *GOD always succeeds*, and ya gotta admit, this last way of puttin' it, does sound happier, & more sure - eh?

A "Workshop", eh - in what?, for *Creating wonderful Flags*, like you are an expert in doing Can you insert photos in here, of your FLAGS, I'm sure that will cheer-up the OP too. I'd enjoy seeing them, as well - Yes Siree!

When I went into the church I was hobbling like an old crock, but as soon as things got underway, I was leaping around like a teenager!

Aint God grand?!

Of course, GOD is grand! ! - Full agreement!! on that score.

And what about you, - as a 60+ (chronological) woman, " leaping around like a teenager! ", obviously,
you can choose to remember quite Well, how to do this, eh?

(And when the afternoon was done, I was back to hobbling and leaning on my walking stick!)

No, wait just a minute! - re your last paragraph. That made no Good-sense.

(But hey, I know the feeling. I be out there on the ICE (tho getting better during my lessons with my Coach, as I am increasingly just being BRAVE in the attempt); but practicing alone, too often hang back, suffering from that (more/less terminal condition called F .U .D = fear, uncertainty, doubt) . And I don't even bother asking my Coach anymore: "Tell me, WHY is it that 1/2 the time, I can skate this (whatever) move just fine, no challenge at all - and then, outa the blue, I can't seem to skate this dumb thing to save my life. WHY?" -

I won't ask my Coach that question anymore. Got tired of her embarassing me, pointing her finger at her head, with "Annie, you know *Know FULL WELL this is all in your head *" So, the only question remains: "How ready am I to redeem myself, Now?" ~ (sigh, what is a Coach for, grrr! ) ~ and so, I'd rather just GO... FOR it, to begin with.


Well, you know Flaglady - it's a strange thing but obviously, as you just again proved to yourself today, YOU CAN " leap around like a teenager! " (so, no need to fall back to acting handicapped.) - So for now, here's this thought: What would you like to *change-Inside*, such it translates... into your outer reality, like you might want - in other Contexts... in your life. Yeah, where might this success be headed..., Flaglady?

Thank you for sharing with me, again, and allowing me to share with your again, too!

Sincerely , I wish you *well* too ~ Love, Annie

 

[homebound1]

I'm so glad I found this forum! My name is Joanne, I'm 56, and I'm 'physically challenged'. As my name says, I'm pretty much homebound due to my disability. My right leg is partially paralyzed as a result of nerve damage from a ruptured lumbar disc. I also have a badly broken right ankle which isn't healing. The doctors tell me that I need fusion surgery, and I could possibly lose my right lower leg, but I'm believing the LORD for a miracle! I'm married (30 years in Sept!), and have a 20 y.o. son who's presently serving time in prison partly because of a tool of satan called 'crystal meth'. He's going to church, and I'm trusting God for him too!

Sorry to go on so long I'll be back soon!

P.S. I'm 9 years old in the LORD today!

 

[tapero]

I'm so glad I found this forum! My name is Joanne, I'm 56, and I'm 'physically challenged'. As my name says, I'm pretty much homebound due to my disability. My right leg is partially paralyzed as a result of nerve damage from a ruptured lumbar disc. I also have a badly broken right ankle which isn't healing. The doctors tell me that I need fusion surgery, and I could possibly lose my right lower leg, but I'm believing the LORD for a miracle! I'm married (30 years in Sept!), and have a 20 y.o. son who's presently serving time in prison partly because of a tool of satan called 'crystal meth'. He's going to church, and I'm trusting God for him too!

Sorry to go on so long I'll be back soon!

P.S. I'm 9 years old in the LORD today!

Happy Birthday in the Lord Joanne. That is so neat! I'm so glad you're son is going to church and I pray he would turn away from the meth once and for all. I'm so glad you found this site too.

I'm home but mainly for psychological reasons; none physical right now though I used to have some problems I've been healed of the physical and some of the emotional.

I trust that you aren't in pain and am just so glad you wrote. I'm on all hours so you can write to me whenever you like. I am 51 and quite the loner.

Well, I'm glad you wrote. Take care, Tapero

 

[angelwind]

hey angelwind....
Thx for your reply....greatly appriciate.

Well I know what you mean...not being able to close that door.
One of my prayer every morning is...God take my heart and my mind.
And don't let anything happen 2day that You and I can't handle.


I find when this committe of negative trys to control my mind.
I am awear of it.....
So then I take that old tape out.
And repalce it with an Attitude of Graditude tape.The mind...
(as Joyce Meyer's puts it in her book "Battlefield of the Mind,
great book by the way) its all in out head. We ...
if we try real hard, can control that. I'm prof of that.
Its not easy for some....but it can be done.

We have so much to be greatful for...

I look at all the other positive Blessing God has granted me with.
And low and behold.....I'm back to thinking healthy.

God bless you

I do believe there is a huge battle for the mind...just keep working on it...my mind...LOL...trying to meditate on the word more and more...

 

[angelwind]

I'm so glad I found this forum! My name is Joanne, I'm 56, and I'm 'physically challenged'. As my name says, I'm pretty much homebound due to my disability. My right leg is partially paralyzed as a result of nerve damage from a ruptured lumbar disc. I also have a badly broken right ankle which isn't healing. The doctors tell me that I need fusion surgery, and I could possibly lose my right lower leg, but I'm believing the LORD for a miracle! I'm married (30 years in Sept!), and have a 20 y.o. son who's presently serving time in prison partly because of a tool of satan called 'crystal meth'. He's going to church, and I'm trusting God for him too!

Sorry to go on so long I'll be back soon!

P.S. I'm 9 years old in the LORD today!

Hugs for you homebound...

 

[pboop]

Hi, I wish there was a lonely forum on the board, so I thought I'd start a thread. Not to be depressing but just to share. lol

I'm 51 home all the time on disability and it gets pretty lonely. Not many people to call on the phone, know only a few in the area. Sleep a lot. That sort of thing.

I hang out at CF most of the time. Otherwise I'm on biblegateway.com. I don't have hobbies, and the tv is boring. lol so anyway, that's my contributon to the lonely club. Oh and someone here made that beautiful butterfly for me. What talent.

Hello Tapero I too felt lonely but it was after being abandoned by my spouse once I found this place I truly felt a lot better. Since I was welcomed let me say: Welcome and God bless you. You're gonna' love it here.