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The Forgotten few

songz777

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There are many folks today, who are the forgotten few as regards being single.
It seems that we dont have that "instant appeal" as regards looks. At school I was usally the near last to be picked for sports, and when I went to dances no one ever picked me lol I was the one who had to almost beg someone to dance with me! Im not griping here, just building the picture.
But what encourages me is that the Forgotten or seemingly less blest few always turn out to be the very blest in Gods eyes. You see Abraham, Elizebeth, Hannah, Joseph, and others were the forgotten few. Everyone else was having their prayers answered and God seemed to really care about them, and answered prayers at a drop of a hat. But these folks prayed with deep crying and tears may be for years, through so much sorrow and trial. Isaac to, well he had to wait till he was 40 beofre his dad decided to get a move on and arrange a wife for him. How he must have felt one the forgotten few.
But the point I am getting at is that the seemingingly forgotten few always become the mightly blest few, why? Coz there waiting caused suffering, suffering produced prayer, prayer moulded their character and God used them in a greater way than there neigbours who had there needs met far earlier.

Good looking men and woman stand a far greater chance humanly of finding a spouse very early on, but to find a man or woman of charcter will not be so easily found. I once though I needed to find someone attractive but now I see their character as a far greater and important issue.

Let me meet one of the Forgotten ones, for I know that with her character will be beauty and dedication far beyond some of those who are attractive at one glance.

I am so glad that Go didnt make me a good looker, because I probably would have been married now, and my life no where near the close walk with God.

Rejoice you Forgotten ones, your day of JOY grows nearer.:)
 

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songz777 said:
There are many folks today, who are the forgotten few as regards being single.
It seems that we dont have that "instant appeal" as regards looks. At school I was usally the near last to be picked for sports, and when I went to dances no one ever picked me lol I was the one who had to almost beg someone to dance with me! Im not griping here, just building the picture.
But what encourages me is that the Forgotten or seemingly less blest few always turn out to be the very blest in Gods eyes. You see Abraham, Elizebeth, Hannah, Joseph, and others were the forgotten few. Everyone else was having their prayers answered and God seemed to really care about them, and answered prayers at a drop of a hat. But these folks prayed with deep crying and tears may be for years, through so much sorrow and trial. Isaac to, well he had to wait till he was 40 beofre his dad decided to get a move on and arrange a wife for him. How he must have felt one the forgotten few.
But the point I am getting at is that the seemingingly forgotten few always become the mightly blest few, why? Coz there waiting caused suffering, suffering produced prayer, prayer moulded their character and God used them in a greater way than there neigbours who had there needs met far earlier.

Good looking men and woman stand a far greater chance humanly of finding a spouse very early on, but to find a man or woman of charcter will not be so easily found. I once though I needed to find someone attractive but now I see their character as a far greater and important issue.

Let me meet one of the Forgotten ones, for I know that with her character will be beauty and dedication far beyond some of those who are attractive at one glance.

I am so glad that Go didnt make me a good looker, because I probably would have been married now, and my life no where near the close walk with God.



Rejoice you Forgotten ones, your day of JOY grows nearer.:)


Awesome stuff songs777, so where's your published book at again?(j/k). I agree though patience and relying on the Lord to provide will always yield far better fruit.
 
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Thanks brov..I dont know what to do really. ive been considering setting up a web site just to encourage singles who suffer and hurt as I have done. But I will need lots of confirmation from the Lord before I enbark on such a task. Take care John
 
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Your posts are always good Songz
You sound a bit hard on yourself though I am bet you are not that unattractive although the devil will tell you otherwise!!!
I am sure that your future wife will find you attractive. Sometimes God allows things and even the waiting of a spouse to teach us things and to mould us and change us. We are not of this world but live in this world as Christians and maybe God doesnt want you to focus on looks yourself. Can you imagine if we all married our future spouses based on their good looks and then they had an accident and their faces were disfigured etc. Looks can be a very shallow basis to judge a person on but I know that Christian men do often base so much on looks.Women tend not to do this and really look more for the persons character.True love may be hard to find but I am sure that our God is more than able to bring a wife to you who will love the real you and not just the body suit which God has housed your spirit in!!!!
Keep cheerful!
 
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I am not trying to brag, but I have learned this at about 16 years of age becasue I saw how in high school people would be with you for two weeks, than it was done with (young teens, go figure). I also saw that these relationships were just plain stupid. There was even a fight between two girls with dozens of people cheering them on "Fight, fight, fight!". The fight was about a boy they both wanted.

There was a saying I once heard (I don't remember the original at all), and I put a little twist on it. "If you only accept the best, for as rare as it is, then you will receive only the best." I will let the special person come to me like it was done in my grandparent's generation instead of running after people. I am not totally desperate to be married. It could be good, but I am not at that bridge so I can't say just yet.
 
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As always Jon you are great and keep up the good work. I am sure that the Lord wants you to rely on Him as well as has that perfect and Christ-like wife for you if you put your faith in Him 100%!
 
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