Will this ever end?
This sorry, misguided perspection of homosexual "immorality" has gotten tiresome. In fact the whole perspection of "societies morals" going astray is stupid. You are society. I am society. We need to stop looking at others as the "them", as the "heathen, sexual agenda, taking christianity out of society, bra burning, starbucks drinking, inappropriate content dealing, pedophile them" for it is simply unrealistic. There are no secret societies out there saying "god, I want the world to be messed up for my kids." No. It's fantasy and it's delusion, so quit thinking that way first. No gay couple worrying about family and employer reactions to coming out are saying "how can we corrupt children?". Doesn't happen. You want to look for the reason behind the "downfall of society"? Look in the mirror.
We as a whole, as a huge group of people from all backgrounds, faiths, cultures...of all different ages from all different types of lives have made society what it is. You complain about it. When is the last time you did anything about it? I'm in about fourteen different letter writing activist campaigns. I get letters from Debbie Stabinow weekly. I march for things I believe in and work with agencies that I think make a difference. Is it enough? No. But to stand back and blame something for the downfall of marriage or any other institution, or morals is just foolish.
Marriage is crumbling because we in society, you and me, we've allowed our media to show us our guilty pleasures - sex, violence, murder, betrayal. Media isn't to blame, they are just trying to make a buck, but we the viewers haven't stood up en masse and said "this is disgusting! you're desensitixing us!". People watch those images of frequent hookups and marital bliss, as well as acceptable indifelity and think "this is what life is, ok". We have allowed ourselves in society to become naive. Don't know about you but "marriage planning" in my book was playing house in Mom's high heels when I was five. Marriage is a wreck because people go into it with naive expectations of romance movie bliss - life will forever be kissing on a beach at sunset. Untrue. You want to combat this? Then quit wasting time pointing fingers and start educating yourself. Pre-marriage counseling, excellent idea. Maybe ought to be mandatory. Maybe funds to assist a married couple in the tasks of child raising, allowing spouses to take time off for building families or working on their marriage.
Furthermore, it is unfair to blame "society" for the destruction of a marriage. Things in society could have contributed, yes, definately...but it is the individuals themselves who have thrown up their hands because they are no longer satisfied, because it's a rough patch, because they rushed it with naive assumptions, because they've never learned effective communication or because they are just too selfish. It is silly to blame the legalizing of homosexuality for my personal choice to have an affair. On a small level if my promiscuous friend who happens to be gay encourages it, then maybe...but on a whole level, no. Divorce rates are/were high in many areas before gay marriage was allowed. It's still illegal here until May and divorce rates are 50%. Obviously the problem is individuals and their expectation of marriage...and perhaps there are social contributors to that, but to say "society" as if it was seperate from yourself is to blame is naive.
(Not directed at any one person)
Ivy
(who is done ranting now)