So are the elect like that group of people at the prayer meeting who decide who's saved and who's not? I Mean, how do they know who isn't saved? Did they vote? Sometimes saved people appear on the list and it is confusing.
Election is a mystery. No human believer can dictate who is elected and who isn't. Only God has that power and authority. Any person who says to anyone else that they are not elected is speaking from a demonic lying spirit.
I think people get the cart before the horse in this matter.
The Bible contains many promises so that any person taking hold of them can be assured that God will keep His promise to them. "Come let us reason together, though your sins be as scarlet they will be as white as snow". A person taking this promise to heart will have discussions with God, get right with Him and know that his sins are all forgiven.
"The one who comes to me I will in no wise cast out". This means that a person who turns to Christ, will not have Jesus say to him, "You are not elected so I am casting you out".
"Those who receive Christ, God gives them the power to become sons of God", means that the person who takes this promise to heart and receives Christ becomes a child of God. God will never say to such a person, "You are not elected, therefore you cannot be a child of mine."
So, this is Scriptural proof that the person who takes hold of God's promises will not fail to enter the kingdom of God. The Scripture says that "the promises of God are yes and amen". When God gives the nod, He is not being two-faced. "Amen" means, "so let it be". That promises is emphasized twice, and when God says the same thing twice, then we can know that the promise is carved in bronze and will never be annulled.
This is the mystery of election: When a sinner takes hold of the promise of God and turns to Christ and is converted, he or she then realises that he or she is one of the elect.
So, what is to be done? Take hold of God's promises first, accept His invitation to turn to Christ, and then consider your election afterward.