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If a girl refuses to go out for coffee, sorry, thats not much a guy can do about that. She just wont go.
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Okay you clearly have no understanding of American culture because whatever a coffee shop is to New Zealanders, they are highly industrious places in America. Do you even know what the term "lady of leisure" means? You're essentially calling any woman who goes to one a prostitute.
I don't know if you have some social issues or other problems that need to be sorted out, but your characterization of what's normal is highly irrational and your posts border on the nonsensical.
Here's the facts: you're on a forum where the overwhelming majority of people (including males) are American. That means our responses to your questions may not fit into your preconceived notions of cultural paradigms. Does that compute to you? Americans go to coffee for first dates. No adult with any concept of reality is going to be found at a dance, much less meet someone there and whisk her off her feet right away. This isn't Cinderella. This is an 18+ forum so that means nobody is going to be in high school where dances are a normal occurrence. We're adults, we meet each other in adult situations and we engage each other in adult contexts. That means coffee. That means drinks. That means—if the relationship progresses far enough—more engaging dates like dinner, walks, plays, concerts, etc.
If that's not how they do things in New Zealand, fine, nobody here is criticizing your culture. So stop with the priggish attitude towards ours.
It's not just American culture. I'm South African, and everything you've written is equally applicable here.
(Greetings from the U.S., by the way - I don't think I've seen you around before)
Gosh all this time after church and ive been having cups of tea and a scone afterward, i didnt realise I was dating!
Coffee sounds like a date!So, just to be clear….. you don't think coffee is a real date?
I've seen guys try...it was creepy.No adult with any concept of reality is going to be found at a dance, much less meet someone there and whisk her off her feet right away.
Actually, you asked for her opinion by starting a thread in a board where she's allowed to post. If you only want to see responses from men, start a group chat with them.Miss spaulding you are not a guy so please dont post in this thread. I didnt really ask for your opinion or your thoughts on logic. Sorry. Start your own thread and cafe if you just wanna chat and socialize.
What if he took you to Wicked Grounds? It's a coffee shop in San Francisco.If I remember most dates ive been on are movies, or a walk. Or dinner. One time it was lunch.
Never breakfast.
Never coffee, or if it was i didnt realise it was meant to be a date.
I've seen guys try...it was creepy.
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