Strategy Game

[blackribbon]

At what point do we have to determine if we are interested? For me, this has never been a up-front decision because I haven't ever dated anyone based on looks. And if I'm not sure how I feel, I might hang around a little bit longer to give him the benefit of the doubt....is that sadistic and cruel?

(I'll never make a decision, unless it is a definite "no", in ONLY three weeks because it took me over 4 months to realize that I was interested in my husband...and a bunch of years, to realize that maybe we weren't too different for me to risk marrying him. I never mislead him...he just kept showing up in my life knowing that I'd eventually change my mind.)

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

See that's the thing too, "some" men are relentless and women know this, so it's easier to just give them a number than to try to tell them she is not interested. Although IF I did that, I would just give a wrong number . And in this day and age, we don't know when someone is going to go all stalker on us or postal, so we women have to proceed with caution. Sorry exit

 

[blackribbon]

My college roommate would just give out "her" number because some guys wouldn't quit bothering her until they got the number (or else considered her 'stuck up'). She solved the problem. She gave out Pizza Hut's delivery number. They left her alone finally and they got the message.

(They didn't even back off when she said she had a boyfriend. If he wasn't at the same party, they didn't believe her. Some guys just won't take "no". )

 

[exitstageright]

See that's the thing too, "some" men are relentless and women know this, so it's easier to just give them a number than to try to tell them she is not interested. Although IF I did that, I would just give a wrong number . And in this day and age, we don't know when someone is going to go all stalker on us or postal, so we women have to proceed with caution. Sorry exit

By the way,giving out a FALSE number is LYING,and GOD HATES LIARS!

But...but...I do not have a reputation of hurting women.Why,why do I
have to pay for the sins of OTHER men?

Besides FEAR comes from Satan,and not from GOD. Do you remember 2 Timothy 1:7?

"For GOD has not given us a spirit of fear;but of power,and of love,and of a SOUND mind."

 

[exitstageright]

My college roommate would just give out "her" number because some guys wouldn't quit bothering her until they got the number (or else considered her 'stuck up'). She solved the problem. She gave out Pizza Hut's delivery number. They left her alone finally and they got the message.

(They didn't even back off when she said she had a boyfriend. If he wasn't at the same party, they didn't believe her. Some guys just won't take "no". )

Do you rember what they taught us in Elementary School?

"If at first you DON'T succeed,TRY,TRY,again." In my life,this motto has worked. "Persisitence Pays OFF" If I were not persistent,I would not have become successful.

 

[blackribbon]

She was NOT available...said so up front...and the guys still wouldn't lay off.

In this case, a persistence is not good. At the minimum, it is annoying. At the worst case, it is almost stalking. Either way, it prevented her from having a good time.

I would never give a stranger my phone number or address unless there was a valid reason...the house number can be traced to an address with very little effort...and I limit who gets my cell number because I don't want it ringing all day. I don't even tell people who I know casually what street I live on most of the time unless I have invited them over. I just tell the general area.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

exit, contrary to popular belief, woman are human beings and cannot be "won" with persistence alone. Unlike your degree or your job (which does NOT have a soul or heart BTW), sometimes there just is no attraction and all the persistance in the world will not change the fact that those women will never be attracted to you.
How's that working for you?

Change your behavior and you might change the outcome. Otherwise continue on as you have been, and you will keep getting the same results. My observation alone.

 

[blackribbon]

But...but...I do not have a reputation of hurting women.Why,why do I
have to pay for the sins of OTHER men?

For the same reason, you don't trust women in general.

 

[blackribbon]

Besides FEAR comes from Satan,and not from GOD. Do you remember 2 Timothy 1:7?

"For GOD has not given us a spirit of fear;but of power,and of love,and of a SOUND mind."

God does not call us to twist His words. The next verse is about telling others about Christ...so this is telling us not to fear spreading His Word. (He also didn't promise those who did spread The Word that their life would be easy and painfree...)

There are appropriate times for fear...like a child should have a healthy fear of the stove....and an adult ought to fear the consequences of driving drunk. It keeps us safe.

 

[exitstageright]

exit, contrary to popular belief, woman are human beings and cannot be "won" with persistence alone. Unlike your degree or your job (which does NOT have a soul or heart BTW), sometimes there just is no attraction and all the persistance in the world will not change the fact that those women will never be attracted to you.
How's that working for you?

Change your behavior and you might change the outcome. Otherwise continue on as you have been, and you will keep getting the same results. My observation alone.

When I was living and working in Hawaii,one co-worker told me that she,at first did not like her husband,when she first met him. I asked her,"What changed your mind about him? She told me,"Well....He just WOULD NOT leave me alone! He would just not leave me alone.So...I just gave into him,and I am GLAD that I did give in to him."

So....persistance CAN work. The proof is in the pudding.

 

[exitstageright]

God does not call us to twist His words. The next verse is about telling others about Christ...so this is telling us not to fear spreading His Word. (He also didn't promise those who did spread The Word that their life would be easy and painfree...)

There are appropriate times for fear...like a child should have a healthy fear of the stove....and an adult ought to fear the consequences of driving drunk. It keeps us safe.

So... I should not repeat that verse when I am driving on a bridge? I NOW have a fear of driving on bridges, more on that later.

 

[blackribbon]

So... I should not repeat that verse when I am driving on a bridge? I NOW have a fear of driving on bridges, more on that later.

I'd say that depends on the bridge and your driving ability.

However, the stove stands a really good chance of burning a child...the drunk stands a good chance of harming someone or him/herself. The bridge...well, the bridge stands a pretty good chance of staying put and if you tend to keep your car ON the road while driving, then your car stands a really good chance of staying ON the bridge. I'm not sure that it is really "stepping out in faith" to drive across most bridges.

 

[exitstageright]

I'd say that depends on the bridge and your driving ability.

However, the stove stands a really good chance of burning a child...the drunk stands a good chance of harming someone or him/herself. The bridge...well, the bridge stands a pretty good chance of staying put and if you tend to keep your car ON the road while driving, then your car stands a really good chance of staying ON the bridge. I'm not sure that it is really "stepping out in faith" to drive across most bridges.

Well, in the San francisco Bay Area,there are six major bridges. After I had a tire blow out,I have been unable to drive on the San Mateo Bride.(Please see my new thread "A Premoniton OR An Eerie Coincidence? )
I now have Gephyrophobia-an intense fear of bridges.

 

[exitstageright]

God does not call us to twist His words. The next verse is about telling others about Christ...so this is telling us not to fear spreading His Word. (He also didn't promise those who did spread The Word that their life would be easy and painfree...)

There are appropriate times for fear...like a child should have a healthy fear of the stove....and an adult ought to fear the consequences of driving drunk. It keeps us safe.

Well,your fear of a STANGE man sexually assulting you is just as REAL as my fear of a STRANGE woman ripping me off. Some women have put knock out drugs in a man's drink,in order to rob him. That is why a DO not accept drinks from strange women.

 

[blackribbon]

I am not afraid of being sexually assault.

I am actually being a good mother and protecting my children.

Also, I am not stupid. Inviting strangers to your home doesn't rank up there with the most brilliant choices out there.

And, I'm not sure why a stranger needs to know where I live or be in my home. This is our private space. If I want to get to know someone, there are plenty of public places that are more appropriate.

 

[exitstageright]

I am not afraid of being sexually assault.

I am actually being a good mother and protecting my children.

Also, I am not stupid. Inviting strangers to your home doesn't rank up there with the most brilliant choices out there.

And, I'm not sure why a stranger needs to know where I live or be in my home. This is our private space. If I want to get to know someone, there are plenty of public places that are more appropriate.

You are correct. I usually meet a strange woman,from an on-line date,or someone that I met at a social function, at a coffee shop.

 

[exitstageright]

exit, contrary to popular belief, woman are human beings and cannot be "won" with persistence alone. Unlike your degree or your job (which does NOT have a soul or heart BTW), sometimes there just is no attraction and all the persistance in the world will not change the fact that those women will never be attracted to you.
How's that working for you?

Change your behavior and you might change the outcome. Otherwise continue on as you have been, and you will keep getting the same results. My observation alone.

Well,some of these women do not ACT like human beings,when they are treating ME! I might as well be an alien to them.

 

[blackribbon]

Well,some of these women do not ACT like human beings,when they are treating ME! I might as well be an alien to them.

If they treat you badly, why would you want to attract them...further more, waste any time pursuing them?

 

[blackribbon]

I changed my mind. It doesn't matter why.

Can anyone tell me how to delete a post that you made? I haven't been able to find that function on this forum.

 

[exitstageright]

If they treat you badly, why would you want to attract them...further more, waste any time pursuing them?

Not all women have treated me badly. I just want to attract the women who have a lot going for themselves.