MilesVitae
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Would it be advisable for you to, at least for a time, go to your church less frequently? Every other week, perhaps, rather than every Sunday, due to the issues there, the time commitment, the effects on your family life, and the contribution this is having on your burn out?
Thanks, Antony. It's very frustrating. Right now I just feel like Orthodoxy is bad for me. I've gained weight from it, feet hurt from it, I'm tired because of it, high mileage on my car from it, frustrated socially from it, disappointed a lot, and not feeling blessed from it. When I have to starve myself in the morning, by lunch I'm ravenous and eat like a maniac. The coffee hour is nothing but junkfood. I've watched each and EVERY person I've known since I joined get fatter! I've seen converts in their twenties start decent to slim and in a matter of 1-2 years they're portly and look like sumos. It's nuts. The length is hard. I get fried and just tired of it all, finding myself wishing it would hurry up and end. Then we have to get up so early to be ready in time to get clear up there. Afterward, coffee hour then a couple other things, we get home like 2:30 or 3:00!!! We're so exhausted that we take a nap. Wake up, day's practically over. House is a mess from being gone so long, or the option is to have to work our butts off to clean it Saturday pooping away our day off then. Dishes pile up, mileage on the car racks up (I've never ever ever put more than 40,000 miles on a vehicle in my whole life. I'm currently 107,000 on my Mazda!!!!). My kids don't get to have any fun most Sundays. Their whole day is spent up there.
The deacon's "chanting" is not chanting at all. It's YELLING. Imagine a football coach losing a game belting out a massive bunch of calls to his players way out in the field, and that's our deacon. He is monotone, shouts, and sounds like a British air raid siren from WWII. It's absolutely positively B-R-U-T-A-L. I mean BRUTAL! My kids react to it. My wife winces. I wince. Those surrounding us squint and wince and raise a cheek to their eye. It's awful. And he's taking over the church. Now his TEENAGE DAUGHTER is running the nativity play! It's absolutely nuts.
Yesterday I got an envelop in the mail from church. What was it? A BILL!?! Apparently we're $200 under where we should be at this point in our pledge. My wife are paying off debt that started a year ago at $47,000 (yep, you heard that right!) and we're currently at $20,000! so evidently we vegged a bit and missed $200 somewhere. He billed us!? I've pledged many many times in my life, and never had them call me on a miss and bill me? I think about my priest's $3,000 Mac desktop in his office or his brand new iphones and ipads and new this and new that and can see why he is so concerned I pony up the $$$!
I'm just fed up and in a bad place right now. I went kicking and screaming into Orthodoxy to begin with, with my wife way more keen on it than me. I guess I was trying to contain my kicking there for a while, and from time to time I kick awful hard. Right now I'm have a seizure of "fedupness!"
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