Hi Jay,
I smiled at your depiction of fluffy white rabbits. Of course there has to be order in church. But ~At what point is a line crossed?~
It seems the list is too comprehensive. I'll look for a better one.
The experience I had at a church, was three pastors who deeply hurt someone I care about. It's complicated, but to condense it, the leaders ostracized her because she had attended Catholic school. I hadn't known how anti-Catholic they were, and it confused me. The pastors deeply hurt my friend, without remorse, which puzzled me because Christ's central message is love.
When I questioned the pastors' actions, they told me they were the church leaders, and that God put them in that position. They refused to discuss their decision; it was cut and dry - they held the position and they held the power. They presumed their decisions were inerrant, and the three of them supported each other in this belief (something I noted: there are usually two or more people involved in spiritual abuse who feed off each other. In both times I encountered spiritual abuse, the leaders refused to discuss their decision with other believers, or agree to additional oversight by impartial believers.)
Those pastors basically destroyed my friend's faith - who now refuses to go in any church but a Catholic church, if she goes to any at all. I later read the term for it: spiritual abuse.
Angeltrue
I dont know the details of this church discipleine on your friend.........
But apparently that is the root of the problem that your friend didnt feal accepted because she was cqrholic??
Need to know what the pastos said to her?
Was she asked to leave?
Pastors are pastors of the flock that is their job.....
If they percieve a teaching or visitor that they perciev to be leading people aay from the flock they ar suposed to step in!!!
I am kinda in the dark here but my input is that either her as a person or her teaching was not in accord with their vision and they spoke out on it???
Or they may have spoken against false teaching in the catholic church that she was offended by.....??????
I have taught in public school and now christian school and have had many parents who disagree!!!!
You also had 2-3 dsruptive kids in your sunday school class that some of the parents aparently did not like the way you handled it!!!!!
So you must understand how pastors are trying to protect!
The next time you run into a disagreement with a pastor...
You must have first been praying for him..
Show proper respect for them...1 timothy 5:17
Talk to your husband and stay away from gossip.eph. 4:29
So that you do not stir up discord....proverbs 6:19
Then and only then your must have 2-3 witnesses and sciptures........1 timothy 5:19.
To bring an acusation against a pastor
In some cases it is best f you and your husband go talk to them together, however in this case since she was a personal and you took an offence in a personal way....
It would have been best if you express your concerns to your husband and he and 1-2 other men can get scriptures to talk to the elders in a humble way.........
Leaving a church on bad terms is like a divorce that you cannot move on until you forgive and ask God to bless them.......
From this point on you need to pray and forgive those men less a root of bitterness come in........
Hebrew 12:5 ..many become defiled