We know. I appreciate the obvious turmoil it must cause, unless of course, your wife believes the pope infallible and 4 marian dogmas, in which case perhaps she's really RC. If not, then 'de fide' things must really be a problem. I sincerely hope, and say with all due respect, you figure it out.
It's what the concept led to. I bring it up to press the point----break one little law, you've broken the whole law. What's your solution? Redefine the concept of sin. Where did that lead? Where does it still lead?
There's the horizontal and vertical relationships. We try to keep them in context.
Believe it or not, religion causes no conflict whatsoever in my marriage, perhaps because we relate to each other on the basis of what our faiths hold in common, the center of which is Jesus Christ.
I held back on becoming a Catholic until my wife felt she could support me in that pursuit. That took about six years, until God moved her to do so. But I placed my marriage ahead of what faith tradition I chose to follow, and attended a Protestant Church with her. In that I had the support of the Spiritual Director at the Benedictine Monastery of the Risen Christ.
When I became Catholic, my wife supported me all the way. She attended my Confirmation. Our best "couple" friends are Catholics, and we talk about each others Churches with no conflicts.
Such a good relationship is not suggestive of either her being a closet Catholic or my being a closet Evangelical Christian--or of either of us being anything other than what we profess before God to be.
I personally don't hold the view that Protestants are required to believe in Marian dogmas or the authority of the Pope in order to attain to salvation. Neither is that the current position of the Catholic Church.
I still feel that your bringing up pedophile priests is out of place and gratuitous in this thread. The problem is not connected to our view of sin, which--if you know about Catholicism--includes the vertical element. The process of Confession includes reconciliation of the sinner to God and the community.
Nevertheless, perhaps it is best to address the subject.
Pedophelia is a predatory crime, and all credible complaints need to be investigated by appropriate law enforcement agencies, after which prosecuted in the courts.
If Church staff or even Bishops do not turn these cases in to law enforcement, they can be subject to prosecution.
Currently, children may well be safer in a Catholic Church than other Churches, given the policies that are now in place.
Pedophilia and sexual abuse are not specifically Catholic issues. When I was younger, the youngest daughter of the Pastor of the Protestant Church I attended revealed that he had raped her older sister and attempted to rape her. He attributed it to a curse placed on his family by a witch. The pastor was neither prosecuted nor fired.
We should appropriately attribute these evils to man's fallen nature, and treat crimes as such.
I hope I have adequately addressed these issues. I do so in good faith, assuming the overall sincerity of your intentions, and which I pray to be the case.