Single forever?

[Godcrazy]

First there are very few guys that are on dating sites to hurt women.
Its also well know that a woman meets in a public place and limits the info that will allow him to trace where the woman lives.
Where I live people (in the activities I'm doing) are meeting lots of other people. There is no violence that I'm hearing about.
I see people I know out over and over plus the new people that show up. If a new woman wants to know about someone, others are glad to tell them if there are any bad reports about them. But the worse I've heard is once in a great while someone walks out without paying their bill.

well the therapists the cia and everyone in the know claim that 1 in 25 is a narcissist/psychopath. And that there are coming more and more. That these days we cannot be naive about it anymore that we cannot just think people are good automatically. Because it is too dangerous. When you research the topic you definitely open your eyes for it and see more. Those people count on we do not see. we have to educate ourselves to know what to look for. we are certainly better protected by doing so

 

[Careyap87]

I am in my forties and never been married, or in a long term relationship. Everyone I've wanted never wanted me, and vice versa. The hardest thing is that when I go on dates, I don't fall in love by the third date. Men are expecting to fool around at least, but I don't want that yet. I feel like I would have to get to know a man very well in order to fall in love, and I can't do that with most men because they want instant relationship. I am beginning to think that God wants me to be alone, and it is so sad watching everyone else I know get married.

You're not alone to be sad or single forever. I am almost 40 and I am single as well doesn't bug me at all. Recently just landed my first ever job in my life. I am a production worker at this job I am working at.

 

[DragonFox91]

I think so, although Bible teaches we are betrothed to the Lord.

 

[Godcrazy]

You're not alone to be sad or single forever. I am almost 40 and I am single as well doesn't bug me at all. Recently just landed my first ever job in my life. I am a production worker at this job I am working at.

good for you congrats to the job. I always say any job is good as long as you got money. it is the main thing. It does not matter what one does. what matters is we are able to live. I am in a peculiar situation. I was in the new age spiritual etc for a long time. Met a guy that was and first we lived together, always separate rooms, never anything. Then houses, but same situation. we had a weird spiritual belief about it. Oh he believed, right, just not quite like christianity. Then he turned mentally ill, and an abuser. a narcissist. They are masters in hiding. I was abused without even knowing, only little, the mask came off when I stood up for myself not to be abused. After 15 years he left. because I stood up. so I spent majority of my life with him, and we did not have children thankfully. I wouldn`t want children be exposed to that. I tried to help him, but he was too messed up, and he was possessed by something as he reacted when I prayed and said you believe in him.. that won`t help you.. and changed voice. lower. same as when I prayed for him his pain went. so, I am 54 years old, I really do look as young as the picture. i do not live atypically my age, I have the same interests as always, I do not dress old do not think act old. It is probably called time less. so I do not have children, I do not fit in the group i am supposed to be, because of not married not kids rent my house( I do plan to buy but still) I have moved country, in another country than my origin, you can add a whole list. fit in nowhere basically.

 

[JST17089]

I’m in my mid-thirties and never been married either, never had what is considered an actual girlfriend either. It’s hard to find someone who is devoted to Christ.

 

[bèlla]

I’m in my mid-thirties and never been married either, never had what is considered an actual girlfriend either. It’s hard to find someone who is devoted to Christ.

Welcome to the site. I’m surprised to hear that given your location. Are you plugged into a church with a strong community? What about hobbies and the like? Are you meeting people beyond the church and building connections?

~bella

 

[JST17089]

Welcome to the site. I’m surprised to hear that given your location. Are you plugged into a church with a strong community? What about hobbies and the like? Are you meeting people beyond the church and building connections?

~bella

Thanks for the message. To answer your questions, the church I’m a member of and that I was raised in is incredibly small where I was raised in. I like reading a good book and enjoy studying the Bible. I’m not meeting people beyond my family or church family.

 

[bèlla]

Thanks for the message. To answer your questions, the church I’m a member of and that I was raised in is incredibly small where I was raised in. I like reading a good book and enjoy studying the Bible. I’m not meeting people beyond my family or church family.

This is a challenging time dating wise for everyone including christians. Bear that in mind as others share their experiences. You’re not the only one. Meeting someone may require you to go outside of your comfort zone. Don’t sit on the sidelines waiting for her to show up on Sunday. You may be waiting for years.

Hobbies are good options to expand your circle and meet people who share your interests. The same applies with serving and getting involved with christian organizations outside of the church. If missionary trips are of interest take them. Every opportunity you have to experience something different beyond your norm will increase your confidence and discourse. Don’t get lured into negative tropes about dating, stats or pills. You’ll waste a lot of time in that hole and need to start again.

Prayer is the other element and the majority aren’t very disciplined. Ask the Lord to make you a better man and prepare you for a wife and lift her up as well. If you don’t know what to say Stormie Omartian has several books on the subject rooted in scripture. Patrick Morley is another who focuses on men. Man in the Mirror is well regarded and he covers several seasons in his writing. If you prefer someone traditional Douglas Wilson is an option. He has several books geared for singles and young couples. And for kingdom principles you can’t go wrong with Myles Munroe. The Purpose and Power series is very good.

~bella

 

[JST17089]

This is a challenging time dating wise for everyone including christians. Bear that in mind as others share their experiences. You’re not the only one. Meeting someone may require you to go outside of your comfort zone. Don’t sit on the sidelines waiting for her to show up on Sunday. You may be waiting for years.

Hobbies are good options to expand your circle and meet people who share your interests. The same applies with serving and getting involved with christian organizations outside of the church. If missionary trips are of interest take them. Every opportunity you have to experience something different beyond your norm will increase your confidence and discourse. Don’t get lured into negative tropes about dating, stats or pills. You’ll waste a lot of time in that hole and need to start again.

Prayer is the other element and the majority aren’t very disciplined. Ask the Lord to make you a better man and prepare you for a wife and lift her up as well. If you don’t know what to say Stormie Omartian has several books on the subject rooted in scripture. Patrick Morley is another who focuses on men. Man in the Mirror is well regarded and he covers several seasons in his writing. If you prefer someone traditional Douglas Wilson is an option. He has several books geared for singles and young couples. And for kingdom principles you can’t go wrong with Myles Munroe. The Purpose and Power series is very good.

~bella

Yes ma’am. Thank you for the help and advice.

 

[Godcrazy]

I’m in my mid-thirties and never been married either, never had what is considered an actual girlfriend either. It’s hard to find someone who is devoted to Christ.

And they can say they are..

 

[JST17089]

And they can say they are..

I’m not sure if I’m understanding your comment. Could you be more specific? Thank you.

 

[Godcrazy]

I’m not sure if I’m understanding your comment. Could you be more specific? Thank you.

They can say they are christian then you find out not so and some can play a longer time