siblings

[Goodbook]

Do you get on with your siblings in your blood family?
Or is it...every one for themselves?

I was thinking on the story of the prodigal son today. My older sister left home and we never really bonded, she would push me away as the annoying younger sister. Consequently she made her own way and I had to make mine. I wondered how different it would have turned out if we'd been more partners and true sisters. We could have gone into business together or something like that and made a go of life instead of the 'me first' attitude I was brought up with.

I don't think she ever realised that she hurt the family more when she left. I have two brothers that are twins and they have gone their separate ways as well.

I think for daughters its worse because sons are favoured by mothers, daughters aren't good for much except either marrying out and having children or becoming over-achieving workaholics, which is the route my sister took, and I tried to follow.

What are your experiences, if you like to share.

 

[jacknife]

Do you get on with your siblings in your blood family?
Or is it...every one for themselves?

I was thinking on the story of the prodigal son today. My older sister left home and we never really bonded, she would push me away as the annoying younger sister. Consequently she made her own way and I had to make mine. I wondered how different it would have turned out if we'd been more partners and true sisters. We could have gone into business together or something like that and made a go of life instead of the 'me first' attitude I was brought up with.

I don't think she ever realised that she hurt the family more when she left. I have two brothers that are twins and they have gone their separate ways as well.

I think for daughters its worse because sons are favoured by mothers, daughters aren't good for much except either marrying out and having children or becoming over-achieving workaholics, which is the route my sister took, and I tried to follow.

What are your experiences, if you like to share.

I get along great with everyone in my immediate family with the exception of my father (he's kind of a deadbeat). My brother was kind of my father figure growing up, he's more on the conservative side and kind of aggressive but we've always had a soft spot in our hearts for one another I could never imagine feuding with him like I see some siblings do.

 

[Cearbhall]

I think for daughters its worse because sons are favoured by mothers, daughters aren't good for much except either marrying out and having children or becoming over-achieving workaholics, which is the route my sister took, and I tried to follow.

What are your experiences, if you like to share.

Well, for starters, my family experiences certainly aren't any of what you said in the sentence just before that.

 

[PinkSweetart]

I get along with both my older sister, and younger brother. I love the to death and would drop everything to help them when in need. That's how we were raised. Yeah, we'll disagree on stuff, but seeing how my extended family has treated eachother always makes us strive for understanding and forgiveness. We want to be there for each other no matter what. And they're my best friends, so I have a blast when I'm with them

 

[Noxot]

I wish I was closer to my brothers but now I live on the other side of texas from them and they have their own families to be with or are busy getting out of prison, messing up after a month, and possibly getting thrown back in. in my relationships with people i tend to focus on them a lot more when they are around me and more actively part of my life. no one can replace my two brothers.

if it was up to me we would all live on a piece of land and help each other out a lot more. life is just easier with close friends or a close family but it seems like dramas or just differences of views on what life is + human errors cause things to fail.

 

[Goodbook]

I do miss my blood sister but have to accept she chose to live on the other side of the world. When I became a christian I found I had more (spiritual) sisters, so its ok now. I think I would like more brothers though, although the ones I have are at least still in the country. I sometimes did wonder what its like to have an older brother growing up although Jesus is my big bro now.

 

[Citanul]

daughters aren't good for much except either marrying out and having children or becoming over-achieving workaholics,

Seriously? I've seen this view expressed by men but it's a little surprising having it come from a woman.

 

[Goodbook]

well, in chinese culture that has always been the way. If you were born a girl, most chances are you would have been aborted under the one-child policy, or abandoned at birth.

I think in jewish culture boys were more valued over girls as well, girls didn't get circumcised, they were worth less than boys in terms of offerings to God, and basically were child bearers for the Messiah. And I think the hostility between man and women and their respective roles goes all the way back to Adam and Eve. Remember Eve had two boys Cain and Abel, the first daughters were barely even mentioned except when the fallen angels tried to mate with them, Cain found a wife but we are not told how or her name. Noah had three sons, and they all had wives, their names weren't mentioned.
Adah and Zillah were only mentioned in connection with the sons they bore.

Every woman except for Sarah had children, were wives that bore sons. Sarah was set apart for she was barren. There really is no daughter of God mentioned they were all daughters of men. Dinah was an overlooked sister of the twelve patriarchs. Rachel got mad that she couldn't have children, but Leah was sad that Jacob didn't love her even after bearing many sons.

I could go on, but anyway, women were valued for childbearing and being the wife of, than for their own selves. Although nowadays because of Jesus we are redeemed, it should not longer be that way, we are all one in Christ and the qualities one cultivates are christlike ones irrespective of gender roles. I do think with so much mixed up values given by parents and culture that, its a wonder that people procreate still. But any non-christian culture still seems to value boys over girls. eg you can see the extremes in islam.

 

[blackribbon]

The Jewish line is continued through the mother only. A child who is born to a Jewish mother and an non-Jewish father is considered Jewish. A child born to a non-Jewish mother and a Jewish father is not considered Jewish. I think women are valued by the Jewish religion/culture.

There are plenty of daughters mentioned in the Bible...try reading the Old Testament again...and the Proverb 31 woman is valued for her business sense as well has her homemaking and her mothering.

 

[timewerx]

I get along really well with my sister. We're only two.

It's been like that since we hit our twenties and now I consider her my best friend.

 

[Taom Ben Robert]

The Jewish line is continued through the mother only. A child who is born to a Jewish mother and an non-Jewish father is considered Jewish. A child born to a non-Jewish mother and a Jewish father is not considered Jewish. I think women are valued by the Jewish religion/culture.

There are plenty of daughters mentioned in the Bible...try reading the Old Testament again...and the Proverb 31 woman is valued for her business sense as well has her homemaking and her mothering.

To be fair Reform Judaism accepts children born of Jewish fathers

 

[Taom Ben Robert]

I get along with most of my 4 brothers and 5 sisters

 

[Boogeyman07]

Twin brother younger sister, love em both. Get along good...most the time

 

[Boogeyman07]

I get along with most of my 4 brothers and 5 sisters

I wish I had that many siblings. Is it pretty awesome?

 

[Taom Ben Robert]

I wish I had that many siblings. Is it pretty awesome?

My parents are divorced, so we're kinda split up

 

[Goodbook]

its interesting watching mum's chickens. They are two sisters, I call them Mary and Martha. Martha, of course, bosses Mary around. Martha always wants to be first and pushes Mary out of the way, but Mary follows her around cos she's got no other hens to talk to.