I feel like if I where to continue waiting and I found someone who didn’t wait I would feel kinda disappointed especially if the girl I’m with hooked up with someone from my church.
Any advice?
First, maybe we can put too many emotional eggs into one basket. Have you heard of the expression, don't put all your eggs in one basket?
It means if you put all your eggs in one basket you could lose them all if you fall and hit the basket on the ground.
Like this, I think we can tend to make too much out of only one person. And that person tends to be someone we hope to use to make our dreams come true.
Also, people can tend to love only the ones they feel they can use for pleasure and other things they want for their own selves.
But Jesus says, "if you love those who love you, what reward have you?" (in Matthew 5:46)
So, we need to be about Jesus Christ's dream coming true, how we become like He is pleasing to our Father and we love any and all people, caring for anyone else as well as we care about our own selves, I understand.
And we will not learn how to love, then, by getting isolated with someone who is more like we are. We need our senior couples and widows and widowers who have matured for decades in how to share in marriage and love the way Jesus does. So, I would say now first make sure you are investing in sharing with such people who feed you their good example and they can see through you because you have gotten to know each other, and so they can give you real correction and help to find out how to relate in love.
And, of course, they will make sure you understand that God is the One in us who succeeds in doing the real correction and growing us to be mature in His way of loving. And the Bible all we have about how to become and relate in love and personally submit to and share with and please God. For one example >
"And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma." (Ephesians 5:2)
This is a basic. And so there are tricks to keep our attention elsewhere, worrying about if someone is a virgin or not, possibly among other things. Rather, is someone helping you to get more real with God and get real correction to find out how to love? Is the person an example to you, while you are becoming more of God's example helping that person?
And if you get into loving like this you will be too satisfied to be concerned about using someone foolish for pleasure. But you will care about anyone who is so foolish, and offer your good example to help the person.
But there are ones who have given in to Satan, especially while they were in Satan's kingdom of lusts. Even so, ones of these can learn from their error and become more real and pure than maybe the child of a Christian couple. The child brought up Christian might be Christian only in culturing, perhaps one who has learned to copy-cat what he or she was told to do. And that person may not know how to love.
But Jesus says the one who is forgiven much will love much, right?