Carri20, I do like her. Maybe she's not 2nd best, I'm not sure exactly how I feel about that. It has gone through my mind though. Heh, I have thought that maybe I'm not good enough for her. Again, I'm thinking about alot of things here. If I can't get past this non virgin thing, I won't date her. I'm just trying to come to terms with the situation kind of. I really don't understand the last thing you said, but I think I disagree with it. I mean, when I think "sexually pure" I think virgin. What could sexual purity be?
Lion of God, I think a girls virgininty is important because: It shows she has self control, it means she has no diseases, it means she's not all loose and again, when I think of virgin I think of purity. I don't know exactly what kind of purity alot of you guys are talking about. I'd rather not admit this but when I think of someone thats had sex before marriage, I kinda think she's damaged goods. And yes, I know we all are in our own ways. No ones perfect.
Yeah, I think I may feel like I may not be as good as another guys she's done. I don't think if we were dating or married that she'd cheat on me, but maybe if she wasn't maybe she would have sex again if she was having a rough year or something. You know what, I really doubt she would again, but it's always a possibility. I'm not sure if I'd trust her the same. Right now I'm leaning towards no. Although compared to alot of virgins she proabably should be trusted more. So, I'm not sure on that one.
I regret right now that I didn't have other partners, then I could date her no problem. Down the road? I'm not sure. As you can see, I'm not sure on alot of these things. Most of them, okay, all of them. I'm not exacly sure how this shows my security, or lack thereof. But I'm sure it's pretty low. I'm confused, kinda scared, frustrated and alot of other not good things. By the way, you have the best quesions ever.
twistedsketch, I think most people in my situation would have the very same reservations I have. I think the best time to have reservations, is before we get into a serious relationship. And if I'm still confused and have doubts when she wants to date, well, thats gonna be terrible. It's just that she was such a good person when I knew her before, since the 2nd grade, she had one really bad year, and now she seems back on track. So, I really want to date her. But, like you said, I don't want any lingering doubts in the back of my head. Man, I've gotten so ahead of myself, we have only re met each other about a month ago, and I'm already thinking: Could I marry her, should I, is she the one, has God set her up for me? Just ridiculous. I hate over analyzing everything. But I think I'd rather over analyze than get hurt or hurt someone else. I should go talk to my pastor, but I don't want someone that I barely know to know stuff about me. You guys are okay, because you guys don't know who I am.