roamer_1
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I just don't quite understand why it would be important for the woman, but not for the man, to be a virgin until they get married.
No, he's stone-dead wrong.
But a couple of things:
Foremost and in general, barring the last couple of generations, chastity was always in the hand of the woman, because the consequences fell upon the woman. The historical norm does not tolerate bastard children and single parent households, and for good reason. Our views in this day should be understood to be abnormal and permissive, and terminally skewed wrt this subject.
Not fair, but true.
The consequence of the Hebrew law was probably enforced more so upon women, because the woman's virtue could be proven (and was proven upon the marital bed). Again, maybe not fair, but probably true.
Men could have more than one wife (in the case of the brother's widow, as law), so virginity in the man is not absolute.
Prostitution seems to be normative, whether frowned upon or not - Judah thought he was taking a prostitute when he took Tamar - That she wasn't a prostitute is beside the point... If there are prostitutes....
However, Torah says, for both the fornicator and the adulterer, that BOTH the man and the woman stand trial, and both were subject to penalty. How that works out considering the above is hard to suss out.
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