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truelove1
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Hi. This forum seems like a great place for Christian fellowship and advice. I'm glad to be a part of it. I'm currently in an unexpected situation and I'd appreciate any advice anyone is willing to give. If you're a pastor, Christian counselor or minister giving me advice I would appreciate it if you make notes of it in your posts and for others please state if you are a Christian and for how long. I was blessed by the advice of a chaplain at this site who encouraged me not to use the pastor's claim of seeing me in a dream as a reason to allow him to court me. I agree with him. Thanks anyone/everyone for your time.
I've been courted by a man for going on two years now. We discussed marriage in the past and recently started talking about the specifics of the marriage plans. Since those recent discussions, I was at a church event and one of the ministers (pastor of outreach) who i didn't know approached me while i was about to sleep there on the couch at the church event. I didn't talk to him before because he wasn't familiar to me. I don't usually mingle with the Outreach Pastors because I'm too busy doing many things in the church office. It was just happened that he saw me sitting in the couch because i went early in the church and planned to rest for awhile. I was just sleeping in the church couch in the lobby area. And he suddenly came to me and initiated a conversation because i was about to sleep. He told me, " I don't know why I do this to you but something is in my heart". He added " you look familiar to me" and then later he told me he saw me in his dream. And i replied maybe you saw me before because you always come here if we have church events. I told him I have someone who waited for me for a long time and we have a plan after i graduate but this pastor still keeps showing interest in me and told me i'm not married to the other guy. He then said he would pray but he saw me in his dream already. He begged me to have lunch with him so that we could talk. This pastor then asked permission to the leaders and Pastor to court and know me. Our Main Church Pastors and leaders gave permission to the pastor who wants to court me. They want me to stay in their/my current location for now and be involved in ministry there but this pastor has been assigned in a new location far from this church. The man I've been discussing marriage plans with has a family operated ministry position, far away, for me and we have discussed that and plans to start a God centered day care ministry in the past until now. The man who's been courting me so long works with kids in ministry like I do. The church wants me to have a happy life, that's why they're so in agreement about one of the Pastors showing interest in me. Before he left during our 2nd talk, while at lunch, he really seriously confessed that he loves me so much and that he doesn't want to lose me. He cried a lot. But i told him i will never say a word which is yes or no and that I don't want to answer him. I don't like to give unsure answers. I have special someone in my heart and we have plans after i graduate. But he said he will pray that God will make a way.
I'll be praying about these situations and I'd like to know any advice anyone is willing to give. Could this pastor truly love me after the one short talk we had? What should I think about the dream he claims to have had about me? What are your opinions on the pastor's approach and behavior toward me, and his behavior regarding the situation between myself and the man who has been courting me for about two years? The pastor also posted some solo pics of himself on facebook posed with his shirt off and in a few of those pics he was looking at himself. Any opinions on that? What should my next move be with the man who has been courting me for about two years and what should I do if i love him? I just want to do God's will for my life.
Thanks so much.
I've been courted by a man for going on two years now. We discussed marriage in the past and recently started talking about the specifics of the marriage plans. Since those recent discussions, I was at a church event and one of the ministers (pastor of outreach) who i didn't know approached me while i was about to sleep there on the couch at the church event. I didn't talk to him before because he wasn't familiar to me. I don't usually mingle with the Outreach Pastors because I'm too busy doing many things in the church office. It was just happened that he saw me sitting in the couch because i went early in the church and planned to rest for awhile. I was just sleeping in the church couch in the lobby area. And he suddenly came to me and initiated a conversation because i was about to sleep. He told me, " I don't know why I do this to you but something is in my heart". He added " you look familiar to me" and then later he told me he saw me in his dream. And i replied maybe you saw me before because you always come here if we have church events. I told him I have someone who waited for me for a long time and we have a plan after i graduate but this pastor still keeps showing interest in me and told me i'm not married to the other guy. He then said he would pray but he saw me in his dream already. He begged me to have lunch with him so that we could talk. This pastor then asked permission to the leaders and Pastor to court and know me. Our Main Church Pastors and leaders gave permission to the pastor who wants to court me. They want me to stay in their/my current location for now and be involved in ministry there but this pastor has been assigned in a new location far from this church. The man I've been discussing marriage plans with has a family operated ministry position, far away, for me and we have discussed that and plans to start a God centered day care ministry in the past until now. The man who's been courting me so long works with kids in ministry like I do. The church wants me to have a happy life, that's why they're so in agreement about one of the Pastors showing interest in me. Before he left during our 2nd talk, while at lunch, he really seriously confessed that he loves me so much and that he doesn't want to lose me. He cried a lot. But i told him i will never say a word which is yes or no and that I don't want to answer him. I don't like to give unsure answers. I have special someone in my heart and we have plans after i graduate. But he said he will pray that God will make a way.
I'll be praying about these situations and I'd like to know any advice anyone is willing to give. Could this pastor truly love me after the one short talk we had? What should I think about the dream he claims to have had about me? What are your opinions on the pastor's approach and behavior toward me, and his behavior regarding the situation between myself and the man who has been courting me for about two years? The pastor also posted some solo pics of himself on facebook posed with his shirt off and in a few of those pics he was looking at himself. Any opinions on that? What should my next move be with the man who has been courting me for about two years and what should I do if i love him? I just want to do God's will for my life.
Thanks so much.