MY "take"......
TYPICALLY, when BELIEFS and practices are presented as embraced and personally helpful, when things are framed as "my personal belief is..." or "it is a blessing in My life to....." discussions go better. When things are framed as "It's a fact!" "I'm right and ergo you are a foolish, ignorant, apostate idiot!" well, they don't go so well.
I think there's often two entirely different and not infrequently opposite set of rules: one for self and the opposite for everyone else. Such as "If my denomination says it - it's automatically true, if your denomination says it - it's accountable, needs to be substantiated, and is automatically wrong if it's not what mine says." Or, perhaps this seems familiar: "My interpretation of this is..... and ergo it's right, your interpretation is just your interpretation and isn't worth giving the light of day."
Respect goes two ways, my friend. The Golden Rule might apply, even in our discussions here. Perhaps we should not condemn others for exactly what we are doing - employing a double standard, two contradictory set of rules, two very different playing fields. Something to think about, anyway.
If you say, "it's a fact" don't yell that others are "anti" and "hateful" and "destructive" when they seek substantiation - espeically when every time they say "it's a fact" you do exactly the same thing?
For over a year, I witnessed a rather ... um.... forceful discussion between learned Catholic and LDS apologists. I took much from that - even today, years later. One of them: people often harbor logs, and the specks they complain about in others usually is that log. And people seem to protect and defend their double standard more than their positions. As I read their long, passionate posts - I soon realized they are identical. In content and form. Only the names were changed. We don't get far without humility and respect - of each other as FULL, UNseparated, and in every possible sense EQUAL brothers and sisters in Christ. And progress is impossible without a "level playing field." It's why I stress epistemology - that playing field. Why I stress honesty. Why I stress noting in self what self notes in others.
Just MY fallible half cent.
Pax
- Josiah