S.a.h.m.

[Leanna]

We have a routine, it would be terribly boring for me to type it out here.... lol..... but on Thursday mornings we go to a toddler/preschooler gym thing....

Speaking of which its time to get ready....

 

[marezee]

We have a routine, it would be terribly boring for me to type it out here.... lol..... but on Thursday mornings we go to a toddler/preschooler gym thing....

Speaking of which its time to get ready....

that sounds like fun!

 

[faithmom]

O.K. I've been on CF for and hour now, and have to behave. I'm off to do my stuff!

Have a great day everyone!

 

[marezee]

O.K. I've been on CF for and hour now, and have to behave. I'm off to do my stuff!

Have a great day everyone!

bye!!! i have to go soon too!

 

[BananaCake]

Good morning stay-at-homes!

Here's my stay at home list for the day:


What are all of you up to today?

Geez, that's so ambitious! I'm just sitting here, holding my newborn, trying to figure out if I can do a load of laundry before my husband gets home from work!

 

[Leanna]

Geez, that's so ambitious! I'm just sitting here, holding my newborn, trying to figure out if I can do a load of laundry before my husband gets home from work!

As well you should! Keep sitting! Take it easy.... that time with one newborn babe is so precious

 

[KristiLee]

I love hearing how you love your babies.... but that lady really does freak me out.... so when I hear something that sounds like the stuff she advocates, smacking a baby or holding them down, I just hear something differently than you hear. I do hear something pretty scary! And wrong! And ungodly-- no matter how many random Bible verses she sprinkles in the middle. Maybe you read it with your mommy-filter in place and are filtering that stuff out. I know I have been that way in the past with books or websites. It is not the spanking part, its the other stuff. But yes, that's not what this thread is about. Sorry to distract.

I'm sorry ... where exactly did you see me suggest anything similar to "smacking a baby or holding them down". I'm not seeing that I said anything like that - I laid my daughter down and then removed my hands. I continued to do so until she stopped getting up. I think it's easy to dislike the site when one dehumanizes the woman that she is and jumps to judgments such as her being "crazy" and that she "freaks you out".

I wasn't just sharing how I parent but how she, Elizabeth, parents; hence my reference to the message board where I can talk to her as well as many others who are members there.

I don't know if this is silly.... but it certainly gave me pause.... yesterday we went to a friends house. David played with his little friend who isn't talking so well (he's in a speech class) and so sometimes that little boy hits David or throws things when upset. We were intervening and I was letting that boy's mom deal with it of course, but in the car on the way home David says to me,

"Mommy? Sometimes [T] hurts me."


What does one say to that??? I can only parent my own son.... and he was very polite.

Aww! That's so sad. Had it been my daughter, I probably would have said something like "Well, we can't control what others do to us, as hurtful as it can be, but we can control how we handle ourselves in those circumstances." And then I'd start asking different attitudes, or things that she might say to the offender if they were hurtful and sharing my own ideas as well.

Geez, that's so ambitious! I'm just sitting here, holding my newborn, trying to figure out if I can do a load of laundry before my husband gets home from work!

How old is the precious newborn? No one who says "it goes by so fast" is exaggerating. It really does. Before you know it, they are onto their next developmental milestone and the last is long gone and just a memory.

Do you have a sling? I've known several women who've been able to get lots done and still nurse with a sling (I didn't hear about them until after my youngest daughter was 9 months old and walking). I hope to check it out and see how it works once we have our third child.

With us, I did a lot of stuff while they were sleeping, but I've learned to include them as much as possible with what I'm doing (something a newborn can't really participate in, but eventually s/he'll be able to). For me I had always thought that caring for my kids was separate from regular life - like I'd set special time aside to teach and train about daily things around the house like cooking and cleaning. Now I have them right by my side helping, even if it's just drying a plate, stirring food, sweeping with the dustpan... I almost always have to go right behind them, but at least they are in my sight, having fun, and learning while I get what I need to done.

 

[Leanna]

I think it's easy to dislike the site when one dehumanizes the woman that she is and jumps to judgments such as her being "crazy" and that she "freaks you out".

I'm not sure what to say to this. I was shocked and appauled by what I read on her site. If you want me to humanize her then as a mother I am shocked and appauled that another mother would do that to their children. That's all I have to say on the issue.

Aww! That's so sad. Had it been my daughter, I probably would have said something like "Well, we can't control what others do to us, as hurtful as it can be, but we can control how we handle ourselves in those circumstances." And then I'd start asking different attitudes, or things that she might say to the offender if they were hurtful and sharing my own ideas as well.

He just turned three, so he's not that advanced yet so I don't think he'd have any idea. That's a good idea though. I wasn't sure what to say so I said, "yeah?" and he said, "Yeah, it made me sad."

Now I have them right by my side helping, even if it's just drying a plate, stirring food, sweeping with the dustpan... I almost always have to go right behind them, but at least they are in my sight, having fun, and learning while I get what I need to done.

Yeah we do that too! Of course her baby is only a few weeks old so later maybe

 

[KristiLee]

He just turned three, so he's not that advanced yet so I don't think he'd have any idea. That's a good idea though. I wasn't sure what to say so I said, "yeah?" and he said, "Yeah, it made me sad."

My oldest is 3, also. I'm not sure of his vocabulary but a dialogue like that with us would look something like this:

Me: What do you think you can do next time that happens?

Her: Uh... I don't know.

Me: Could you say... stop please?

Her: Yea, or say "That's not nice."

Me: Good idea. If it happens you could keep a smile and ask if they are having a yucky day... but if they are hurting you physically, like hitting, then I would want you to come to me right away if talking doesn't help and make them stop.

Her: Okay. Or they might hurt me really bad?

Me: Maybe not, but they are still learning just like you, and so we want to teach them how they can be respectful just like we want you to be.

Her: Oh. I don't want to act like that, huh.

Me: No. But sometimes you can and because Mama loves you, we work on it. Right?

Her: Right.

And either I'd excuse her or she'd go play. That is a common type of conversation we'd have.

She wouldn't have much to say but she would chime in. I think it helps to make her feel like she is part and helps her think about it - and put the focus on herself and not the other person.

 

[faithmom]

Good morning S.A.H.M.s!

 

[BananaCake]

How old is the precious newborn? No one who says "it goes by so fast" is exaggerating. It really does. Before you know it, they are onto their next developmental milestone and the last is long gone and just a memory.

Do you have a sling? I've known several women who've been able to get lots done and still nurse with a sling (I didn't hear about them until after my youngest daughter was 9 months old and walking). I hope to check it out and see how it works once we have our third child.

He's 4 weeks old today

I have 2 carriers, but he doesn't like one and the other is sized to fit my husband. And I found out yesterday that he probably has reflux, so I'd like toget a sling that holds him upright.

 

[KristiLee]

Good morning S.A.H.M.s!

Good morning to you too, faithmom!

He's 4 weeks old today

I have 2 carriers, but he doesn't like one and the other is sized to fit my husband. And I found out yesterday that he probably has reflux, so I'd like toget a sling that holds him upright.

Someone was just suggesting to another lady on the site (I think as a joke, but still.. lol) maybe you can do it African style and put him on your back?

 

[Leanna]

Maybe what they mean is asian style-- mei tais you can put baby on your back

For me though its really frustrating because my reflux baby spits up all over my back and its just disgusting because i cant reach it

 

[marezee]

how are all the SAHMs today? i've been so busy since Nick started school...i have little time on-line! I thought I'd have more ! LOL!

 

[KristiLee]

Maybe what they mean is asian style-- mei tais you can put baby on your back

For me though its really frustrating because my reflux baby spits up all over my back and its just disgusting because i cant reach it

Eww! Didn't think of that!

Maybe just the modern carriers for the front facing out would be more convenient and a lot less icky! haha!

 

[KristiLee]

how are all the SAHMs today? i've been so busy since Nick started school...i have little time on-line! I thought I'd have more ! LOL!

Lovely!

What have you been busy with Marezee?

 

[Neenie1]

how are all the SAHMs today? i've been so busy since Nick started school...i have little time on-line! I thought I'd have more ! LOL!

I discovered when my 5 year old started kindy that I was busier with one at school and one at home than what I was with 2 at home.

I think they entertain each other. Also there are school activities and HOMEWORK lol. LOTS of homework.

 

[KristiLee]

Ahh I see... that makes sense.

 

[marezee]

yeah...keeping the ones at home entertained is busy work enough! but then there's food shopping, laundry, cleaning, etc. I also had all these clothes to sort through that my aunt had sent up for the boys. and my house needs to be organized. it's so overwhelming at times. we have closets, but there are no shelves/hanging bars in them yet. so we have boxes everywhere! And we moved here 2 years ago! It's just taking so long to finish this house!

 

[KristiLee]

Aww, I'm sorry Marezee! It sounds a little stressful. We too still have some things we are working on here and we've been here for 3 years. It'll lighten - just don't be too hard on yourself.