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respect and virginity

I don’t believe virgins are more respected.

  • don’t believe, virgins are more respected, yes

  • don’t believe, virgins are more respected, don’t know

  • do believe, virgins are more respected?


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Exiledoomsayer

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You don't know what a shack up honey is? Ahah! :D Come on boy, use your imagination! It is someone who you have (like a friend) who fills in for you when you don't have a partner. Yeah... get it?

robinegg said:
To "shack up" has for years in the US meant to cohabitate w/o marriage.
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I did get the general idea from the context but I certainly did not expect the idea of two people preforming a mutual favor for one another in private to be considered something to lose respect for. (//Staff edit//) now that I heard of it I think its a great idea.

Robin, in your mindset any sex before marriage is something to lose respect for right?

Cain, (//staff edit staff edit staff edit staff edit staff edit staff edit staff edit staff edit;)"
I appriciate the answer hehe^^
 
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respect and virginity
I really don’t, believe virgins are, more respected. I really don’t, feel a strong desire, to remain a virgin, for my wedding night. Because I really don’t, feel that marriage is important, in the modern world. Virginity really isn’t, important, because there really isn’t, many good reason, for a person to remain, a virgin. I really don’t, intend to remain, a virgin. A person really shouldn’t, remain a virgin, because I just don’t, feel a relationship between, respect and virginity.

What a very sad and un-romantic outlook on life.:cry:
 
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Virginity in a Godly and christian view point is very important.
"But from the beginning of the creation, Male and female he made them. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife and the two shall become one flesh; so that they are no more two, but one flesh. Mark 10:6-8

"He answered, anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery." Mark 10:9-12

Therefore, one of the main and most important reasons for "virginity" and sexual purity is to do the lord's will by honoring both the Lord and your wife/husband.

Also, sexual impurity has a lot to do with the lust of the flesh which also can solidify the importance of virginity.

I got this from an article i read which can help with this topic.

The word “flesh” is sometimes used in the New Testament to describe our physical bodies or humanity in general. Other times the word “flesh” is used to describe sinful cravings we have to do those things that are contrary to God's will. In I Jn. 2:16, the Apostle John uses flesh to describe evil cravings. John describes “lust” as coming from or belonging to “the flesh.” The reason for this is fairly simple. Lust is a desire to have something and the flesh is the physical part of us that is able to enjoy the pleasures which the flesh lusts after. You are able to receive pleasure through your physical senses. You can see, taste, touch, smell, and hear things that bring pleasure to your heart, mind and soul through your body. The body is the link or connection between the immortal spiritual part of you and the temporary physical part of you.

There are many things we can see, taste, touch, smell, and hear which are pleasurable and good, which give glory to God. Yet, the Bible tells us that eternal, spiritual things are more important than physical temporary things. Yet the world will constantly try to convince you that physical pleasure seeking is the ultimate and highest good. The world cries out, “Don't think about God. Don't think about judgment. Don't think about what the Bible says. Don't think about eternity. Think about the here and now, you and your desires, your pleasures, what you want to fulfill you now.” Understandably, this is what the Bible condemns as evil, as “the lust of the flesh.”

-Hope this helps.
 
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I did get the general idea from the context but I certainly did not expect the idea of two people preforming a mutual favor for one another in private to be considered something to lose respect for. Hell now that I heard of it I think its a great idea.

Robin, in your mindset any sex before marriage is something to lose respect for right?

Cain, well you know the old saying "To assume, is to make an 'ass' out of 'u' and 'me' ;)"
I appriciate the answer hehe^^


Eheh... I don't know how to respond to this sort of thing, other than to say this; "SINNER"!

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Same Paul that sees marriage as a compromise?
The reason Paul saw marriage as a compromise:
1. He thought Christ would come back immediately, and saw little need to propogate.
2. He himself had been called to celibacy, and saw little need for such a relationship for himself.
3. He saw that, unencumbered with a family, he could freely preach around the known world . . . w/o fear for the provision for his family and w/o having to cart them around.

However, he also noted that his view in that area was his own, *not* God's, it was his own interjection. Therefore, it has little to do with what God has to say on the subject.

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However, he also noted that his view in that area was his own, *not* God's, it was his own interjection.

"All scripture is God breathed, ect."

If you are willing to reject the whole 'everything written in the Bible is straight from God', then I don't have an issue. It is those who insist otherwise whom I want to know how they handle this issue.
 
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"All scripture is God breathed, ect."

If you are willing to reject the whole 'everything written in the Bible is straight from God', then I don't have an issue. It is those who insist otherwise whom I want to know how they handle this issue.
Unless specifically stated otherwise, every word in Scripture is from God. This specifically states otherwise. :)
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I most respect people who introspect, figure out for themselves what sort of romantic/sexual life they want to have, and pursue that sort of life openly and honestly. They have sex when they want to and when they believe they are ready, learn from their mistakes and are careful to always respect the desires and needs of their partners.

They might end up being virgins for a long time, never have sex at all, or have it often and with many people; that part just doesn't seem as important, though, as making sure that whatever relationships they have are healthy for everybody involved; and that, if they don't want romantic/sexual relationships, they are managing that desire in a healthy, respectful way, too.
 
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respect and virginity
I really don’t, believe virgins are, more respected. I really don’t, feel a strong desire, to remain a virgin, for my wedding night. Because I really don’t, feel that marriage is important, in the modern world. Virginity really isn’t, important, because there really isn’t, many good reason, for a person to remain, a virgin. I really don’t, intend to remain, a virgin. A person really shouldn’t, remain a virgin, because I just don’t, feel a relationship between, respect and virginity.

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I don't think any one should gain or lose respect based on how sexually active they are. Your sexuality is just one part of you. It's unfortunate that we put so much emphasis on it, and try to determine people's personalities or values based on their choices about sex. If you decide not to have sex, that doesn't make you a good person or a bad person, just a person who is abstinent for the time being. If you decide to have sex with a lot of people and truly enjoy being sexual experience, that is not good or bad either. Everyone has a different drive and different reasons for the decisions they've made.

I think female virgins are often respected by older adults, because they represent purity and an old-fashioned, religious lifestyle even if they aren't staying virgins for religious reasons. However, younger people might harass a female virgin and say she's prudish or scared, and disrespect her. It seems like male virgins are universally reviled, or at least thought of as sad or pathetic, as though they can't choose to stay virgins but are that way for lack of willing partners. It really shouldn't matter. There are many girls who enjoy sex and want to be sexually aggressive, and a number of boys who prefer to wait. It's not a big deal, to each their own.
 
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