I get that. But unless you reject the notion of God entirely, then there is a reality to God, and so you cannot completely escape trying to come to some idea of what that reality is (or determining that you cannot). You came to the point where you drew your own conclusions about what that reality is. And so will your child. The key is to help them think that through, talk over what that means, and teach them not to just rely on spiritual leaders to know God. Everyone wrestles with the questions. Even Paul, a spiritual leader, commended the Bereans for searching the Scriptures to see whether the things he said were true.
Paul didn't want them to take everything he said at face value, but to evaluate it in order to see if it was true.
Completely agree.
My sole reservation to that whole thing though is them being exposed to other people's "truths" at too early of an age - before they lack the critical thinking skills to discern between what makes sense to them and what does not.
The way I've chosen to guide my kids is by starting with the over-arching concepts of morality. I start with something like Matthew 22:
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34] But when the Pharisees had heard that he had put the Sadducees to silence, they were gathered together.
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35] Then one of them, which was a lawyer, asked him a question, tempting him, and saying,
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36] Master, which is the great commandment in the law?
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37] Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.
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38] This is the first and great commandment.
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39] And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
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40] On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.
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I agree with Jesus. I'm of the opinion, and always have been of the opinion, that all morality springs from those basic maxims. Can someone fit murder into loving their neighbor as themselves? Can someone fit adultery into that framework? Theft? Bearing false witness? IMHO no. All morality is derived from those very basic ideas.
And I think that once they've come to understand that framework - that everything else ought fall in line (or at least make sense to them) in a way where they can discern for themselves whether or not to believe what someone tells them.
Too often I think morality is taught as just simply a list of rules. This is wrong, this is right, because that is wrong by association this must be wrong as well, etc etc etc. That's how I was originally taught morality. Someone with the power of God seemingly behind him tells you what is acceptable and unacceptable action - without any real discussion or understanding of why that may be.
But at 7, 8, 9, 10, etc...I think they're still too young to understand nuance or say "Does what the Pastor say make sense within that over-arching moral framework?" ... and to that end if I had my druthers they would not be exposed to those types of questions until they get the basics down right.
But who knows...I could be wrong. lol I'm just applying things in the way they make sense to me, and with what I perceive to be mis-steps I experienced growing up in mind.
I don't think I'm completely off base though. The other day my daughter came in crying because she "lost a friend over religion". Some friend of hers in class asked her about what she believes - and when my daughter wasn't of the same faith as the other little girl - the other little girl told her that she was going to hell and that she couldn't be friends with her any more.
That led to a discussion I wasn't really wanting or prepared to have - which is to explain to my daughter how people tend to view faith - how to discuss it with other people (or not discuss it in any detail) - etc. But yeah - at 7 years old - she's already getting the "You're going to hell because you don't believe as I believe" type of nonsense.
And that's in public school...lol