RE: What should I do?

[JesseRaymondBassett]

Dear friends,
This christmas my brother's side of the family is hosting our family Christmas get-together. However I have an auto-immune deficiancy and his whole family is unvaccinated. So my question to the forum is what would you do in this case? Would you risk your safety and health and have Christmas at your unvaccinated family member's place or would you stay back?

 

[Pavel Mosko]

I think both options are fine depending on what you want to do. There is no shame in not attending, if you got health concerns. Why not Skype on that day with them instead?

 

[Neostarwcc]

I personally would stay back. It's not worth the risk. Covid won't last forever so you won't have to lose too many more Christmases w ith your family. It's not the same but you could maybe meet each other over Facebook or zoom or something. It's a thought.

 

[JesseRaymondBassett]

I personally would stay back. It's not worth the risk. Covid won't last forever so you won't have to lose too many more Christmases w ith your family. It's not the same but you could maybe meet each other over Facebook or zoom or something. It's a thought.

I am leaning towards this opinion as well @Neostarwcc . I have a little bit of time to decide thankfully.

 

[sandman]

Since the the viral load of vaccinated and unvaccinated persons infected with the corona virus is similar and in some cases greater than the unvaccinated and it sounds like you would have no problem if he/they were vaccinated ...then I would say the territory is neutral....Now, if you want to hold back for his/their protection from any viral load you may have, that is a different option.
The other option is for them and yourself to get tested prior to getting together.

 

[JesseRaymondBassett]

The whole issue of my brother getting tested before seeing him is appealing...but based on his belief that COVID is false, I doubt that would fly.

 

[sandman]

I have not run into too many people who carry that belief...I think maybe 1 other person.
I am sure he has his reason for that belief ...and while there is much disputing over the "poke" it is hard to dispute the the reality of the virus if you see the numbers or just go to a hospital...they can't all be psychosomatic illnesses and deaths.

 

[pdudgeon]

My vote would by pray before you go, and have a good time.
God is still in charge here, and He already knows each and every day that we have on Earth.
Believe that, and walk in faith and love among your family!

 

[Neostarwcc]

I am leaning towards this opinion as well @Neostarwcc . I have a little bit of time to decide thankfully.

Indeed. We still have another 3 and a half weeks to decide. I understand what it's like though. I haven't seen my grandmother since 2018 because she fell and completely shattered her hip. Doctors had to completely reconstruct it. Once she started to recover from that covid hit and now I have to stay away to protect her from COVID. I probably will never see her alive again (she isn't doing very well. She's in her early 90s now and has had multiple cancers since I was in high school) I have physically hugged my mom since covid hit and I only get to see her every month or so, and that's, my mother (I'm a huge mama's boy) so... I understand I really do. We have to keep ourselves and our family safe during this pandemic.

 

[Sarah G van G]

I have an autoimmune disease (multiple sclerosis) and I wouldn't go. I've been vaccinated but I could still pass covid on to unvaccinated people. Plus if I do get it (maybe a vaccine resistant new variant) I can get permanent disabilities and I'm sure my family and friends wouldn't want that.
I have faith but I also take responsibility for my health where possible.

 

[Albion]

My view is that there is something to be said for being really cautious and there is something to be said against being overly cautious as well.

However, in this case, almost everything seems to be on the side of being cautious.

There's your own medical situation, none of those people having been vaccinated (which probably mean they won't wear masks, either), and a whole family getting together in-doors and in close quarters for some length of time.

On balance, that looks like something you would do well to avoid.

 

[Martinius]

So my question to the forum is what would you do in this case?

Stay away, and explain to your family why. Last year, prior to vaccines, we limited our contacts to a small group of people (our "pod") and avoided contact with people, including family, who had been exposed to COVID. My wife and I both have conditions that put us at greater risk from complications. We were supposed to attend family holiday gatherings, but when the number of attendees increased and included non-family members, we took a pass. We did not see immediate family on Thanksgiving or on Christmas day. Some of those people did contract COVID.

I would seriously recommend not attending, for your own well-being.

 

[Pop D.]

Really doesn't seem worth the risk to me.

 

[Bobber]

Dear friends,
This christmas my brother's side of the family is hosting our family Christmas get-together. However I have an auto-immune deficiancy and his whole family is unvaccinated. So my question to the forum is what would you do in this case? Would you risk your safety and health and have Christmas at your unvaccinated family member's place or would you stay back?

First Jesse you should never go by anyone's opinion here that they'd go ahead and have you therefore think you should. This is a hefty decision of things and you and you alone potentially would have to live with the consequences of things and not them. What do YOU really feel about it?

What level of stress does it cause you? If you don't go at least do it in such a way which clearly shows you're not pulling back for being mad at them as in I don't want to be around you non-intelligent people. (as some people claim the unvaccinated to be and don't mind saying) That would totally destroy a relationship going forward though and I'm not sure you're wanting to do that.

Let your brother know you're just genuinely under stress about it and worried and no offence but I just don't think I can do it but that you'd like to exchange your gifts (if that's the thing that you do) You can also say you're sorry you feel this way but you do and tell him you hope he'll understand. And you can also say maybe next Christmas I'll feel more comfortable about his whole situation.

 

[JesseRaymondBassett]

First Jesse you should never go by anyone's opinion here that they'd go ahead and have you therefore think you should. This is a hefty decision of things and you and you alone potentially would have to live with the consequences of things and not them. What do YOU really feel about it?

What level of stress does it cause you? If you don't go at least do it in such a way which clearly shows you're not pulling back for being mad at them as in I don't want to be around you non-intelligent people. (as some people claim the unvaccinated to be and don't mind saying) That would totally destroy a relationship going forward though and I'm not sure you're wanting to do that.

Let your brother know you're just genuinely under stress about it and worried and no offence but I just don't think I can do it but that you'd like to exchange your gifts (if that's the thing that you do) You can also say you're sorry you feel this way but you do and tell him you hope he'll understand. And you can also say maybe next Christmas I'll feel more comfortable about his whole situation.

@Bobber ,
I was not letting anyone on this forum influence my decisions for starters. Second, I feel I should find other plans. I mentioned to my mother to ask about the whole family getting tested before christmas eve. Just so I could feel safe going over there...but like I said, that is very unlikely. I feel Christmas Eve maybe a time of me going to church and coming home and being with my cat and roommate again. We will see.

 

[Bobber]

@Bobber ,
I was not letting anyone on this forum influence my decisions for starters. Second, I feel I should find other plans. I mentioned to my mother to ask about the whole family getting tested before christmas eve. Just so I could feel safe going over there...but like I said, that is very unlikely. I feel Christmas Eve maybe a time of me going to church and coming home and being with my cat and roommate again. We will see.

Yeah well if it's quite a number that aren't they maybe wouldn't. Well wish you all the best and hope you have a good Christmas somehow anyway. God Bless.

 

[All4Christ]

Dear friends,
This christmas my brother's side of the family is hosting our family Christmas get-together. However I have an auto-immune deficiancy and his whole family is unvaccinated. So my question to the forum is what would you do in this case? Would you risk your safety and health and have Christmas at your unvaccinated family member's place or would you stay back?

It would still be a concern even if they were vaccinated, as it is not something that will necessarily prevent spread (and I am saying this as someone who is vaccinated).

When we get together with our immunocompromised family members, we try to avoid public places for the 14 days ahead of time. (Of course, children in school would have more difficulty with that. However, they would be notified if someone is diagnosed with COVID at the school.). You could share your concerns and ask for them to consider doing something to alleviate them.

 

[FutureAndAHope]

I am vaccinated, but some of my family is not. However, when the virus first came out, I am convinced that God gave me Psalm 91, which talks of protection during times of trouble, and disease.

Psa 91:6 And you won't fear diseases that strike in the dark or sudden disaster at noon.

For me, I don't trust vaccination to protect me, but rather God's hand of protection. I will be attending our Christmas party, without fear. Because I know God holds us in His hand. Even if I were to get the virus, and even die, would it really matter? Our destiny is an eternal home with the LORD.

After stating all of that, I am encouraging faith in God's providence, and care.

 

[coffee4u]

Dear friends,
This christmas my brother's side of the family is hosting our family Christmas get-together. However I have an auto-immune deficiancy and his whole family is unvaccinated. So my question to the forum is what would you do in this case? Would you risk your safety and health and have Christmas at your unvaccinated family member's place or would you stay back?

I would stay back. See if you can do some face time or something similar.

 

[RickardoHolmes]

What would I do?

Well, First and foremost, I would talk to my Physician. I would ask him/her what the best options are, and follow the advice of a trained immunologist.