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Rating system - really?

mina

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i haven't read this whole thread, but i don't rate guys unless i'm joking around. Being rated makes me feel like i'm being judged and makes me feel like crap or that i'm part of some buisness deal (she's a 3 so she's only worth a chicken; she's a 9 so she's worth 2 cows and a goat.- well in theory of course)
 
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I don't think there is anything wrong with having a general type of person to be attracted to - I have a "type" that I typically date. I think it becomes a problem when people rule someone out b/c they don't meet the criteria of the "type". Or when there is an urealistic standard (an airbrushed hollywood starlet or leading man) that is the "10" on the rating system.

If we keep our standards/expectations realistic then it makes more sense to compare someone to those standards/expectations.
 
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Spicy McHaggis

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I still think the ratings system is bad and no one can tell me any different. My system is strictly pass or fail and if later I find they are too fab to pass up they can be switched to pass. Same works in reverse.

So basically you have a rating system thats just way less involved than a 1-10.
 
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stormgade4

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I do the same thing acropolis. I scan them like the Terminator does haha. First thing I check is if she has a wedding band or engagement ring on her finger.

I once heard someone say this is seeing if a girl is "slick" (meaning no ring).
 
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