Rating system - really?

[kingoffools13]

lol some of the guys i used to work with had a different rating system where they rated girls and the numbers they gave equaled how many beers it would take ...


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[deliciousBass]

So this leads me to wonder something. How important is looks as far as overall attractiveness goes? Please be brutally honest.

If this is too off topic let me know. It seemed like a natural follow up, though.

Brutal honesty is my specialty!

50%. The thing is that I want somebody who looks as good as me or better (so that's not really setting the bar high ) I want to be one of those guys where people are like "why in the world is she with him " haha.

No seriously. I just want what I find attractive. I don't think I have unattainable standards, expectations or preferences. I prefer short brunettes who are fit, and care about their appearance. That's the physical aspect. She MUST have a silly/goofy sense of humor, be an extrovert, enjoy nerdy things, and like to travel and play video games. She must be emotionally stable and LOYAL. I would also like for her to listen to the same music I listen to. That's just scratching the surface haha. I am much more picky about personality, etc. than her looks because we're talking about who u plan on spending the rest of your life with ya know?

 

[IamHeather]

Hmm. Good answers, I think, really good. I think we all just want someone who "clicks" with us and makes for a good match. Of course we will be drawn to what is pleasing to the eye as well. Finding the right person as well as being the right person is hard work. I'm reminded of the Toys R Us commercial.

 

[deliciousBass]

Hmm. Good answers, I think, really good. I think we all just want someone who "clicks" with us and makes for a good match. Of course we will be drawn to what is pleasing to the eye as well. Finding the right person as well as being the right person is hard work. I'm reminded of the Toys R Us commercial.

it is very hard work. And then when you find somebody who matches all your criteria, they might not reciprocate with their feelings

I was friends with this girl who I thought was perfect for me but she didn't feel the same way...

 

[AirForceTeacher]

I'm reminded of the Toys R Us commercial.

I soooo want a blind date with a Tonka truck.

 

[soccerdad66]

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I was friends with this girl who I thought was perfect for me but she didn't feel the same way...

I've been on both ends of that situation, but since relationships take two people, they both should feel the same way.

 

[Sophrosyne]

rather hear I was rated as a 5 or something than have to hear rumors of someone saying I have this body part that is good and that one that is not so good, like women talk to women about guys. he has a rear end... or men say she has a nice set of headlights. I can ignore being a number any day.

 

[Thomas1984]

As others have said it's subjective, although personally I look at a combination of looks and character, if we're interacting in someway. I find different girls attractive in different ways, but a girl's character/personality can greatly increase or diminish my degree of attraction.

In a related note, I had a long chat with a lovely girl this evening, and it turns out that we're like two peas in a pod, and that's a priceless feeling that is ultimately worth more than good looks alone.

 

[Balugon]

Ive only used the rating scale a few times in my life, and only when talking to other guys about what level of attractiveness i thought a girl had. Obviously everyone who is looking for a potential spouse is gonna have a "attractiveness" barometer they have built in that gives them wooshy feelings based on its internal rating, i have that as well, and i would say that is usually the only thing i let happen when looking at a girl as far as the physical side goes. Though i do do the "well, her hair is really nice so the mildly short issue is countered for." But anyway, ive learned its a waste to set ratings on girls, the probability that "she is the one" is so incredibly low that ur best off looking at them as a friend, though we should be treating our sisters in Christ with absolute purity anyway. I dont ever recall giving a number rating to a guy, though if a group of guys were trying to build a friend's confidence, we might say something like "oh, come on man, u probably hold as an 8 in a girl's eyes."

And as for u fln, ur definitely a....


lol. jk. Not gonna make u a piece of subjectivity.

 

[HighwayMan]

lol sometimes I do but it's just for fun and doesn't mean much. And the times I do do it it's only to give a high rating.

 

[GuacaMolly]

I don't see why ppl take it personal. It's just a quick assessment of physical features that YOU find attractive. The problem is that some people take it and think that ALL men or women think that about them but that's not the case. It's what one person things about one other person.

I wouldn't say I take it personally, but the reason I don't like it is because it seems insuffrably arrogant, IMO. It feels like an assignment of worth, and it makes me indignant to think that anyone would dare to value my worth with a number.

Also, if someone refers to me as a 7.5 and then later refers to someone as a 9.... what does that mean? Do I lose? Am I less desirable, are they only with the 7.5 because they wouldn't have a chance with the 9?

I just don't think it's helpful, that's all. I don't think comparison in such a way is hardly ever helpful.

 

[GuacaMolly]

....and if looks isn't the be all end all, why do you never hear guys rating a girls' brain or personality?


"Wow, that artistic streak is a 9, easily."

 

[ido]

Ive only used the rating scale a few times in my life, and only when talking to other guys about what level of attractiveness i thought a girl had. Obviously everyone who is looking for a potential spouse is gonna have a "attractiveness" barometer they have built in that gives them wooshy feelings based on its internal rating, i have that as well, and i would say that is usually the only thing i let happen when looking at a girl as far as the physical side goes. Though i do do the "well, her hair is really nice so the mildly short issue is countered for." But anyway, ive learned its a waste to set ratings on girls, the probability that "she is the one" is so incredibly low that ur best off looking at them as a friend, though we should be treating our sisters in Christ with absolute purity anyway. I dont ever recall giving a number rating to a guy, though if a group of guys were trying to build a friend's confidence, we might say something like "oh, come on man, u probably hold as an 8 in a girl's eyes."

Good thoughts.

And as for u fln, ur definitely a....


lol. jk. Not gonna make u a piece of subjectivity.

I know I'm a 10 in someone's eyes.

 

[Supplanter]

I have been reading this thread all day and now I am finally going to say something. I think all of you women on this forum should considers yourselves a 10 (and so should the men) in all areas. Recognize your own excellance and beauty first and then if a man (womanfor men) can't recognize your excellance then that is completely his (or her) loss. No one should accept that they are less than that because we are fearfully and wonderfully made. So, I guess the real question is "how would God rate you?" and if you don't know the answer then take a serious amount of time to find out.

 

[Sketcher]

....and if looks isn't the be all end all, why do you never hear guys rating a girls' brain or personality?

I do.

The brain/personality numbers are usually not very flattering.

 

[Sketcher]

I think all of you women on this forum should considers yourselves a 10 (and so should the men) in all areas.

That would be both arrogant and naive. This would suggest there is absolutely no room for improvement, and it wouldn't surprise me if this line of thinking leads to many divorces. If you're a 10, and that spouse is exasperated with you, it's their problem. You're a 10. They're obviously not a 10. And you deserve a 10. Do the math.

 

[acropolis]

I do.

The brain/personality numbers are usually not very flattering.

Fascinating

 

[deliciousBass]

Also, if someone refers to me as a 7.5 and then later refers to someone as a 9.... what does that mean? Do I lose? Am I less desirable, are they only with the 7.5 because they wouldn't have a chance with the 9?

Some men would follow that logic but they are fools and they will reap what they sow if they choose to place so much emphasis on physical appearance and ignore more important things. I don't think anybody on here would be interested in someone like that and I would argue that the majority of mature Christian men wouldn't shoot for looks alone since most of us are more interested in marriage and the long term compatibility that it requires.

 

[Quoth]

I've noticed a few of the guys (you know who you are ) use a 1-10 rating system when talking about girls. I haven't noticed girls doing this though.

Is it a guy thing? Do you automatically/subconsciouslly rate every girl? If you rate people, do you rate the same sex, too - or just the opposite sex?

I don't think I've ever thought in terms of a rating system...and I don't think I would want to know where I fall on the scale.

Hehehehe...I just saw this thread.

My friends and I started using a rating system as a joke. It honestly takes away the sexual frustration we might find in a woman, because our thoughts go from:

"Oh man look at that!"

To:

"Ehhh, I'd give 'er a seven. Maybe a 7.5, tops."

Then just to be difficult and comical, my friend will turn to me and say, "No way. She's a six." We continue that banter for a few minutes, without discussing (like we used to) how to get her pants off.

As for where you fall on the scale, FNG...well, if 1 is worst and 10 is best...

I'm afraid Becky gets two sticks o' butter, though...sorry.
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[Supplanter]

That would be both arrogant and naive. This would suggest there is absolutely no room for improvement, and it wouldn't surprise me if this line of thinking leads to many divorces. If you're a 10, and that spouse is exasperated with you, it's their problem. You're a 10. They're obviously not a 10. And you deserve a 10. Do the math.

Well, you've completely misconstrued what I said but that is your right to do so. I am sure that most marriages end because of the insecurities and baggage that people bring to them or develop within them and not because people are self-confident and value who they are enough to feel like a 10.

This does not mean that others are devalued in any way. I never said being a 10 means you don't have faults, and feeling good about who God has made you and showing gratitude for that gift does not mean you are doing it at the expense of others. My basic point is that a rating scale is arbitrary and if everyone is a 10 (and I believe God thinks we are given that He is our Father) then it is pointless to even bother with such a thing.