questioning

[xyzgirl]

Hi. I'm new here, so i dont really know how things work here, so if i mess up...I'm really sorry. So...I was surfing around today, and came across this site. Up untill about18 months ago, i was a firm believer in Christ. Sincde then...too much stuff has happend in my life to make it easy for me to truely believe. I would love to think there is a God looking after us all, but at the moment...I'm really not sure.

I recently came out to people around me as bisexual. i know that i am, and its taken me quite a few years to understand it. some of the people around me told me i couldnt be bi, and a christian...the two were mutually exclusive. homosexuality is called an abomination in the bible, right? but if that is true, why do i feel so much happier, now knowing who i am? i have my first girlfriend now. why would God want me to give her up, if my being with her, really, truely makes me happy???

my parents might be right: this might be a phase im going through...but what if it isnt? what happens then?

i would love to know the opinions of other people on here regarding homosexuality. please be nice...im quite fragile when it comes to discussing sexuality!

thank you for reading
x

 

[GodHasEpicMicro]

Hard one. In your situation I think the devil is tricking you and making you believe you are happy so he can pull you away from God. I assure you if you free yourself from that sin you will feel much happier. May God shield you from evil.

You will be in my prayers.

 

[azua40]

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[Criada]

It's a very difficult issue, I know, sweetie.
Only you can really hear from God on it, other people's opinions are useful sometimes, but you need your own conviction.
Personally I think that homosexuality is wrong, and that is certainly the 'official' CF position. But... it is no worse than any other sin, and no-one is going to judge you... none of us is perfect.
I would say, from experience, don't let what others say make you lose hold of who you know you are. I am homosexual, and have spent the past 18 years 'pretending' in a heterosexual marriage because people convinced me it was the right thing to do. It wasn't.
If you want someone to talk to, please PM me.
I am praying for you, sweetie... it is not an easy journey, but never let go of the fact that God loves you very, very much, whatever your sexuality.

 

[Johnnz]

Christians are pretty consistent in their belief that Scripture does not approve of homosexuality. That forms a starting point, and an end point too, for many Christians.

I see bisexuality as a somewhat different issue than being exclusively homosexual. Often some good discussion and information helps bisexual people to clarify their sexual behaviour. Getting that is not always easy though.

John
NZ

 

[Johnnz]

Some 'bisexual' people are just very sexual beings who enjoy sex. Thus, same sex attraction can be appealing. Maybe recognising your inherent sexuality is step 1. Then, work towards heterosexual values and allow them to mature more fully.

John
NZ

 

[John-Phillip]

The Bibile doesn't say anything about feelings as such, just homosexual acts. Famously King David's close friend (erm, can't recall his name) says something like "my love for you is more than for the love of a woman" (and that's been used to support homosexuality). I dont believe its supposed to be erotic love but just passion for him as a friend/brother....The problem is of course how to control what we feel/desire...Christianity is often about accepting what we find personnaly unacceptable and giving up what we feel we can't live without....its described as a 'death' and it is but the promise is that the benefits reaped will greatly outweight the present suffering. No easy answer. Sorry

 

[GT123]

Hi. I'm new here, so i dont really know how things work here, so if i mess up...I'm really sorry. So...I was surfing around today, and came across this site. Up untill about18 months ago, i was a firm believer in Christ. Sincde then...too much stuff has happend in my life to make it easy for me to truely believe. I would love to think there is a God looking after us all, but at the moment...I'm really not sure.
realize all the disciples of Christ died some pretty bad deaths, all except 1 i think (someone correct me if i'm wrong). they never said "hey Jesus doesn't love me no more", ya know? remember trials like what you've went through/are going through can do one of two things:
1. destroy your faith.
2. strengthen your faith and relationship with God

please read this, if you haven't already i suggest reading up the NT completely.. gotta get in the word, daily, it's so key for us in my opinion.

Matt 13 -

1That same day Jesus went out of the house and sat by the lake. 2Such large crowds gathered around him that he got into a boat and sat in it, while all the people stood on the shore. 3Then he told them many things in parables, saying: "A farmer went out to sow his seed. 4As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up. 5Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow. 6But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root. 7Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants. 8Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown. 9He who has ears, let him hear."

I recently came out to people around me as bisexual. i know that i am, and its taken me quite a few years to understand it. some of the people around me told me i couldnt be bi, and a christian...the two were mutually exclusive. homosexuality is called an abomination in the bible, right? but if that is true, why do i feel so much happier, now knowing who i am? i have my first girlfriend now. why would God want me to give her up, if my being with her, really, truely makes me happy???

no problem sista, we've all got our struggles. what would Christian life be without battling the flesh? almost takes the fun out of it, haha. yea, ignore that last remark. listen. homosexuality/bi is no different then any other sin. sin is sin. don't let anyone fool you that since they're straight and they lust over the opposite sex, it's better then lusting after the same gender. realize, you may or may not always have this struggle for the rest of your life... but everyone has a struggle be it pride, lust, anger, whatever. are you going to give in, or fight the temptations? obviously you know homosexuality is against God's plans, and against His word, it is a sin. It's not a sin to have temptations, but it is a sin to act upon those temptations.

sin is pleasurable for a season, but in the end there is death. sin feels great, yeah, for a moment. but it won't satisfy your thirst for true love, security, or contentment. that kind of peace only comes straight from Christ.

my parents might be right: this might be a phase im going through...but what if it isnt? what happens then?

then i say... welcome to the WAR!! YEAH BABY!! WOO!!

i would love to know the opinions of other people on here regarding homosexuality. please be nice...im quite fragile when it comes to discussing sexuality!

thank you for reading
x

but like i said, it's no different then any other sin. i guess since your age this would be your biggest struggle to date. so then, i say, welcome to the war. don't accept defeat, don't conform to the world!

ps. what kind of music do you listen to? i ask because the kind of music, lyrically mostly, but also genre effects your mindset. BIG TIME. i am betting you listen to secular music, am i right?

i suggest checking out lecrae, he's a pastor and a great Christian rapper.. you'll find his music is very edifying and affirmative to our Christian struggle and lifestyle. others from the 116 clique are great, and there's a few more like Flame, ambassador, trip lee, DA TRUTH, etc..

good luck, like i said, it's no worse or better then any other sin.

 

[Divinah]

Hello. Don't want to seem harsh. I think that some homosexuals genuinely struggle...to compare such bi-sexual curiosity (lust), exploration and oops, now "conflict" with such is self deceiving. If you are bi-sexual and christian then nurture what would be pleasing to God. We all have Natures that go against Gods will...we must strive for victory over such fleshly issues. No amount of CONFUSION will justify or relinquish us from said sin. Only, Repentance, Correction and obedience.

 

[alwx]

God wants us to be happy in the right way.some people say looking at porn and masturbating makes them happy.Others say snorting cocaine,smoking crack or taking ecstasy makes them happy.But of course God doesn't want us to be happy in sinful ways.we have to reject any joy that comes from sin and trust Lord.

 

[alwx]

God wants us to be happy in the right way....if you are happy in the relationship doesn't mean God is happy about it.some people get happy when they snort cocaine, smoke crack or do some other things,but we have to reject all joy that is sinful.God doesn't want us to be happy in sin and we have to trust Him in this.

 

[Naal]

I know you may not be looking at this anymore, but I just want to say my two cents.

I too am a bisexual Christian, but I am NOT practicing it. Even though I have attractions to women, I will exclusively date men. Yes, I have a high sex drive, but that has nothing to do with my preference.

That being said, you having temptations and an attraction to women is not sinful, entertaining lustful actions and thoughts are. You having a girlfriend an participating in a relationship with her is wrong in the eyes of the Lord.

You need to learn to hold back acting on temptations, and you need to break it off with your girlfriend. I know it maybe hard but it's what God wants you to do for you to be ultimately happy. Remember: God says no, so you can so yes to so many things! He puts these restrictions on us because he loves us and wants us to live a full life.

I hope this has helped, sister. God bless in your walk.