Question

[Xtreme]

Hey, my question is this: Is it a sin to date/be in love with/marry etc. someone who is a non-believer when you yourself are a believer? I'd also like to see Bible verses about it if possible.
Thanks.

~X

 

[purple_people_eater_21]

You know, I can't say that I think it is a good idea to do any of that stuff if you are a believer, but if you are a new believer, you will find that sometimes the attraction to things of the world take a long time to die off, if ever. I just encourage you to bring your troubles to the Lord, and ask that He show you His desire for your life. He is faithful, and will show you the right path. I do know this, although I cannot find any scriptures to this extent at the moment.

God Bless
Karl

 

[SonWorshipper]

Hey, my question is this: Is it a sin to date/be in love with/marry etc. someone who is a non-believer when you yourself are a believer? I'd also like to see Bible verses about it if possible.
Thanks.

~X

date - No
be in love with -No
marry - No
etc. - if you are a believer there shouldn't be any etc, for that is more than likely a sin.

Now should you do it?

2 Corinthians 6
14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15What harmony is there between Christ and Belial[2] ? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? 16What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people."[3]
17"Therefore come out from them
and be separate, says the Lord.
Touch no unclean thing,
and I will receive you."[4]
18"I will be a Father to you,
and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty."[5]

Footnotes

1. 6:15 Greek Beliar, a variant of Belial
2. 6:16 Lev. 26:12; Jer. 32:38; Ezek. 37:27
3. 6:17 Isaiah 52:11; Ezek. 20:34,41
4. 6:18 2 Samuel 7:14; 7:8

 

[Krazeekkc]

Well, I do know you shouldn't marry anyone who isn't saved. If you're in love with them try and convert them. If they then become saved and really have and aren't just saying it; it becomes ok. Get it?

 

[joyinchrist]

I dunno, it says not to be yoked right? but there are also people married before they were saved and are told to stay.... sticky situation

 

[Blessed-one]

about unbelieving husband and wife:

1 Corinthians 7:15 onwards

"If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him."

"For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife... but if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances: God has called us to live in peace. How do you know wife, whether you will save your husband, husband, whether you will save your wife?"

yes, it is adviced that we should not be yoked with non-believers, and it is common sense for any devoted christians, for living with non-believers comes with three things: it might undermine your faith, it might cause problems for the household, it might turn a loving family into a troubled family.

well, as for marrying a non-believer.. some people are just stubborn, and they ended up marrying non-believers, pulling themselves out of the faith.. some just don't know about that yoking with non-believers part in the bible and go ahead and get married...

but i know some cases where they turn out all right, the unbelieving husband (or wife) turns into a christians, and the unbelieving boyfriend (girlfriend) gets baptised.

so, it's not without hope, you just need to pray hard and do what you can.

 

[eunice]

but wouldnt u want to marry a person who can uphold and help u with ur faith?....who loves God and lives by the bible too? (cuz I know i sure would... heh)

 

[Xtreme]

Thank you all for this information, definately very helpful to me and has given me alot to think about.

Thanks

 

[Lyle]

Hey, my question is this: Is it a sin to date/be in love with/marry etc. someone who is a non-believer when you yourself are a believer? I'd also like to see Bible verses about it if possible.
Thanks.

~X

Yeah, the Bible makes a huge deal about not being
unequally yoked... Not only would it drag you down,
but it's not Biblical.... read through the Bible, namely
stories. And read about people who were on different
levels and how that worked out.. Look at Solomon,
his wives turned his heart away from God...

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Biblical precedents for such an arrangement tend to tell you to stay away from a relationship like that.

It will become the point of contention between the two of you eventually.

Go to the Testimonies forum and read La Bonita Zorilla's testimony.

 

[allieisme]

Biblical references do tell you to stay away from relationships like this, but if you were to marry a non Christian, there is a reason for it, and its my opinion, that you married a non believer in hopes to one day win him over to Christ.

 

[Xtreme]

Biblical references do tell you to stay away from relationships like this, but if you were to marry a non Christian, there is a reason for it, and its my opinion, that you married a non believer in hopes to one day win him over to Christ.

I agree with you there. Especially when you love someone deeply and truly, you'd want to be with them and someday bring them to the Lord so that they could be saved and have eternal life too.

 

[Lyle]

I'm sorry, but you're wrong, plain and simple... It's completely unbiblical.... but are you talking about what the Bible says or what you want to hear? it's a position of blantant ignorence, for in most cases you'll see, the unsaved person drags the saved one down.... It's as simple as that......

 

[Xtreme]

That's not completely true. My girlfriend of almsot 7 months hasn't dragged me down and I know she never would at all and she's not a believer (yet). In most cases, I wouldn't be surprised to see that, but in a relationship with true love and udnerstanding and all things that a good, healthy one should have, neither person in that relationship would try to drag down the other. They should respect each others beliefs and be understanding of them. So if they are not dragging you down or hurting your relationship with God, what's wrong with being with and trying to get them saved at the same time? Is it not possible God would bring a believer and a non-believer together so that the non-believer could be saved?

 

[Lyle]

What you think and feel means nothing, the Bible says not to be unequally yoked. To be friends with the world is emnity to God. it's against God plain and simple. You can't eat at the tables of demons and God, it's one or the other. There is no middle ground! You cannot be around the unsaved and expect you not to be effected, nor can you tolerate eachothers beliefs, as a Christian it to is unbiblical..

 

[Serapha]

Hey, my question is this: Is it a sin to date/be in love with/marry etc. someone who is a non-believer when you yourself are a believer? I'd also like to see Bible verses about it if possible.
Thanks.

~X

Hi there!



I think others have already provided the biblical references for you.

Now. How to apply them. How effective is a marriage where the two people are not on equal ground in their spiritual beliefs?


If you are a professing Christian, sooner or later, not being on equal ground SHOULD be a problem for you.


~malaka~

 

[desi]

Hey, my question is this: Is it a sin to date/be in love with/marry etc. someone who is a non-believer when you yourself are a believer? I'd also like to see Bible verses about it if possible.
Thanks.

~X

No it is not a sin; however, it is usually wrong to divorce them. 'Be careful what you wish for...' Go to the marriage forum and read all the posts about people getting messed over by nonChristian spouses.

 

[seebs]

There's a lot of pretty horrible Christian spouses, too.

I think the important thing is to discuss the questions that will come up carefully with the prospective spouse. How do you want to raise your kids? Do you both want kids? Do you both have similar views on what marriage implies?

 

[Follower of Christ]

One thing that alway came up in my marriages was my wife wanted to do something I knew I wasnt suppose to do as a christian.

She would ba adamant to the point where either I gave in or she did it alone and we argued latef.

Live as a christian with a nonbeliever may quickly turn your life into a living hell when you cant agree on many issues.

take this from one whose been with married to 2 ungodly women.
Youre only asking for divorce later...

 

[Xtreme]

Yes but if there's true love between the two, they should be understanding when one says they don't want to do something. If they can't do that, they're obviously not meant to be in the first place.