Question about heaven

[Judy02]

Hi everyone

I have a general question about heaven. A few years ago, I had an argument with a family member I care a lot about, where she was really upset with me, and I think she misunderstood one comment I made and my meaning/intention. We mostly sorted everything out between us, but that was one thing I didn't explain fully.

My question is, do you think any misunderstanding about it, from her side, will be made clear and my true intention will be known, so she no longer has any possible hurt feelings about it, when we are in heaven?

Sorry if I am asking what seems like a simple question, but I am struggling a lot with anxiety over it at the moment, so would just appreciate any help from anyone.
Thank you do much

 

[Richard T]

Hi everyone

I have a general question about heaven. A few years ago, I had an argument with a family member I care a lot about, where she was really upset with me, and I think she misunderstood one comment I made and my meaning/intention. We mostly sorted everything out between us, but that was one thing I didn't explain fully.

My question is, do you think any misunderstanding about it, from her side, will be made clear and my true intention will be known, so she no longer has any possible hurt feelings about it, when we are in heaven?

Sorry if I am asking what seems like a simple question, but I am struggling a lot with anxiety over it at the moment, so would just appreciate any help from anyone.
Thank you do much

The bible does say we are accountable for every word. Matthew 12:26. But I am not sure how this occurs. If one makes it to heaven i doubt it matters much. It still seems to gnaw at you though on this side of heaven which is sad. Some might say to revisit the misunderstanding but that has a risk of reoffending someone. I think all you can do is ask for God's wisdom in how to handle it, if at all. Trying to find more common ground and deeds of love could be best?

 

[Xeno.of.athens]

Hi everyone

I have a general question about heaven. A few years ago, I had an argument with a family member I care a lot about, where she was really upset with me, and I think she misunderstood one comment I made and my meaning/intention. We mostly sorted everything out between us, but that was one thing I didn't explain fully.

My question is, do you think any misunderstanding about it, from her side, will be made clear and my true intention will be known, so she no longer has any possible hurt feelings about it, when we are in heaven?

Sorry if I am asking what seems like a simple question, but I am struggling a lot with anxiety over it at the moment, so would just appreciate any help from anyone.
Thank you do much

Thank you for your heartfelt question. I want to assure you that it is not at all simple or trivial—rather, it touches on something profoundly human and deeply spiritual: our longing for reconciliation, truth, and peace in our relationships, especially those we hold dear.

As a Catholic, I believe with confidence and hope that in heaven, all things will be made clear in the light of God's perfect love. The Catechism teaches that heaven is the state of “supreme, definitive happiness,” where we shall see God “face to face” (CCC 1023). In that beatific vision, all misunderstanding, pain, and confusion will be healed. We will know and be known fully, as St Paul writes, “then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood” (1 Corinthians 13:12).

If your intention was good and your heart sought peace, then I trust that in the presence of God, your loved one will see that truth clearly. Heaven is not a place of lingering hurt or unresolved tension—it is the fullness of communion, where mercy triumphs and love reigns. Any wounds from this life, including those caused by miscommunication or human frailty, will be transfigured by grace.

Please do not be ashamed of your anxiety. It speaks to the depth of your love and your desire for harmony. I encourage you to bring this concern to prayer, perhaps in the quiet presence of the Blessed Sacrament, or entrust it to Our Lady, who knows the sorrows of the heart and intercedes tenderly for us. You might also consider the Sacrament of Reconciliation—not because you are necessarily guilty of wrongdoing, but because it is a channel of healing and peace, and a way to entrust your relationships to Christ.

You are not alone in this. The Church is a communion of love, and we walk together toward the fullness of that love in heaven. May you be consoled by the promise that “God will wipe away every tear” (Revelation 21:4), and may your heart rest in the knowledge that truth and love will prevail.

With prayerful encouragement,
I remain yours in Christ.

 

[SabbathBlessings]

Hi everyone

I have a general question about heaven. A few years ago, I had an argument with a family member I care a lot about, where she was really upset with me, and I think she misunderstood one comment I made and my meaning/intention. We mostly sorted everything out between us, but that was one thing I didn't explain fully.

My question is, do you think any misunderstanding about it, from her side, will be made clear and my true intention will be known, so she no longer has any possible hurt feelings about it, when we are in heaven?

Sorry if I am asking what seems like a simple question, but I am struggling a lot with anxiety over it at the moment, so would just appreciate any help from anyone.
Thank you do much

Dear friend,

I think this is a great question and I will answer the best way I know how through the Scriptures. I know my point of view is not the most popular view, but I believe it is what the Bible teaches.

If both of you and your friends have made it right with God repented from sin (Breaking God's law 1 John 3:4 James 2:11 Exo 20:1-17 and anything not of faith Rom 14:23) and both have a right relationship with God but have not resolved some things, I believe God gives us a specific time to resolve these things. Think of the surprise Steven is going to have when he sees Paul in heaven or David and Uriah. I believe God is one of love and is going to give His saved the opportunity to open the books and show record of what happened so everyone is going to understand why those who are saved were saved and why some of our loved ones didn't make it. I believe this is all going to happen during the millennium.

Most people teach and believe that the 1000 years will be on earth, but the Bible doesn't teach this.

The first resurrection is for the saved and they reign with Christ the 1000 years

Rev 20:4 Then I saw the souls of those who had been beheaded for their witness to Jesus and for the word of God, who had not worshiped the beast or his image, and had not received his mark on their foreheads or on their hands. And they lived and reigned with Christ for [a]a thousand years.
Rev 20:5-6 “This is the first resurrection. Blessed and holy is he who has part in the first resurrection

Those living in an unsaved state when Jesus comes with be slain

“With the breath of His lips He shall slay the wicked” Isaiah 11:4
“When the Lord Jesus is revealed from heaven with His mighty angels, in flaming fire taking vengeance on those who do not know God” 2 Thessalonians 1:7, 8
“Let the wicked perish at the presence of God” Psalm 68:2
“The rest of the dead did not live again until the thousand years were finished” Revelation 20:5

The earth during this time is going to be desolate so not sure why so many believe the millennium will take place on earth

The slain of the Lord shall be from one end of the earth even to the other end of the earth. They shall not be lamented, or gathered, or buried; they shall become refuse on the ground” Jeremiah 25:33.
Jer 4:23 I beheld the earth, and indeed it was without form, and void; And the heavens, they had no light.
Jer 4:25 I beheld, and indeed there was no man, And all the birds of the heavens had fled.
Jer 4:28 For this shall the earth mourn, And the heavens above be black, Because I have spoken. I have purposed and will not relent, Nor will I turn back from it.
Satan will be bound during this time with no one to deceive during the 1000 years.

The saved meet Christ in the air - both those living at the time and those who are dead in Christ 1 Thes 4:14-17 and takes the saved to heaven
Joh 13:33 Little children, I shall be with you a little while longer. You will seek Me; and as I said to the Jews, 'Where I am going, you cannot come,' so now I say to you.
Joh 13:36 Simon Peter said to Him, "Lord, where are You going?" Jesus answered him, "Where I am going you cannot follow Me now, but you shall follow Me afterward."
Joh 14:2 In My Father's house are many mansions; if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you.
Joh 14:3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself; that where I am, there you may be also.

This is before the second resurrection for the wicked Revelation 20:5

During the 1000 years it says His saints will judge angels 1 Cor 6:3 which is the wicked angels and we will see that God was good in every decision He made and the way He handled once perfect but fallen angels and His character will be vindicated by the teaching that God is not fair or one of love that the devil deceived so many into believing.

During this time everyone will understand every righteous decision by God and sort through any misunderstandings among our brethern. While it will be hard to see why some family friends etc. didn't make it God is going to use this time so everyone understands before He cleanses the world of all sin, sinners and unrighteousness and than He will wipe every tear, and no more sin, no more death, just living in peace and harmony with Christ forevermore the way God intended from the beginning

 

[BobRyan]

Hi everyone

I have a general question about heaven. A few years ago, I had an argument with a family member I care a lot about, where she was really upset with me, and I think she misunderstood one comment I made and my meaning/intention. We mostly sorted everything out between us, but that was one thing I didn't explain fully.

My question is, do you think any misunderstanding about it, from her side, will be made clear and my true intention will be known, so she no longer has any possible hurt feelings about it, when we are in heaven?

Sorry if I am asking what seems like a simple question, but I am struggling a lot with anxiety over it at the moment, so would just appreciate any help from anyone.
Thank you do much

Heaven will sort out a lot of things 1 Cor 13 now we see in a glass darkly , but then on that future day all things will made clear to us