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[Sappheire]

I have something I have never quite understood.






Why is it that men are viewed highly if they have had sex outside of marriage, yet women are viewed as trash if they have had sex outside of marriage?

 

[Lizzabit]

Why is it that men are viewed highly if they have had sex outside of marriage

By whom? I'm a little confused about that question. Who do you think views them highly. I certainly don't. Men who've had multiple partners don't impress me either, and I wouldn't want a relationship with them for sure.

 

[Sappheire]

I'm talking about thier friends in general or other men

 

[HotToast]

It is the way of the world. So men are "studs" and women are "tarts" when they sleep around.

Obviously this is not the way that God wants us to behave.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

depends on the men. I have more respect for a man who's practiced restraint.

 

[jenptcfan]

I think we're quick to accept the idea that men are just "made that way" as far as stereotypically being more sexually-oriented than women. It's the boys will be boys mentality. I don't think it's right and I think it does a disservice to men. But from a God point of view, I think He holds both men and women accountable for their sins....sexual or otherwise.

 

[DailyBlessings]

Why is it that men are viewed highly if they have had sex outside of marriage, yet women are viewed as trash if they have had sex outside of marriage?

Because we live in a sexist and chauvinist world? Though trust me, it's not all that easy to live with male stereotypes either.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

I recommend the book "Dilemmas of Desire:Teenage Girls Talk ABout Sexuality." by Deborah L. Tolman

It deals with this exact issue.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

I dont think thats a christian perspective

 

[chickenhearted]

It's the way of the world. We are in this world, but not of it. 'Nuff said.

 

[Sketcher]

How do women view other women who live that lifestyle?

 

[Kristin06]

I have heard that several times before and often who first thought that...defintely not a Christian!! It is a worldly look at things...

 

[sweetlambofgod]

not very nicely unfortunately

 

[Tuffguy]

I have something I have never quite understood.






Why is it that men are viewed highly if they have had sex outside of marriage, yet women are viewed as trash if they have had sex outside of marriage?

Simple.

It means nothing for a woman to 'get action'. They can whenever they want. For a man its a different issue. We have to work for it!

 

[JPPT1974]

I have heard that several times before and often who first thought that...defintely not a Christian!! It is a worldly look at things...

Yeah me too!
It ain't the first time nor will it be the last time my friend.

 

[Blank123]

thats really the world's way of looking at people. Guys are expected to have had a lot of sexual partners and that kind of life is encouraged by our society. Even girls are encouraged to do this but at the same time we're looked at as cheap or easy if we sleep around. So I dunno... the world is nutso I guess

I certainly don't think highly of any one who sleeps around though whether they're a guy or a girl.

I know people who do that and even though they act happy I know they are completely miserable. Their entire lives are based around meeting someone to date, party with, and sleep with for awhile until they decide they've had enough of that person and move on to the next one. Its a very sad and pointless life

 

[fishstix]

I have something I have never quite understood.






Why is it that men are viewed highly if they have had sex outside of marriage, yet women are viewed as trash if they have had sex outside of marriage?

It's called a double standard. I think that this perspective is starting to fade, although unfortunately it seems to be being replaced by the view that everybody should be having sex outside of marriage or that premarital sex is no big deal.

Personally, I think that everybody - male and female - should be saving sex for marriage. I would consider promiscuity to be a negative quality in either gender.

 

[_Paladin_]

I have something I have never quite understood.






Why is it that men are viewed highly if they have had sex outside of marriage, yet women are viewed as trash if they have had sex outside of marriage?

It may have somthing to do with the different guys or different girls you talk to. I for one do not think it is a good thing for another guy to have sex outside of marriage, and definitely would not encourage it. I think this is a question we should ask of the world, because in the Christian arena, I don't think it is the case.

 

[mina]

Because the world is unfair and throughout the history of time women usually get most of the unfair part. Anyways I think anybody that sleeps around has low self esteem and I don't think too highly of them.

 

[JPPT1974]

It is an unfair world.
But that is the way the world works my friend.
People treating each other unfairly is sad.
Wished that it wasn't like that though.