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[Leader of the Banned]

When people find out I'm celibate they usually tell me I'm gay, have a "problem" or assure me I shouldn't be ashamed of myself um....isn't it possible I'm celibate by choice? Nah, all men are pigs...

 

[renaistre]

Because the world is unfair and throughout the history of time women usually get most of the unfair part. Anyways I think anybody that sleeps around has low self esteem and I don't think too highly of them.

I guess you're probably right in general, but since the opposite of the OP is also true, in this case it's not any more fair for guys. If you are a guy and a virgin, the world says you are a freak and not a "real man."

I've honestly never seen any of these attitudes in the church though.

 

[JPPT1974]

I never seen anything like that at a church either.
I wonder if people are afraid to admit that though.
Since they are in a place of worship.

 

[Moluku]

I think it depends on the crowd you're surrounded by. Not always are men regarded highly for having sex before marriage or even being promiscuous in their actions. And vice versa for women as well. Usually, people who have some degree of moral standing will not approve of praising a person for having sex before marriage but merely except it. I have been treated differently for not only being a Christian but for remaing a virgin until marriage while at college. But this is something I am not ashamed of and have also gained the respect of many non-Christians who see my devotion and love for the Lord through my actions and decisions.

 

[Marie D]

I have something I have never quite understood.






Why is it that men are viewed highly if they have had sex outside of marriage, yet women are viewed as trash if they have had sex outside of marriage?

I think this may have been the case in secular society in the past, but not today. Now, most of them think that people who abstain until they're married and are faithful once wed are boring and unattractive - regardless of gender. Whereas I hope and believe that the standard among Christians has always been and still is that any kind of sexual activity, or lust, is wrong unless it's within marriage - again, the same whether the sinner is male or female.

 

[JPPT1974]

I think this may have been the case in secular society in the past, but not today. Now, most of them think that people who abstain until they're married and are faithful once wed are boring and unattractive - regardless of gender. Whereas I hope and believe that the standard among Christians has always been and still is that any kind of sexual activity, or lust, is wrong unless it's within marriage - again, the same whether the sinner is male or female.

It isn't boring and unattractive to me.
But it is doing the right thing.
Doing the will for the Lord.
As in the end, it will pay off big time.
For us to wait until we are married.