CounselorForChrist
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Sex outside of marriage = fornication.
Fornication = sin.
Sin = no-no.
Ta-da.
Hey quit making things so easy! Its no fun if the topic doesn't end up 40 pages long!
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Sex outside of marriage = fornication.
Fornication = sin.
Sin = no-no.
Ta-da.
No, it does not necessitate that they stop having sex with one another. It comes down to their convictions. If God convicts them, then they should stop. If God never convicts them, then they don't need to stop. "Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do."
From a Christian viewpoint, how might one answer this question?
"I have recently taken an interest in Christianity, but I have been in a relationship for the past couple years. We don't see marriage possible within the next few years; Does this mean we need to stop having sex?".
9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals,[a] nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.
Ephesians 5:3
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3 But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints;
Matthew 15:19
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19 For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.
12 “And behold, I am coming quickly, and My reward is with Me, to give to every one according to his work. 13 I am the Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End, the First and the Last.”
14 Blessed are those who do His commandments, that they may have the right to the tree of life, and may enter through the gates into the city.
15 But outside are dogs and sorcerers and sexually immoral and murderers and idolaters, and whoever loves and practices a lie.
16 “I, Jesus, have sent My angel to testify to you these things in the churches. I am the Root and the Offspring of David, the Bright and Morning Star.”
That is one seriously straw-thin argument if I ever heard one.
An exclusive and deep relationship between an man and wife which God ordained at the beginning of time as a living analogy for the oneness yet different persons-ness of the Trinity. Ideally, Man, Wife and their God form a trinity which is completely unified yet distinct in persons.What does 'marry' even mean?
God created Eve as Adam's wife, therefore, she was married to Adam before her creation was actually complete.Who married Adam and Eve?
In context, perhaps not the best example, but you probably got that example from some source which was promoting an idea. What source by the way?Who married Lamech and his wives?
In my opinion, no. The first purpose I mentioned already supersedes all else. Property laws, tax laws and inheritance are petty compared to the divinely inspired purpose of "real" marriage.Do the legal processes of modern 'marriage' even really mean anything in a biblical sense?
That opens the whole "render to Cesare" line of arguments. I can tell you from experience that a documented (church & state) marriage which is God centered is far superior to an undocumented marriage that tries its best at being God centered. Why? I don't know. I have lived it and seen the proofs anecdotaly. Hard to argue with the results though, I am happy on a level a lot of people would kill many people to get to & it is just not that hard. . . . provided . . .Joining together in the sight of God and remaining together seems to be the most biblical way to describe it to me.
No need for certificates or documents, just the presence of the creator.
I notice a lot of these threads talk about sex. I think it is interesting that Christians talk about it so much.
What are the other options? Hand lotion or sticky bed sheets?
I notice a lot of these threads talk about sex. I think it is interesting that Christians talk about it so much.
no. Rather that God/godliness wasn't explicitly involved as in the case of Jacob where even though tricked he still did his best to honor Leah. The answer is the same, the cultures of that time had their own ways of demonstrating exclusiveness.@ Max Shade
I picked Lamech and his wives because i chose to skip over Cain and his wife because that opens a whole new can of worms!
Is it the polygamy aspect you felt was "a point"?
Man if you can't FEEL the answer you should be dedicating every waking moment to. . .Going back to my original questions, I ask mainly because my wife and I were married in a registry office prior to becoming followers of Christ. There was no mention of God or His son. It makes me wonder if (despite what society says) I really AM married, in the eyes of our Father?
In Scripture the formal acknowledgement of marriage signified by the giving of a woman to a man by her parents is what appears to be the core act of marriage. Sex does not marry a couple. God gave Eve to Adam, Rebekah's parents gave her away to Isaac, Laban gave away his daughters to Jacob, Tamar was angry with Shelah's father, Judah, that she had not been "given to Shelah as his wife," and so on. This giving away is the one element of the wedding ceremony, established by God in Eden, that has endured until today and appears to be the essential ceremony wedding a woman to a man as wife and husband.You have not answered my question though.
There must be a point at which couple are considered 'married' in God's eyes, but at what point is it?
We know the Samaritan woman Jesus met had been married 5 times, we know also that she was with a 6th man who was not her husband (notice there was no condemnation from Jesus about this). So what is the actual process that God considers to be 'marriage'?
Giving and receiving of rings is pagan,
It can't be cohabiting (see above) so;
Public declaration?
A religious leader overseeing?
I am asking a genuine question.
In Scripture the formal acknowledgement of marriage signified by the giving of a woman to a man by her parents is what appears to be the core act of marriage. Sex does not marry a couple. God gave Eve to Adam, Rebekah's parents gave her away to Isaac, Laban gave away his daughters to Jacob, Tamar was angry with Shelah's father, Judah, that she had not been "given to Shelah as his wife," and so on. This giving away is the one element of the wedding ceremony, established by God in Eden, that has endured until today and appears to be the essential ceremony wedding a woman to a man as wife and husband.
Selah.
Thank you for taking the time to explain this.
It does, however, cast even more doubt over my true marital status.
My wife was not "given away" by anyone. Her family dislike me.
In Scripture the formal acknowledgement of marriage signified by the giving of a woman to a man by her parents is what appears to be the core act of marriage. Sex does not marry a couple. God gave Eve to Adam, Rebekah's parents gave her away to Isaac, Laban gave away his daughters to Jacob, Tamar was angry with Shelah's father, Judah, that she had not been "given to Shelah as his wife," and so on. This giving away is the one element of the wedding ceremony, established by God in Eden, that has endured until today and appears to be the essential ceremony wedding a woman to a man as wife and husband.
Selah.
I disagree. I have at least some biblical basis for my view. It's interesting that you acknowledge that God gave Eve to Adam as his wife, which God obviously didn't have to do, but immediately dismiss it as being significant without any justification. You'll notice also that God didn't say to Adam, "Here's a woman to help you out. Do as you like with each other." When God gave Eve to Adam it was with the explanation that she was to be his wife in a unique, permanent relationship to him for the rest of Adam's life.I'm sorry, but this is preposterous - to suggest that unless a woman is "given" away by someone, she isn't really or properly married. God gave Eve to Adam, yes, but all of the "giving" of brides that you mention after that (all happening thousands of years ago in another part of the world, I might add) was a cultural ritual.
This wasn't the case with Isaac's wife, Rebekah. Her family asked her if she wanted to be given to Isaac. It was only upon her agreement that they consented to her betrothal to him. Were Rebekah's parents just culturally aberrant in this regard? I see no reason to think so. Particularly among the Israelites, women as property was not the way of things. We see in the record of Scripture women acting briefly as judges and prophets in Israel.Women didn't have rights, they were basically property, and often money exchanged hands when a woman got engaged/married; so she was "given" to her husband from her father as a way of saying "I'm done taking care of her, now you do it, because she's a female and can't exist apart from a man".
I never said that it had. Your embellishments of my statement are your own.And it has not "endured" across all cultures and peoples, through eternity.
Well, I think this is unfortunate. Very "I-am-woman-hear-me-roar" but not in keeping with the example God set for the wedding of a woman to a man in Eden.Many, many women today - Christians included (including myself!) are not "given away" by anyone! We give ourselves to our husbands, willingly and without condition.
The giving away is not itself absolutely vital. It is what the giving away signifies that is really important. And that is that a woman and man are being united together in the sacred bonds of marriage as husband and wife. They aren't just shacking up, or coming together for the purposes of illicit sexual activity, but are wedding themselves to each other in a life-long, monogamous partnership. This is formally acknowledged by the betrothal of the woman to the man.Thank you for taking the time to explain this.
It does, however, cast even more doubt over my true marital status.
My wife was not "given away" by anyone. Her family dislike me.