Pregnant Ladies... let's chat!

[Maharg]

Well, I told my sister I was pregnant. I had been waiting because I wanted to see if she was pregnant first too because I thought she might be upset if I got pregnant first as we already have one daughter. In the end I spoke to her husband and he thought it was ok to tell her so I did. She said she was happy for me but she didn't sound it. She said maybe God had given me a baby instead of her! I'd been waiting to tell her to spare her feelings but I never really thought of my own feelings and I actually feel quite hurt. I know how hard it is when you are struggling to conceive and someone else gets pregnant but she has only been trying since March although they were only using natural contraception for the last 2 1/2 years. We've been properly trying since September 2008 and it's felt like such a long journey although I know some people's journeys are much longer. It helped us that God promised us there would be another baby, so we were very very blessed.

I'm praying that God gives her a baby too. I was convinced he told me last year that he was going to bless her with a baby. She said I might have got it wrong so I am praying again and have told her that I will ask him to confirm it another three times. I am feeling very sad for her, but also feeling hurt. I am regretting telling her now. I just wanted to tell my friends and didn't want her to be the last to find out.

 

[aunt_kelly]

I think both of your responses are reasonable. You want to rejoice with your sister and she probably just wants to cry. I remember how I felt when friends would tell me if their pregnancies. I was happy for them, but I was angry with them and God for allowing that. Give her some time and space and let her know that you understand her feelings and you're praying for her. Don't bring up the pregnancy unless she asks.

 

[FaithPrevails]

I think both of your responses are reasonable. You want to rejoice with your sister and she probably just wants to cry. I remember how I felt when friends would tell me if their pregnancies. I was happy for them, but I was angry with them and God for allowing that. Give her some time and space and let her know that you understand her feelings and you're praying for her. Don't bring up the pregnancy unless she asks.

I agree with kelly - especially the bolded part. Also, if at all possible - you might want to consider delivering any additional news about the pregnancy via email or voicemail (left at a time you know she probably won't be answering her phone) to give her a chance to process the information first and deal with the emotions it evokes in her. That will [hopefully] help buffer the kind of raw response you got from her about the pregnancy so that your feelings don't get hurt, too.

 

[Niffer]

Well, I told my sister I was pregnant. I had been waiting because I wanted to see if she was pregnant first too because I thought she might be upset if I got pregnant first as we already have one daughter. In the end I spoke to her husband and he thought it was ok to tell her so I did. She said she was happy for me but she didn't sound it. She said maybe God had given me a baby instead of her! I'd been waiting to tell her to spare her feelings but I never really thought of my own feelings and I actually feel quite hurt. I know how hard it is when you are struggling to conceive and someone else gets pregnant but she has only been trying since March although they were only using natural contraception for the last 2 1/2 years. We've been properly trying since September 2008 and it's felt like such a long journey although I know some people's journeys are much longer. It helped us that God promised us there would be another baby, so we were very very blessed.

I'm praying that God gives her a baby too. I was convinced he told me last year that he was going to bless her with a baby. She said I might have got it wrong so I am praying again and have told her that I will ask him to confirm it another three times. I am feeling very sad for her, but also feeling hurt. I am regretting telling her now. I just wanted to tell my friends and didn't want her to be the last to find out.

When my SIL told me they were pregnant, I was jealous - and did try to really be sincerly happy for her right off the bat.
Still, it took time.
After a few weeks, I found that I was able to actually be happy for her, so it did come eventually.
You just need to give it some time, she'll start talking about it when she's ready to, and it sounds like you couldn't be more sensitive or considerate of her feelings - so please don't feel guilty.
This is a time of happiness!

Peace and blessings to you and your little one,
- Niffer

 

[PegasusOnFire]

Sitting here at the docs waiting for my second poke. 1 down 3 to go. Baby boy is going nuts all hyped up on sugar. 3 hour GTT.

 

[Niffer]

Sitting here at the docs waiting for my second poke. 1 down 3 to go. Baby boy is going nuts all hyped up on sugar. 3 hour GTT.

Good luck!!

 

[FaithPrevails]

Praying the 3 hour test goes well for you.

 

[FaithPrevails]

I'm 14 weeks today and am holding steady at a 2 1/2lb weight gain. I'm trying to drink more water...and I was super busy de-cluttering my house this weekend, so I think that helped keep the water retention down. It's amazing to me how early my ankles have started to swell - but the summer heat is definitely not helping. As long as they look normal again every morning, I'm trying not to freak out too much. lol

 

[PegasusOnFire]

Just got the second poke. Starting to feel hungry. I just want the next two hours to pass quickly.

 

[Niffer]

I'm 14 weeks today and am holding steady at a 2 1/2lb weight gain. I'm trying to drink more water...and I was super busy de-cluttering my house this weekend, so I think that helped keep the water retention down. It's amazing to me how early my ankles have started to swell - but the summer heat is definitely not helping. As long as they look normal again every morning, I'm trying not to freak out too much. lol

The only shoes I can comfortably wear are my crocs so I know how you feel!
I had a dream last night that I gave birth - I am SO tired of being pregnant! I just want to finally meet my little one!

 

[aunt_kelly]

Good luck with the test!!

My feet are 10x more swollen now than they were during pregnancy. Gotta love those ivs lol. I gained 40+lbs and I'll be interested to see what I weigh when I get home, lol.

 

[PegasusOnFire]

Laying down in a NST room, sick to my stomach. Only one hour to go.

 

[FaithPrevails]

The only shoes I can comfortably wear are my crocs so I know how you feel!
I had a dream last night that I gave birth - I am SO tired of being pregnant! I just want to finally meet my little one!

I hate coming home from work and having strap marks from my sandals on my feet. I am thinking about getting one of those bicycle pedal things to put under my desk so I can move my legs more while I'm working and help with the swelling. I love my job, but the one major downfall is being stuck at a desk all day.

I love the pre-baby dreams! It definitely shows you're ready to pop!

 

[FaithPrevails]

Good luck with the test!!

My feet are 10x more swollen now than they were during pregnancy. Gotta love those ivs lol. I gained 40+lbs and I'll be interested to see what I weigh when I get home, lol.

Do NOT step on the scale for the first 2 weeks...you will be disappointed! Actually, I think it takes about a week to see a noticeable drop in the scale numbers. I gained 40+ with all 3 prior pregnancies. With my first one, I gained 46lbs - by my 6 week check-up, I had lost lost 39lbs!

 

[aunt_kelly]

Lol, mistake made! Went into hospital at 221 and weighed in at 205 yesterday. Not too bad, but wanted to see below 200. But I am consoling myself by remembering how many bags of fluid I was hooked up to in a matter of 36 hours, lol!

Niffer...... Where you at????

 

[PegasusOnFire]

I passed my glucose test

 

[Niffer]

I passed my glucose test

YAY! That is good news.

I am, still here, still round and still not sleeping.
I have an appointment tomorrow and will hopefully find out if I'm effacing and such.
I feel like I can hold out until Aug 1...but as soon as I'm in Aug, I'm gonna start going a little batty with the waiting!!
Prayers for patience, and a slightly early delivery please!

Peace,
- Niff

 

[aunt_kelly]

Pegasus, that's fantastic what a weight off your shoulders!

Niffer.. Soon! Can't wait!

 

[Niffer]

LOL you should change your ticker Kelly!

 

[aunt_kelly]

LOL you should change your ticker Kelly!

Lol, you're right! I usually only check cf while nursing, so it's tough!