Prayers & Support - Please

[IntoTheCrimsonSky]

Have you seen any mold since last year's ordeal?

If so, you need to take some pictures and take them down to the super.

Maybe it's a hidden blessing that you'll have to move, though.

I don't feel very safe for you!

No, but there's water marks on the ceiling. (There were some in that area when we moved here too, interestingly). If there's mold it's formed behind the ceiling or drywall. Which is very likely, because you are supposed to create a hole in it and put a dryer or something in it. We had severe mold at out house so my mom learned how to deal with newer leaks. In that case we had a pope that leaked for years unnoticed. It was in the laundry room, under the cabnet. There was no drainage so it just formed a small pond inside! The whole room ended up needing walls removed and we still never got it all.

Wasn't there something in the OT (to do with Moses' time) that instructed people to destroy anything that was rotting..or..something like that? I remembered thinking "Aha!" when I read it years ago.

 

[TrustAndObey]

No, but there's water marks on the ceiling. (There were some in that area when we moved here too, interestingly). If there's mold it's formed behind the ceiling or drywall. Which is very likely, because you are supposed to create a hole in it and put a dryer or something in it. We had severe mold at out house so my mom learned how to deal with newer leaks. In that case we had a pope that leaked for years unnoticed. It was in the laundry room, under the cabnet. There was no drainage so it just formed a small pond inside! The whole room ended up needing walls removed and we still never got it all.

A leaky pope ain't good for nobody!!

Sorry, typos can be extraordinarily funny and yours was my favorite of ALL time! (I hope that made you smile little sis).

It usually does take a long-time leak for the bad mold to start, and man, once it does.....

Hopefully this one will be thwarted (my favorite word) before it starts growing the spores.

Wasn't there something in the OT (to do with Moses' time) that instructed people to destroy anything that was rotting..or..something like that? I remembered thinking "Aha!" when I read it years ago.

I don't remember that. I know that he told the people to destroy pots that ever had rotten meat in them. God knew about germs long before we did, amen?!

I gotta get to bed. Sweetie, you'll be in my prayers tomorrow and tell your mom she has a country girl in the states praying for her to hold her head up HIGH.

 

[IntoTheCrimsonSky]

A leaky pope ain't good for nobody!!

Sorry, typos can be extraordinarily funny and yours was my favorite of ALL time! (I hope that made you smile little sis).

ROFL!! I thought it was your typo when I first read your reply, untill I looked back over mine. I actually laughed out loud at that one. Will so have to tell my mom, cause I'm still laughing. Haha!

It usually does take a long-time leak for the bad mold to start, and man, once it does.....

Hopefully this one will be thwarted (my favorite word) before it starts growing the spores.

I hope so too. Even if we aren't here anymore, I'd hate for someone else to get sick, you know? Friend of ours in the building has mold in their bathroom with two kids that stay on weekends, it's scary for him..but he cannot afford to leave. Apparently one of the tenants also had their bathtub tile replaced after one cracked, and they got pictures..the whole wall behind the tile was moldy, and all the guys did was put tile ontop of it!!! *shudder*

I don't remember that. I know that he told the people to destroy pots that ever had rotten meat in them. God knew about germs long before we did, amen?!

I gotta get to bed. Sweetie, you'll be in my prayers tomorrow and tell your mom she has a country girl in the states praying for her to hold her head up HIGH.

Hmm. Maybe I got that confused, but I thought it had to do with houses. I'll have to re-read those books sometime soon to see if I just remember wrong. Either way, I hardly doubt God would be pro-mold.

Thanks, Sis. I'm glad you were on. Brightened up my mood a bit! Hope you have a good sleep!

 

[OntheDL]

Psalm 23
1 The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.
2 He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.
3 He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.
4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
5 Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.

Hi Sarah,

If you have been born again, then you belong to the LORD, you are secure in the holy place for sanctification. Satan is outside of the camp, he can not get to you without going through Him first. That's what verse 4 means.

May God bless you!

Hey guys,

Thanks again for all the support. I'm sorry I haven't properly replied to most of you in awhile..Haven't really had the focus, and there's been soooo many people to contact. I've been reading your messages, though.

Funeral is tomorrow. So far that seems to be going okay, we're just praying my mom's health holds up to make it through the whole thing...and that people don't shun her.

Today was supposed to be a rest day for the both of us (not Sabbath, on her part, but resting regardless)..but it didn't happen. We found out we have some major water leaks coming in through the ceilings of two different bedrooms in our apartment. We had it in hers last spring, due to the fact the cement is crumbling on the outside above her window...aparently it came back and multiplied. We spent half the day moving furniture and curtains to try and save them from the water! So much for no stress before the funeral. It appears we'll have to get the strength to move as soon as possible, too..as she's severely allergic to mold. (Last thing we need, she's been having major problems with her health issues the past couple weeks..including a lot of lung pain. )

How many more things can go wrong? Nonetheless, I have faith God won't give us more than we can take..it could certainly be a lot worse, and I trust Him.

 

[thecountrydoc]

Sarah my Dear, listen to me very closely! Your mother may be in very grave danger!

I have not presonaly examined her nor will I attempt to give a clinical evaluation via the internet. That being said however, from what you have chosen to share with me about your mother's health and now this mold problem, eventhough the complete extent is yet unknown, PLEASE get a professional healthcare provider to evaluate her and also make a formal complaint to your local housing authority. Please don't wait for any response from your landlord. He has nothing to loose but money. If you have questions you know that you are welcome to contact me at anytime. I should also mention that this site will be shutdown again for an unknown abount of time starting sometime tomorrow afternoon so it would probably be best to e-mail me at thecountrydoc@cox.net

I also want to tell you that you and your mom have been in our prayers all day today and will continue to be included with each family prayer. You may not see my whole family at the funeral tomorrow but we will be there in spirit.

May God put His loving arms around around you, the Holy Angels protect you, and the Holy Spirit confort you in this hour of need.

In Christian Love,
Doc

 

[IntoTheCrimsonSky]

Psalm 23
1 The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.
2 He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.
3 He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.
4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
5 Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.

Hi Sarah,

If you have been born again, then you belong to the LORD, you are secure in the holy place for sanctification. Satan is outside of the camp, he can not get to you without going through Him first. That's what verse 4 means.

May God bless you!

Thank you, DL. I bought a Psalms calander for this year and, ironically, verse 4 was what I was looking at every day last month.

Sarah my Dear, listen to me very closely! Your mother may be in very grave danger!

I have not presonaly examined her nor will I attempt to give a clinical evaluation via the internet. That being said however, from what you have chosen to share with me about your mother's health and now this mold problem, eventhough the complete extent is yet unknown, PLEASE get a professional healthcare provider to evaluate her and also make a formal complaint to your local housing authority. Please don't wait for any response from your landlord. He has nothing to loose but money. If you have questions you know that you are welcome to contact me at anytime. I should also mention that this site will be shutdown again for an unknown abount of time starting sometime tomorrow afternoon so it would probably be best to e-mail me at thecountrydoc@cox.net

I also want to tell you that you and your mom have been in our prayers all day today and will continue to be included with each family prayer. You may not see my whole family at the funeral tomorrow but we will be there in spirit.

May God put His loving arms around around you, the Holy Angels protect you, and the Holy Spirit confort you in this hour of need.

In Christian Love,
Doc

Hi Doc,

I'm replying here because I've emailed you before and never recieved a reply, so I'm unsure if they even get to you. (I've always had bad luck with emails, certain people rarely get mine)

Thank you for your concern about my mom. If you're referring to the mold as causing her problems, believe me..we're well aware. Ever since the mold was found about 7 years ago at our house, my mom's done a lot of research about it all. Back then it nearly killed her a few times, too. The one benefit we have this time is that the symptoms are very different, but we're aware that doesn't count it out. My doctor has agreed it's a possibility, too.

The problem we faced was money, though. We didn't have the funds to move and in the case we got the health department in to look at it, we knew there was a chance we'd be displaced for quite awhile (not the first building this year to end up that way). We had no where to go or to store our stuff, so it's sorta been a waiting game..(No friends or family to help)..and hoping that it's something else causing her problems. Ironically, and sadly, my dad's passing is now going to make the funds available to leave soon. Just gotta give it a bit of time to get it all sorted out and find a place.

Nonetheless, I have faith now that God'll help us. If it is the apartment, He'll sustain her long enough to get us out of here if it's His will. I've seen so many miracles from Him in supporting us over the past couple years that I'm not too concerned.

There is one benefit to this, though. If they'd actually agree that it could be mold in the building (they meaning management)..their office is on the top and bottom floors, so they'd hardly want to get sick themselves, would that?

The problem is going to be finding a non-moldy place to move to. We chose this one because all of the others we looked at are either way above our budget or looked like they had water damage in places. They stopped building apartments and renters a good 20 years ago in our city (our current was built in the 70's!), so all of the ones around are in poor condition. Unless, by God's grace, there's enough to buy a small house in that money coming to us...I don't know where we'll go in general.

And thank you for the support in regards to the funeral today. I got word a couple days ago an old friend of mine that I grew up with, and haven't seen in a couple years, is going to be there..so I'm looking forward to at least seeing her again.

 

[IntoTheCrimsonSky]

Wow..

Got a really bad shock today. Appearently the trustee of my dad's will is a old friend of his whom none of us trust anymore. Even my dad didn't in the past years, as he'd really screwed him several times...but he forgot he'd made him trustee.

..So now, we're facing possibly being on the street very soon again, because our "friend" may chose to take his time on sorting the money and investing it, to the point it could take a year untill we see it.

We may have to take him to court. My dad only died just over a week ago and now we're faced with this, plus my mom's failing health...

...I seriously am feeling overwhelmed right now. System overload...

Just Monday we found out there'd be enough (we were about 85% sure) to buy a house! We were soo happy, and in shock..now..this...

...We might never even see some of the money now.

 

[TrustAndObey]

My dad was named as trustee on a will for his aunt, who is very ill and could go at any time. He was named so that the gubment couldn't get their hands on her stuff and drag it out for years.

You might be surprised. This guy may be swift about dispersing the money where your dad wanted it to go.

People have a tendency to do the right thing after a friend passes, especially if they didn't do it when they were alive. We romanticize people and relationships when someone passes, but hopefully this guy will do the right thing--and fast.

 

[IntoTheCrimsonSky]

I hope you're right. I try really hard to see his side in this, and that he's doing what he thinks he should..

But he's already had my mom in tears over it. Was really talking mean to her on the phone about it, when all she was trying to do was offer help. We know where everything is and he doesn't know where anything is, yet he's telling my mom that she has no part in it all. Meaning it'll take him 6 months or maybe a year (his words) to track it all down and pay off debts (even though we know there were none, but he wont listen there either). My mom and I could have had it done in maybe a month or two, easily. Places are already calling her to get things straightened out cause she's the spouse and they assume the one they need.

To make it worse, she asked for the will (which he found in a box of my dad's stuff he was storing, by chance)..and he said no! He opened it alone and refuses to give us it. Even though my mom needs it for papers to get money from the government that she needs to fill out a.s.a.p! He's keeping it all..secretive..not cooperating, and doing it in the way he wants to. Even so much as he's sayin he's going to invest some of it for us, without our say.

We may try to talk to him again later, see if he's let my mom talk this time without interrupting her rudely. If not, we're gonna need a lawyer...this is a LOT of money.

 

[TrustAndObey]

Sarah, I think your dad's friend thinks he has more power than what he actually does. As the trustee on his aunt's will, my dad only has the power to distribute the money as his aunt TOLD him to in her will. He can't take any out or invest it, he has to do exactly what she stated should be done.

I can't imagine that being too different in Canada?

 

[OntheDL]

I hope you're right. I try really hard to see his side in this, and that he's doing what he thinks he should..

But he's already had my mom in tears over it. Was really talking mean to her on the phone about it, when all she was trying to do was offer help. We know where everything is and he doesn't know where anything is, yet he's telling my mom that she has no part in it all. Meaning it'll take him 6 months or maybe a year (his words) to track it all down and pay off debts (even though we know there were none, but he wont listen there either). My mom and I could have had it done in maybe a month or two, easily. Places are already calling her to get things straightened out cause she's the spouse and they assume the one they need.

To make it worse, she asked for the will (which he found in a box of my dad's stuff he was storing, by chance)..and he said no! He opened it alone and refuses to give us it. Even though my mom needs it for papers to get money from the government that she needs to fill out a.s.a.p! He's keeping it all..secretive..not cooperating, and doing it in the way he wants to. Even so much as he's sayin he's going to invest some of it for us, without our say.

We may try to talk to him again later, see if he's let my mom talk this time without interrupting her rudely. If not, we're gonna need a lawyer...this is a LOT of money.

Is there a way you can document this and take him to court?

 

[IntoTheCrimsonSky]

Sarah, I think your dad's friend thinks he has more power than what he actually does. As the trustee on his aunt's will, my dad only has the power to distribute the money as his aunt TOLD him to in her will. He can't take any out or invest it, he has to do exactly what she stated should be done.

I can't imagine that being too different in Canada?

Is there a way you can document this and take him to court?

Legally he can invest it and give us the investments. My mom looked that all up, and the will didn't state either way. By law he is supposed to combine ALL assets into one account that only he has access to (which scares us), and then when it's all got and all bills are paid (including himself, apparently trustees get paid like 3% of all assets according to him..?)..at that point he gives us all left over. Not supposed to give a cent untill it's all done though.

Thankfully he's being a bit more civil. We talked to him about the situation and my mom's health and he's agreed to let us help him. We can do almost everything, but paper work will require him to sign something more than likely. Still won't be able to widthdraw from the trustee account, though.

We're very..apprehensive, though. It could be all talk on his behalf, but we're going to give him a chance before taking it to court.

Technically he could find an investment we are unaware of and never claim it or put it into the account, just taking it for himself. If we never knew, how could we fight it..?

There's a major road block, though. A really sad one, too. All of his estates are to be sold, right? After making the will my dad co-signed my grandpa's condo cause he was too old to get a mortgage. So, technically half of it's value MUST be taken from my grandpa (either by selling or buying us out) before we can see a cent of the inheratence. The poor guy just lost his wife and son, has bad health..and we may have to kick him out very soon in order to get any of the money. We're trying to find a loop-hole right now, but it's a sad place to be in..My dad never realized or he would have changed the will.

 

[IntoTheCrimsonSky]

Oh, and my mom's MRI is tomorrow. Please pray! She's been in bad health due to no rest and a lot of stress, so we're worried she won't be able to go through it with. We don't want to have to push it out several months, especially since we recently found out my doctor has prostate cancer and won't be around for awhile (it looks hopeful at the moment)..so we want to get this done with before he's back.

 

[Mankin]

I'm sorry I didn't see this thread before. I will make sure to keep you and your parents in my prayers. Just don't make yourself sick from worry.

 

[Mankin]

It's times like this when we must cling the hardest to God. I know I can never understand your situation Crimson but God does. I will pray that you will get through this. Just have faith. I know faith is hard right now, but this is the time when you need it the most.

 

[IntoTheCrimsonSky]

Aww, thanks Mankin.

I just keep pushing on trying to focus on the fact that there's a light at the end of the tunnel, you know? Hopefully this will give me a really great testimony to help others with, too.

 

[IntoTheCrimsonSky]

This is a nightmare. We found out there's a good chance my dad's will is either not valid, or FRAUDULANT! There's even a chance his friend (the trustee who suggested the lawyer cause they are best buddies) could be scamming my dad and us, in order to get money.

We'll be seeing a lawyer tomorrow (which won't be cheap, oy) to see if the will is void..but it's 90% likely it is because the witnesses were not present when my dad signed it. We know because my mom and I were there. It was done in '02, but we didn't even meet one of the witnesses untill the funeral the other week!

..This is..really messed up, and my mom's barely here. It's killing her. Please please please pray!

 

[honorthesabbath]

Sarah--your situation is the ONLY reason I come back into this forum now. I haven't posted until now, although I have been reading your posts and my heart, is once again, broken for you.

Except for prayer--I'm at a loss as to what to tell you to do. I think God is showing us all that this world is not worth living in any longer. The corruption is complete--EVERY-WHERE--it is 'time to go home with Jesus'. Hang in there kiddo--we are all praying and pulling for you.

 

[IntoTheCrimsonSky]

Thank you.

The trustee's even turned the family against us at this point. Well, granted, they didn't really care anyway...but there was a chance the will could really screw my grandpa, so we wanted them to come over to explain it all to them and so maybe they'd support us (they being my grandpa and dad's bro). THey agreed to come over today...and never showed. Found out that the trustee had talked to them. They never even called us to cancel or ask our side.

We have a friend who's supporting us. Even spent the whole day over here because the trustee was supposed to come by to drop off some of my dad's stuff (he threw out a lot of it, but apparently decided we could have one box. Sigh)...and he never even called. Our friend, Chuck, was to be here for support cause we're actually kinda scared of this guy. Not to mention my mom's state. Beyond that, though...we dont really have any support. Sigh. Just the two of us.

I know God's got a plan, I really do. It's..scary right now, though. We've got this really nice lawyer to see tomorrow, but he's expensive..and it'll mean no rent for next month. And the trustee has all the funds locked down and unaccessable to us, even giving us problems when we needed the origional will (which he's never shown us) to get some pension benefits for my mom, which we need to do asap.

..It's just..a mess.

 

[Mankin]

In these days, the trust in trustee has been completely wiped out. You are planning to sue him I presume?