Prayer requests

[bcauser]

Thanks for the encouragement.Keep praying
Bless
B

 

[keeptrying]

I will say a prayer for guidance Bonnie. My father also is getting on in years and recently took a fall at home and broke two bones in his wrist so I know what you are going through. Someday our children will be making decisions about our care and future.

 

[bcauser]

Thank you so much. I never realized how hard this would be. We need guidance lots and lots.
Bless
B

 

[keeptrying]

 

[njsisterinChrist]

My brother and sister and I really need prayer on the next step to take as far as our mother is concerned. It is getting pretty obvious that her staying in the big house by herself is coming to an end. She is being very stubborn and will not accept any help. We are trying to get a doctor to evaluate the situation and let him be the one to tell her what has to be done now,we hope she will listen to him. But even getting her to go to him is being very stressful for her and for us. Just please,even you don't know us, keep us in your prayers for guidance for us so we can make the best decisions for the safety and welfare for our Mom. This is getting so it is soooo hard, almost harder than raising children(we know what is best for them and do it) a parent,and knowing what is best is not as cut and clear and then they don't listen and make you feel your out to get them. Just pray.
Bless
Bonnie

Bonnie,
I will be praying for you.
It is so hard to see our parents age, and grow to need us as much as we needed them as children.
God Bless and please try to hang in there.
Lynn

 

[bcauser]

Thank you so much for the prayers.
We just found out the doctor who took her MRI and started to evaluate her wants to see her quite badly. So far the app. is set up for 22. So now the job will be convincing her to go. My daughter and I have that job. Hopefully she'll go without any problems.
Bless
B

 

[sk8Joyful]

My brother and sister and I really need prayer on the next step to take as far as our mother is concerned.

It is getting pretty obvious that her staying in the big house by herself is coming to an end. She is being very stubborn and will not accept any help. We are trying to get a doctor to evaluate the situation and let him be the one to tell her what has to be done now, we hope she will listen to him. But even getting her to go to him is being very stressful for her and for us. Just please, ven you don't know us, keep us in your prayers for guidance for us so we can make the best decisions for the safety and welfare for our Mom.

This is getting so it is soooo hard, almost harder than raising children (we know what is best for them and do it) a parent, and knowing what is best is not as cut and clear - and then they don't listen and make you feel your out to get them. Just pray.
Bless
Bonnie

Hi Bonnie

Well, having served most of my life as an enthusiastic Advocate for a broad spectrum of vulnerable individuals, how Open are you to "their perspective"? of the situation.

As a Health-facilitor, and manager, of many such vulnerable individuals, they have valid concerns -
Chief amongst them: being stripped of their GOD-blessed Free will & choice, understandably sacred to most people. Are you aware of the fact that most people, upon finding themselves admitted to institutions, correspondingly lose their will to *live*, and the ones who don't succeed in dying quickly, just end-up wasting away. That is criminal , and should not be one single child-of-GOD's lot. Tragically, millions have suffered that fate.

Your own dear mother, Bonnie - deserves being encouraged and allowed to *actively Plan/Live her own life*... ~ and yes, for this I will pray... Do you understand what I'm saying here, Bonnie?

Annie

 

[bcauser]

Thank you Annie for your input. We have given my Mom the freedom to live and do exactly what she wants and we want to still do this for her, but only if she is safe. She has been diagnosed with dementia and it has got worse in the last 11/2. We will leave her where ever she wants if she is safe. Pray for us.

 

[bcauser]

Well just to keep you prayer warriors up to date. Today I took the first step and told my Mom that she and I were going to doctor on Mon. to get evaluated and have the MRI read. She really took it quite well. Mon. will be the big day, depending on out come with test results we will then know what decisions to make next. Please pray for the Lord's will and guidance and wisdom for us and the doctors. Thank You all
Bless
B

 

[nanajojo]

Well just to keep you prayer warriors up to date. Today I took the first step and told my Mom that she and I were going to doctor on Mon. to get evaluated and have the MRI read. She really took it quite well. Mon. will be the big day, depending on out come with test results we will then know what decisions to make next. Please pray for the Lord's will and guidance and wisdom for us and the doctors. Thank You all
Bless
B

prayers for you and your Mother

 

[bcauser]

Thanks Jo. Here I worried about her all night thinking I upset her and called today and she doesn't even remember it. Boy I glad the Lord protects her.
Bless
B

 

[Jim1927]

Bcauser, One night wife's father was up all evening turning on and off all the light switches......He finally went to bed at 4:AM.......The hydro had a problem and the street lamp outdoors went off...He said, "I don't know which switch it was, but I finally found it."

Dementia works like that. He didn't have a clue about day-to-day things, but sometimes I could talk with him as if we were back in England. Then he was ok for about half an hour. He started to wander away and it was time to put him in a nursing home.

Do not feel guilty or take the blame for putting your mother in a home. It is the best place for them, and the best for the family caregivers too.

Cheers,

Jim

 

[bcauser]

Bcauser, One night wife's father was up all evening turning on and off all the light switches......He finally went to bed at 4:AM.......The hydro had a problem and the street lamp outdoors went off...He said, "I don't know which switch it was, but I finally found it."

Dementia works like that. He didn't have a clue about day-to-day things, but sometimes I could talk with him as if we were back in England. Then he was ok for about half an hour. He started to wander away and it was time to put him in a nursing home.

Do not feel guilty or take the blame for putting your mother in a home. It is the best place for them, and the best for the family caregivers too.

Cheers,

Jim

Thanks Jim that sure helps. Like J. Meyers says about adult children trying to take care of parents "you can't fix em, let God do it". We're trying.
Bless
B

 

[sk8Joyful]

Bcauser, One night wife's father was up all evening turning on and off all the light switches......He finally went to bed at 4:AM.......The hydro had a problem and the street lamp outdoors went off...He said, "I don't know which switch it was, but I finally found it."

Dementia works like that. He didn't have a clue about day-to-day things, but sometimes I could talk with him as if we were back in England. Then he was ok for about half an hour. He started to wander away and it was time to put him in a nursing home.

Do not feel guilty or take the blame for putting your mother in a home. It is the best place for them, and the best for the family caregivers too.

Cheers,

Jim

Statistics are not encouraging for the fate of Nursing-home residents; as I can further verify, having worked in countless such institutions, in 4 US states.

All too often, such empoverished folk either die within a month of admission; or they deteriorate mentally quickly, and then, their bodies shut-down a system at a time. ~ My mother knew this, and I promised her "Never would I inflict that on you".
But my 3-siblings, decided to wrestle POA - and (wanting peace, I stepped outa the picture). They realized their mistake too late, and our mother died a painfully long, drawnout death... My 3 siblings
(not Christians) will get to answer to GOD someday, for their selfishness.

Bonnie, you live in New York State? -
This web-site will introduce you to Healthier alternatives: http://www.aging.state.ny.us/explore/housing/housalt2.htm
What you want to carefully explore, and find *with your mother's Welcome approval*, is a "Licensed Adult-Family Home". ~ Such a Home (limited to 6 residents) I managed in the 90's, with the State awarding us "Flawless inspection surveys". In fact, the Inspector said "We will gladly go on your waiting-list, for my mom. You are an exceptional woman. My hat's off to you". ~ And true, our Waiting-list was 4 pages long.

In an examplary Family-home, Bonnie - your own sweet mother is treated not just compassionately;
better yet, she is encouraged to continue Learning... Enjoying her life as *she chooses...*

I wish this for your dear Mom, and will continue praying that you Bonnie as her Advocate will
do all within your power to so Bless her. In Jesus' name

Annie

 

[bcauser]

thanks for input Annie
Bless
B

 

[Jim1927]

Certainly there are bad homes, but not all are bad. The three we have in my area are very good and the staff give personal care all the time. Some people have been residents in these homes for 15-20 years and their health is as good as can be expected given their condition.

Looking after a parent with alzheimers or dementia or the bad effects of a stroke can be very hard on the caregiver, and often the one's health that goes downhill fast is the caregiver.

I stand behind what I wrote about you not become guilty about taking the steps necessary to looking after your mother. Certainly we don't lose the responsibility to visit and care ABOUT our loved ones, but they are in a place where professionals will give them what they need, when they need it.

Cheers, God bless, and my prayers are with you in making this decision.

Jim

 

[sk8Joyful]

Bonnie -
as an enthusiastic Advocate for individuals Basic-human rights,
*championing anyone Disadvantaged* seems natural to me.

(so I started a seperate thread on this Vital subject.)

I wish all *4+ Generations* being affected here, the very finest deepest BEST ~ Annie

 

[miggles]

Could y'all please pray for my mother? She pulled a muscle in her back and went to the doctor today. He took x-rays and said he didn't think it was a fracture but will check her again in 2 weeks. He also said that she has severe osteoporosis. He said she barely had any bones at all. Please pray that her back heals soon and that there is no fracture and that her bones get stronger. Thanks.

 

[nanajojo]

oh Migs prayers for your Mother.

 

[keeptrying]

Absolutely!!!! Many prayers for you Mother, Miggs. God bless you both.
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