TLDR: I tried to be concise, just the facts, never mind the emotions at play etc, you can read between some lines too, there is a lot. If you don't have time to read the whole thing, I've numbered the paragraphs, maybe pick pieces to pray about and indicate the number if you reply, so together we can try to cover it? You will see I will be extremely busy for the next few days, so not sure what and when I will be able to respond, but prayers are greatly coveted and appreciated!!
1. I thought I would be starting the new year well, having made progress in discipline in various things in December. Now it comes, an issue of a different type I've had to deal with before (God's prepping for sure, though that was its own nightmare!), but coming at me from more sides.
2. My sister L, who has mental and physical health issues and uses a walker, has bedbugs. She has suspected for 2 months before I found one and got it checked on Monday. The only two people she has regular contact with are me and a guy friend D. Both me and her friend are employed by a friend of mine P, having the highest number of (paid) hours in taking care of my friend's mother N with dementia in her home (24/7 care).
3. I am essentially responsible for the precautions L and I, and now D, employment-wise, need to take in going to people's places.
4. My mother just told me L and I should not have come to the New Years gathering. I wanted to say something sooner to both her and P, but delayed to respect L's privacy/mental health and because I considered (hopefuly not gambled?) that I had built up trust with how I'd handled it before. But higher stress/guilt for me not to tell them. We both took precautions. If I'd framed it like being "sick" maybe it would have helped L understand? That it should have been either tell them first or don't go? I am her ride. "We've caught a bad bug!?" (Sense of humour is good resource sometimes!)
5. Parents take a largely hands-off approach. Welfare should have to deal with it. But then she would stand to lose all her books and movies since what preparations require leaves no extra space whatsoever. But my Dad built a box for storage outside three years ago which we are very grateful for. We have different taste, but I have my own book collection (and have had to store mine and hers in "the box" at different times in similar circumstances
), so I understand. Two brothers live at home, they would likely be more sympathetic than parents, but their help probably off limits. Other siblings have families and live out of town.
6. It was easier last time when L kept herself more housebound between her and D's place. Though I'm very glad she is now in a somewhat better mental space, still depressed, but stretches seem shorter at a time? She recently made a specific decision for the Lord, was talking of baptism.
6. I'm also responsible for clearing out and readying L's small apartment, lots of laundry, about 8 large bookshelves to empty, probably rent a truck to take to a large storage box at my parents' place. But will be alot to haul by myself. Last time I had the help of a friend and his truck.
7. P has told me she won't give me time off to deal with this. I understand. She has 7 children, 8th is on the way this month. I will have to do the bulk of it before I go back to work Sunday at 9pm, since my time is largely chunked out Sun-Thurs.
8. Also L had picked tomorrow Jan 3 as her smoking quit date after a number of weeks already on Champix on health advice for recent breathing issues, as well as an operation she was supposed to have a couple years ago already.
9. And D's pregnant relative passed away Dec 31 under suspected terrible circumstances, causing him to miss his shift working with N and then New Years at my parents'. But he can't afford to lose more work.
10. L and I had also planned to do vet and doctor clinic stuff tomorrow too (L hurt her knee last Sat).
11. I've done my research a couple years back, so I know the drill, though I know there is always more to learn, and not all the info is readily available for specific detailed questions I have.
So lots going on, lots to do, lots of responsibility, lots to prioritize and handle in many spheres. Plenty of rocks and hard places, but at least all people of general goodwill. And a God who is BIGGER! Thank you in advance for prayers (and reading this far!), and happy new year everyone!!
1. I thought I would be starting the new year well, having made progress in discipline in various things in December. Now it comes, an issue of a different type I've had to deal with before (God's prepping for sure, though that was its own nightmare!), but coming at me from more sides.
2. My sister L, who has mental and physical health issues and uses a walker, has bedbugs. She has suspected for 2 months before I found one and got it checked on Monday. The only two people she has regular contact with are me and a guy friend D. Both me and her friend are employed by a friend of mine P, having the highest number of (paid) hours in taking care of my friend's mother N with dementia in her home (24/7 care).
3. I am essentially responsible for the precautions L and I, and now D, employment-wise, need to take in going to people's places.
4. My mother just told me L and I should not have come to the New Years gathering. I wanted to say something sooner to both her and P, but delayed to respect L's privacy/mental health and because I considered (hopefuly not gambled?) that I had built up trust with how I'd handled it before. But higher stress/guilt for me not to tell them. We both took precautions. If I'd framed it like being "sick" maybe it would have helped L understand? That it should have been either tell them first or don't go? I am her ride. "We've caught a bad bug!?" (Sense of humour is good resource sometimes!)
5. Parents take a largely hands-off approach. Welfare should have to deal with it. But then she would stand to lose all her books and movies since what preparations require leaves no extra space whatsoever. But my Dad built a box for storage outside three years ago which we are very grateful for. We have different taste, but I have my own book collection (and have had to store mine and hers in "the box" at different times in similar circumstances
), so I understand. Two brothers live at home, they would likely be more sympathetic than parents, but their help probably off limits. Other siblings have families and live out of town.6. It was easier last time when L kept herself more housebound between her and D's place. Though I'm very glad she is now in a somewhat better mental space, still depressed, but stretches seem shorter at a time? She recently made a specific decision for the Lord, was talking of baptism.
6. I'm also responsible for clearing out and readying L's small apartment, lots of laundry, about 8 large bookshelves to empty, probably rent a truck to take to a large storage box at my parents' place. But will be alot to haul by myself. Last time I had the help of a friend and his truck.
7. P has told me she won't give me time off to deal with this. I understand. She has 7 children, 8th is on the way this month. I will have to do the bulk of it before I go back to work Sunday at 9pm, since my time is largely chunked out Sun-Thurs.
8. Also L had picked tomorrow Jan 3 as her smoking quit date after a number of weeks already on Champix on health advice for recent breathing issues, as well as an operation she was supposed to have a couple years ago already.
9. And D's pregnant relative passed away Dec 31 under suspected terrible circumstances, causing him to miss his shift working with N and then New Years at my parents'. But he can't afford to lose more work.
10. L and I had also planned to do vet and doctor clinic stuff tomorrow too (L hurt her knee last Sat).
11. I've done my research a couple years back, so I know the drill, though I know there is always more to learn, and not all the info is readily available for specific detailed questions I have.
So lots going on, lots to do, lots of responsibility, lots to prioritize and handle in many spheres. Plenty of rocks and hard places, but at least all people of general goodwill. And a God who is BIGGER! Thank you in advance for prayers (and reading this far!), and happy new year everyone!!
