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She went raging again and chucked my pillows around. I have to pay her some money. Maybe she will go to canada and stay there?
I have nowhere to go, Im not going anywhere. She theeatened to put me out onto the street. She also said lies about me, like it wasnt my house when we are in family trust and I have a right to live where I am born, Im not leaving the country for no job. Its terrible. Pleae pray that the mouths of lions be stopped.

Im sure the neighbours heard her yelling and screaming.
 
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Well thats weird or maybe a God thing. She is no longer yelling at me or even talking to me anymore. Which is surprisingly peaceful. Well if she wants to hold a grudge forever for a perceived slight, then I suppose she can.

I asked forgiveness and for her to stop yelling at me, well, she didnt forgive me but at least she stopped yelling and throwing things around. Honestly my mother can act like a six year old.

It must be the submitting to God and the devil will flee thing happening. Ive seen that happen before with unbelievers, like they literally recede from you when God is mentioned. And I didnt have to mention him, just once and mum wouldnt admit she lied or did the same thing to me she was accusing me of.

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Im wondering how long shes going to stop talking to me for, but that doesnt seem to bother me now. She just complains about me and only says unkind things all the time, but I dont listen to lies anymore.

I wonder what other mothers are like. From what I hear, other peoples mothers love their children unconditionally. I wish I had that. They also bless them. I've never been blessed, I wonder what that is like as well.
 
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I just said cant move out because house prices are unaffordable and nowhere to move to.
We made up and its not likely I will find a husband here.

I love my home, its easy for other people to say, move, but in reality its hard. I could live in a cabin with strangers in a trailer park I suppose, but that wouldnt be home. Also, it would be noisy and apparently lots of drug addicts live there.

Besides that is not biblical advice, the advice given is, follow Jesus and he hasnt shown me anywhere to go yet. If He shows me where to go, I will move, but up to then Im standing my ground. Also if the unbelieving depart, to let them depart. So if my mum wants to move to an apartment, that would be fine. It would actually be easier for her to leave than me, she can afford a granny flat.

My sister had basically given up her birthright to go live in UK, I have been there, but it doesnt appeal to me at all. Nz is my home, Im not leaving. People come from all the way across the world to live here, why would I leave?
 
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My sister doesnt have a particularly good relationship with my mother anyway. So I dont think moving to the other side of the world is the answer. She still has to come home one day unless she wants to be buried there.

There is nothing wrong with my neighbourhood, to imply its somehwere I want to leave is wrong. i have all my friends here and do not fancy going to some hick town where i have no friends, just because my mum has control issues.
 
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When God called abraham to leave his home, He spoke to him. Clearly and said he would show him the place to go.
He didnt leave just cos someone else said to, or he wasnt getting along with his parents (who had died before he left anyway, so it wasnt like he was leaving them behind to fend for themselves).
When the disciples followed Jesus, of course he showed them where to go, he didnt just say leave you families for nothing. People who say just leave arent really thinking of the cost of leaving, because if you do truly leave home, you can never go back.

If fire and brimstone was raining down on Auckland, yes of course I would flee. But God wanted Lot to leave Sodom and Gommorah because of the sodomy and fornication and immorality there, not because his parents were treating him harshly and didnt want him to tidy up the house.
 
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I had been praying and really what God said to me was that I was to follow Him and do what He says. Even if my mother doesn't like it.
Some days its hard because, well, my mother is no longer 'my idol' to please like she may have been when I was younger and didn't know God. She doesn't like being usurped, and kicks up a big fuss. If God is hardening my mothers heart like the Pharoah, and saying 'let my people go' it would be different, I could cross the Red Sea if I had to. But he has already set me free, and I think the hardest thing is showing my mother His love when she won't accept it.

There are no homes for unloved daughters in this world except in Heaven. And believe me I know many daughters who've tried to leave the world behind but did not have Jesus and ended up being abused further by so-called husbands and boyfriends.
 
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I have a applied for a student allowance as I'm learning by distance and talking to the chaplain of my school maybe something will come up....in the South Island. arrgh.

I'm reading this book about a 28 year old girl who moved in with her parents, her mother sounds worse. Although, her mother wants everything clean, my mum is the opposite, she just rang me to say not to touch anything and leave all the dust there. OK. And then she will complain that I don't clean anything. what??
 
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her brother moved to Thailand and got a job teaching people to dive at the beach.

hmm. Well. Lucky for some. I think daughters get it the worst. The other night had a reprieve but then I noticed my friend bossing her daughter and trying to tell her what to do, well, she cannot respect you if you treat her like that either. Her daughter is 13, and when you are 13 of course you are not 6 years old anymore and you have a mind of your own.
Then she would complain to me about teenagers. well duh. Teenagers don't appreciate being yelled at. Especially in public, for not being your personal slave.
 
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