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I think pornography is almost always a bad thing. For one thing, it degrades the participants and the readers. It attracts the most base elements of the population and reduces sex to an impulse function without any kind of connection or meaning. That seems creepy to me.
 
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I think pornography is almost always a bad thing. For one thing, it degrades the participants and the readers. It attracts the most base elements of the population and reduces sex to an impulse function without any kind of connection or meaning. That seems creepy to me.

Finally....someone who agrees with me!! :clap: Out of reps but I'll try tomorrow! :wave:
 
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If my bf wants to watch porn, I really don't care. To me, it doesn't mean that he loves me any less. I don't feel like there's competition between me and a porn star.

I can't say that it's true for everyone, but I can say that for myself, I don't lust after the actors in pornography. A lot of the time I don't even find them attractive. What I find erotic are the acts, so that's what I pay attention to; not the people doing them. And I have a pretty active imagination, to say the least, so if I'm intrigued by an act I've certainly got my own porno playing in my head, which doesn't involve those other people at all.

ick..i hate porn stars. Remember when I was telling you about my job at Wolf Camera, and this one guy who went to these conventions to take pictures of scantily clad porn stars . Then he would bring tons of slides and photos to print out. =p

and I had to look though hundreds and hundreds of them one by one to correct the colors....::shudders:: Im sorry, but I didn't see how he even found them attractive.

In fact i would say I do dislike much of porn and think some of it is degrading to sex. Cause the lot of it is just all the same, and it just gets stupid and boring with no emotion.

I do however enjoy what would be classified as erotica, but not many people even do that well.
 
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Cause the lot of it is just all the same, and it just gets stupid and boring with no emotion.

I do however enjoy what would be classified as erotica, but not many people even do that well.

I completely agree.

I just can't seem to find any erotica, though. :p
 
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Its our natural instinct. I have a fiancee of over a year and I look at other women, she looks at other men and women. I dont care, she knows I look, I know she looks. But we know that we both love each other and that someone walking down the street who's sexually attractive will be quickly forgotten after they pass but that my fiancee will be with me forever.

I seem to have run out of rep points or something :)
 
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I fail to see the difference.

You really don't see any difference between noticing the beauty or attractiveness of another person versus staring at them with the purpose of getting sexually aroused and then likely masturbating? I find that hard to believe.
 
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Why would I want my future husband to be orgasming over other women? Does this make sense to anyone???

I like it when my husband gets turned on by other women. We're a pretty kinky couple - so what? We're adults and we're consenting. Therefore, it should be nobody else's business.
 
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You really don't see any difference between noticing the beauty or attractiveness of another person versus staring at them with the purpose of getting sexually aroused and then likely masturbating? I find that hard to believe.


Agreed!!!:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:
 
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Agreed!!!:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

You know, sometimes, you can just look at someone's screenname, and you can say to yourself, "I know this person will hate everything fun before I even read whatever he has to say."

Also, porn is awesome, and any guy who says otherwise is a sissy.
 
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You know, sometimes, you can just look at someone's screenname, and you can say to yourself, "I know this person will hate everything fun before I even read whatever he has to say."

Also, porn is awesome, and any guy who says otherwise is a sissy.

Nope. The sissy is the one who is ruled by his urges.
 
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Hmmmm.....just making an observation, I noticed the poses of some of the women in the video and the poses of the men. With the men, it seems their poses were very macho and they were flexing their muscles. Some of the women on the other hand, were lying down. I noticed other things as well, but it's not important at the moment.

I do have issues with porn, but for the record I am a sex-positive feminist. The issues I have with the majority of pornography out there is that it is very degrading to sex and can be degrading towards women. Even though it doesn't have to be.

I like erotica better, because it's more artistic and I can find erotica specifically for women than I can find with pornography.
 
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To address the degradation issue...I think it has to be entirely up to the models to decide whether or not they are being degraded. Nobody else can make that judgment.
I read the blog of a women who has worked in just about every side of sex-work imaginable. She has been a stripper, escort, waitress or something at a nudist colony, erotic photographer (I haven't seen much of her work, so I don't know whether it was porn, erotica, or nude art), etc. She is currently a dominatrix, and occasionally models for erotica.

She said once that the most degrading job she has ever held was as a waitress in a mainstream, family-oriented restaurant. She does sex-work because she enjoys it and felt used and exploited by the "Smile and project fake happiness" policy of the restaurant where she worked.

Recently, I read through the "Our values" section of a popular kinky porn website that has a reputation of being a great site to model for. Their policies are responsible both in terms of caring for their employees and models, but also in terms of not presenting images that novice kinksters would be likely to try out, if such things could be dangerous if done wrong. It is very clear that they care for the physical and psychological needs of their models and are careful to build a comfortable and healthy work environment.
These are the same models who are bound and whipped on camera.

In short, the models seek out this site because they enjoy what is presented. The employees of the site take great care of them. Many express a desire to return. In between arrival and "Ohmygosh that was great I want to come back," though, what is done to them is called degrading, by many people. Why is that?
 
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To address the degradation issue...I think it has to be entirely up to the models to decide whether or not they are being degraded. Nobody else can make that judgment.
I read the blog of a women who has worked in just about every side of sex-work imaginable. She has been a stripper, escort, waitress or something at a nudist colony, erotic photographer (I haven't seen much of her work, so I don't know whether it was porn, erotica, or nude art), etc. She is currently a dominatrix, and occasionally models for erotica.

She said once that the most degrading job she has ever held was as a waitress in a mainstream, family-oriented restaurant. She does sex-work because she enjoys it and felt used and exploited by the "Smile and project fake happiness" policy of the restaurant where she worked.

Recently, I read through the "Our values" section of a popular kinky porn website that has a reputation of being a great site to model for. Their policies are responsible both in terms of caring for their employees and models, but also in terms of not presenting images that novice kinksters would be likely to try out, if such things could be dangerous if done wrong. It is very clear that they care for the physical and psychological needs of their models and are careful to build a comfortable and healthy work environment.
These are the same models who are bound and whipped on camera.

In short, the models seek out this site because they enjoy what is presented. The employees of the site take great care of them. Many express a desire to return. In between arrival and "Ohmygosh that was great I want to come back," though, what is done to them is called degrading, by many people. Why is that?

Along these same lines, once when I was watching porn they interviewed the girl. One of the questions they asked her was if she felt degraded by her work, and if so, what she found to be the most degrading about it. Her answer was, "I don't find my job to be degrading at all. Honestly, what I find the most degrading is when I'm in a relationship with a guy and he [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] in my mouth when I'm giving him oral, without telling me beforehand."
 
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Whats the difference between erotica and porn really?

The way I see it, erotica contains significant artistic elements and is about sensuality, while porn is generally crude and is about displaying the sex acts involved.
 
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