Porn addiction crossing moral grounds.. Needing help before things continue!

[Philip1993]

Good evening,

My addiction to pornography has been slowly concerning as I’m now 27. Needing to reach out has happened once or twice but things are progressing. Please help! Tonight I have carelessly looked up a transgender video and completely see life differently. For some reason, I decided to mindlessly use my phone to get off to something on the internet. Usually I try to think about loving my wife or simply finding affection over some one-night-stand. As things get worse and careless I looked up a chick with a wiener..

What do I do now?

 

[Aussie Pete]

Good evening,

My addiction to pornography has been slowly concerning as I’m now 27. Needing to reach out has happened once or twice but things are progressing. Please help! Tonight I have carelessly looked up a transgender video and completely see life differently. For some reason, I decided to mindlessly use my phone to get off to something on the internet. Usually I try to think about loving my wife or simply finding affection over some one-night-stand. As things get worse and careless I looked up a chick with a wiener..

What do I do now?

You need to repent first and then seek deliverance from the demon of lust. You need to be stronger willed to say no to temptation. You died to sin, so it no longer has any authority over you - except what you give it.

 

[Olmhinlu]

Do you go to a Church and have a pastor (or analog)? Have you spoken to him about it?

 

[Philip1993]

No I haven't really talked to anyone about it yet. This is just something I shouldn't shoo away as it can easily get worse. Needing advice to get through more years of temptation. More will/focus put towards forgiveness and certainties.

 

[Quietus]

Good evening,

My addiction to pornography has been slowly concerning as I’m now 27. Needing to reach out has happened once or twice but things are progressing. Please help! Tonight I have carelessly looked up a transgender video and completely see life differently. For some reason, I decided to mindlessly use my phone to get off to something on the internet. Usually I try to think about loving my wife or simply finding affection over some one-night-stand. As things get worse and careless I looked up a chick with a wiener..

What do I do now?

I’m not going to go into detail, but yeah, my porn addiction was along the same level as yours. I didn’t stop of my own accord, I stopped because I began to see disgust in what I was doing, and then displeasure. And then one day, when I was about to go to the same website again, a video popped up in my YT algorithm by Charles Stanley, titled something along the lines of, “How To Have Self Control”. So, that was my sign.

I mean, look at people who aren’t even religious, in the nonfap community. So clearly, even they are recognizing that pornography is a problem. Not only does it expose you to corruptible imagery, but it can ruin your brain by hijacking your dopamine, it leaves you with disgust and guilt, and could even ruin your romantic life in future relationships (or a marriage).

Build a habit. Just like the more you do something, the more you adapt to it — so change that: the more you deny yourself something, you adapt.

 

[Religiot]

Good evening,

My addiction to pornography has been slowly concerning as I’m now 27. Needing to reach out has happened once or twice but things are progressing. Please help! Tonight I have carelessly looked up a transgender video and completely see life differently. For some reason, I decided to mindlessly use my phone to get off to something on the internet. Usually I try to think about loving my wife or simply finding affection over some one-night-stand. As things get worse and careless I looked up a chick with a wiener..

What do I do now?

Porn is just a hack that artificially short-circuits the natural biological processes to quickly get a real feeling: it is very much like any other drug, only that porn is the indulgence of imagination against God.

The remedy is actually quite simple. After realizing what it is, you can then start to reject the artificial stimulus, and instead replace it with the real deal, that is, of course, your wife.

Warning: to continue to entertain perverted thoughts, and to give yourself over to them, will cause you to degenerate to the point where you will no longer understand how it was wrong in the first place: that is the point known as the reprobate mind. The reprobate mind is actually the condition that results when God Himself turns you over to strong delusion--that is the point where no one can do anything for you anymore, for now, it is God Himself Who has rejected you, because of your hatred of the truth.

"Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: and likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them." --Romans 1:24-32

"And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie: that they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness." --2 Thessalonians 2:11-12

The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom...

When you recognize porn for the cheap hack that it is, you will then start to hate it; and instead of it arousing you, it will start to make you sick, I assure you.

Satan's devices are many, yet the solution is one, love: when you love God, you will hate what is evil, guaranteed.

 

[Olmhinlu]

No I haven't really talked to anyone about it yet. This is just something I shouldn't shoo away as it can easily get worse. Needing advice to get through more years of temptation. More will/focus put towards forgiveness and certainties.

If you go to a Bible-believing Church perhaps you could prayerfully consider seeking advice from your pastor.

 

[UVSATURATED2020]

Good evening,

My addiction to pornography has been slowly concerning as I’m now 27. Needing to reach out has happened once or twice but things are progressing. Please help! Tonight I have carelessly looked up a transgender video and completely see life differently. For some reason, I decided to mindlessly use my phone to get off to something on the internet. Usually I try to think about loving my wife or simply finding affection over some one-night-stand. As things get worse and careless I looked up a chick with a wiener..

What do I do now?

As an overcoming addict to porn, my advice is to pray and find a lesser alternative venue to overcome your addiction. Perhaps one you know you can conquer? Let me fill you in on my addiction. My father who is atheist began believing in the lust of porn from his brother in the 1950's and began to exploit this lust by buying porn and buying porn magazines. When I grew up, my dad had a huge stockpile of magazines and videotaped of porn. This was the late 70's and early 1980's, before the introduction of the internet. At that time, for children to access porn was not very common. When I discovered his porn I was about to reach puberty. Now, with the advent of the internet, any child who is literate can type in keywords and find free porn videos, which is quite disturbing.

I'll tell you why. Porn changed my perspective of love when I was an adolescent. It made me believe that women were sex objects and not persons with souls. After many years I overcame this with the help of God and much time.

So I want you to understand that your best best is to discipline yourself and quit watching or looking at porn, start understanding the true nature of love between a man and woman and just practice that always. Pray for your delivery too, and keep working at it. Remember, God is not finished with you yet.

Don't worry that you sin, because the Lord came to save sinners such as you and I. Remember that you are a work in progress and that Jesus loves you and gave his life to redeem you for your wickedness. Don't fret. I've also been really wicked but have overcome through the grace of the Lord. Keep trying, and that's the right path. That is repentance.

 

[GaveMeJoy]

You need to repent first and then seek deliverance from the demon of lust. You need to be stronger willed to say no to temptation. You died to sin, so it no longer has any authority over you - except what you give it.

Pete man usually you are right one what is this tho? Addicts can't just escape their addiction by calling it a demon and being stronger willed. Bro this dude has likely been a porn addict for decades, there is ZERO chance he prays his way out of this one by trying harder.

Needs to confess to wife and elders of church, get rid of his computer and phone, get into porn addict group for Christians and take this more seriously. Unfortunately telling people who are already praying and trying as hard as they possibly can to pray and try harder is never the way to help them have victory over lifestyle sin.

 

[Aussie Pete]

Pete man usually you are right one what is this tho? Addicts can't just escape their addiction by calling it a demon and being stronger willed. Bro this dude has likely been a porn addict for decades, there is ZERO chance he prays his way out of this one by trying harder.

Needs to confess to wife and elders of church, get rid of his computer and phone, get into porn addict group for Christians and take this more seriously. Unfortunately telling people who are already praying and trying as hard as they possibly can to pray and try harder is never the way to help them have victory over lifestyle sin.

I'm not suggesting that he just try harder. I'm suggesting that he repent (turn away from) and seek deliverance. I had a similar problem, up to my thirties from puberty. I hated it. I was set free from the demon of lust and I was immediately free. What I made sure of was to avoid anything that could trigger lust again. So no clicking on girlie pictures on the internet and such. Lord Jesus has the power to set people free. All He needs is our willingness.

 

[GaveMeJoy]

Good evening,

My addiction to pornography has been slowly concerning as I’m now 27. Needing to reach out has happened once or twice but things are progressing. Please help! Tonight I have carelessly looked up a transgender video and completely see life differently. For some reason, I decided to mindlessly use my phone to get off to something on the internet. Usually I try to think about loving my wife or simply finding affection over some one-night-stand. As things get worse and careless I looked up a chick with a wiener..

What do I do now?

Sorry to be blunt but I have seen this ruin too many marriages and lives.
I promise you will never have victory if you try harder, and try to be stronger willed, and try to pray more or read your bible more. You have an addiction, it's psychological and physical. Your body craves the hormonal response you get from viewing pornography and masturbating. You will never, ever, EVER be free of this unless you tell your wife, tell the elders of your church and decide your marriage and your soul are worth more to you than your cell phone and computer and alone time.

TELL your wife, right now. Walk into whatever room she is in and tell her exactly what you looked at and did, in it's entirety. If you are too afraid, tell the elders of your church first and tell your wife with them in the room with you.

Your marriage and your life will probably be over if you don't tell your wife and the elders, and decide you will do whatever it takes to beat this. God CAN help you have freedom and escape but it's going to take painful and intense hard work starting with GETTING HELP.

If you had a heroin addiction would you pray for freedom from the demon and try harder? No you would have to go to rehab. You need to go to sexual/porn rehab bro or you are going to have alot of weeners in your future, no wife, and you will never escape your sin. Thankfully the word says you CAN escape but it's going to be hard. You will never do it unless you tell other people and they can help you and keep you accountable. Covenant Eyes is a porn accountability app its like 15$ a month. Buy it and share your account with a brother in Christ you won't lie to and your church elders. You can do this but tell your wife.

 

[GaveMeJoy]

I'm not suggesting that he just try harder. I'm suggesting that he repent (turn away from) and seek deliverance. I had a similar problem, up to my thirties from puberty. I hated it. I was set free from the demon of lust and I was immediately free. What I made sure of was to avoid anything that could trigger lust again. So no clicking on girlie pictures on the internet and such. Lord Jesus has the power to set people free. All He needs is our willingness.

Alright well if he's dabbling into [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] porn this thing is way past not looking at girlie pics. He's gonna need to get rid of electronics, get a porn accountability app, get in Christian Porn addiction group and start having weekly meetings, or he could end up watching snuff/murder porn and cheating on his wife, stalking women...almost all rape and things like that start with the porn spiral.

 

[Aussie Pete]

Alright well if he's dabbling into [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] porn this thing is way past not looking at girlie pics. He's gonna need to get rid of electronics, get a porn accountability app, get in Christian Porn addiction group and start having weekly meetings, or he could end up watching snuff/murder porn and cheating on his wife, stalking women...almost all rape and things like that start with the porn spiral.

Maybe so. I know someone who had a similar problem. He had an account to buy the stuff. He closed it and they gave it to him for nothing. He ended up changing isp's to shut it down. If we will show our willingness to be free by doing what we can, God will do the difficult bit and give us freedom. Yes, he needs not to feed the beast. He will need to be vigilant also in the future.

 

[NBB]

Watching porn creates spiritual 'bindings' to porn, there is people who got rid of those bindings and was not attracted to porn again. I think is more an spiritual issue rather than a physical addiction.

 

[DLovingBrother]

Good evening,

My addiction to pornography …
What do I do now?

I agree with the above suggestions that you need to repent and you need the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit cannot indwell you if you have a single dot of sin. While the Holy Spirit is your source of power, your actual instructions are from scriptures. How do you love your fellowman, your wife, your children, self-control, purity? There is a Christian ministry called New Life that can help you. Several men I know have been helped. Their website is Help and Hope in Life's Hardest Places - New Life Ministries. Consider getting their book, “Every Man’s Battle” by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoker, as your first step. It will help you understand what you are dealing with, how it controls you and the new edition has scientific research on how porn alters the brain. Just like scripture, this should help you with the instruction portion and ask the Holy Spirit for help, guidance, and the power you need. God bless, brother.

 

[Gregorikos]

You really must tell someone. And tell it all. I would NOT suggest telling the pastor and ALL the elders of the church. I personally know someone who went that route, and they didn't know how to handle the problem and made things much worse.

There are two requirements for the person you tell:
#1- they have earned the right to hear your confession. This will probably be someone who you know and trust.
#2- they are able to bear the weight of your confession. This is important. If you tell your story, and end up feeling great because this great burden is lifted, but the other person ends up in therapy over it, you didn't do well. DO get some outside advice before you tell your wife unless you are dead sure she will be fine with it.

Recovery from sexual addiction is a lifetime pursuit. But it will only get worse the longer you put it off. I hope you reach out to a trusted professional or friend right away.

 

[Matthew C.]

Good evening,

My addiction to pornography has been slowly concerning as I’m now 27. Needing to reach out has happened once or twice but things are progressing. Please help! Tonight I have carelessly looked up a transgender video and completely see life differently. For some reason, I decided to mindlessly use my phone to get off to something on the internet. Usually I try to think about loving my wife or simply finding affection over some one-night-stand. As things get worse and careless I looked up a chick with a wiener..


Flee. Let me tell you something you can have a homosexual thought that does not mean you need to become gay or are a homosexual. The Bible says no good thing dwells in the flesh. I have OCD. And I have crazy thoughts going to my head all the time repetitively. Do not be shocked that you have a sensation or a feeling in your body. It does not mean you’re sinning. It Does not mean you’re sinning if you have a reaction in your body. Just do not act it out. God does not see you gay or homosexual. He sees you the way he sees his son Jesus. Righteous holy and blameless. Don’t find gratification in the perverted things in the world That’s not you.

if you feel something is wrong and you know it’s wrong turn it off immediately. The mind can condition itself to start wanting that same pleasure over and over again. And sooner or later you are stuck in something. Stop when you know it’s wrong.

know that you have never gone to far for Jesus not to be able to save you. You’re bad cannot outdo God’s good.

 

[Matthew C.]

Watching porn creates spiritual 'bindings' to porn, there is people who got rid of those bindings and was not attracted to porn again. I think is more an spiritual issue rather than a physical addiction.

It’s spiritual and physical. The physical part can be overwhelming. It’s the flesh.