Maybe the expression is, but I know older women who are all too ready to think that a younger woman who doesn't forcibly reject someone like the man described in the OP is, therefore, enjoying the act of leading him on. Call this by whatever term you think best, but yes, some women from another generation can be very gossipy in that way and quite unfair.Speaking as an older woman, I don't think women regard others that way; no woman is a 'born tease'. That is a male perspective.
Hey guys,
I am a newly converted Christian
So at my church, people had interest in getting to know me and my spiritual journey.
There have been many men (some married) who have demonstrated infatuation or lust towards me, or at least have had a crush on me.
There is this one man in his 50s however who is very 'affectionate' towards me. It makes me feel very impure. But because he is childless, wifeless and lonely I feel bad for denying him a smile and a hug. I would like your guys opinion on what I should do as a growing and learning Christian.
This is what he does:
- He kisses me really hard on the cheek, then stares into my eyes and cups my face with this dreamy look on his face.
- He hugs me tight and for a long time.
- He goes weak when I touch him or kiss him on the cheek softly.
- He strokes my hand.
- He is always staring at me during the service.
-When I am away for long periods of time he says that he misses me - one time when he had not seen me for ages, I waved at him and he looked at me for a longggg time with this soft, dreamy look on his face and a smile (even when I was not looking at him).
-He also plays with my hair, tucks it behind my ear, lends me his jacket and ...
KISSES THE BACK OF MY NECK if he gets the chance. When that happened I was like ... woah.
I really do not want to hurt his feelings. Because of my shy, gentle nature it seems that men can become very inappropriate or pursuing of me at church and sometimes it makes me feel impure.
Please give me some advice, it is very much appreciatedChurch is tomorrow and I am sick of trying to avoid him at church.
Maybe the expression is, but I know older women who are all too ready to think that a younger woman who doesn't forcibly reject someone like the man described in the OP is, therefore, enjoying the act of leading him on. Call this by whatever term you think best, but yes, some women from another generation can be very gossipy in that way and quite unfair.
Hi
I have a feeling you are leading him on. STOP IT.you allow him to get too close and seem to enjoy it.
stop playing games .
MADERA
Entirely agree ,and it makes me queasy to think that they have not told him off ,*Red Flag---Sharks circling!!!
I wouldn't go to that church nor do I recommend that
you return to it...there's something very fishy going on at a church that
would allow men to be that "affectionate" to a teen girl who's a new christian!
Those men should of been rebuked/and or taken aside and soundly reprimanded
for their actions toward you.
That's it. Those guys just have no shame.
"Wow, you are so special"
"I love your name, it is so beautiful"
"If only my wife understood like you"
To others:
"Have you met this girl? She is such a smart girl"
"She is the best listener I have ever met"
"She is amazing".
And you know what? This guy consistently goes on about how he loves his wife, but never to me. He is a hypocrite. LOL @ my social life.
Perhaps you need to examine your judgemental position . InnocentHi
I have a feeling you are leading him on. STOP IT.you allow him to get too close and seem to enjoy it.
stop playing games .
MADERA
Best not attempt to diagnose by internet. The simplest answer is that he does it because he can; nobody ever told him that he can't. He is not alone in assuming that silence denotes consent; in this matter it doesn't; silence denotes extreme discomfort.
Time to let him know that the kisses and hugs have to stop. If he wants to kiss someone, he can kiss the icons.
Perhaps you need to examine your judgemental position . Innocent
and well intentioned people hate to hurt others , often to their own detriment;They find it hard to believe that people are really that cynical and selfish :until they learn the hard way .
How unkind. I don't get that impression at all.[/QUOTE
I read her words carefully and I have no doubt that this 18 year old, has been around the block at her age.
I do not judge, open your eyes .
Oh sorry fat wee robin! I thought you were Madera again... She doesn't seem to make a lot of sense.Perhaps you need to examine your judgemental position . Innocent
and well intentioned people hate to hurt others , often to their own detriment;They find it hard to believe that people are really that cynical and selfish :until they learn the hard way .
Perhaps you need to examine your judgemental position . Innocent
and well intentioned people hate to hurt others , often to their own detriment;They find it hard to believe that people are really that cynical and selfish :until they learn the hard way .
Oh sorry fat wee robin! I thought you were Madera again... She doesn't seem to make a lot of sense.
And you could be just as cruel by judging a man who could be innocent, Oh you religious bigots.
Eh, you are a troll.
If a troll is spiritual, so be it.
Religious ones lack knowing the Holy Spirit, they lack understanding.
You are one angry christian.
madera
God luck to you.I have not been around the block. Nor do I have any intention. I have never been kissed on the lips or anything.
If you want to judge me, that is ok. God will be your judge.
Quite right. As shepherd of the local congregation, part of the pastor's job is to protect those in his care from predators.I will talk to my pastor - I trust in him- I know he will have a man to man.
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