Saying she may have boundary problems is in no way blame. It's inquiring into what may have caused the predator to look at her as game.
This is what you said:
It is very important to be able to set those boundaries to begin with. She had felt impure thru-out the contact yet was unwilling to examine why and or do something about protecting herself from the impurity.
She's 18 years of age. He is over 50. If anyone should be experienced enough to know how to set boundaries it is the 50+ year old man in her story.
Someone who avails himself of the opportunity to trespass on a young new Christian woman inside a church. A place where a scene is untoward. A place where Christian love and good tidings are common place. Where a touch on an arm and a smile is meant to be only that. But not to go further as he has done according to her report.
And while that trespass on his part as an older more seasoned man who should know better continues, she in the midst of that church setting amid other Christians like herself, is put in a predicament based on the surveillance afforded her by her Christian peers.
And this 50-something year old predator knows this! And that is why he pushes the boundaries. Because he knows that a new 18 year old Christian woman will feel afraid, intimidated, insecure, in making a scene should she speak against his assault.
Being he is senior there, has attended longer, people know him and he has that to his credit in terms of attendance and familiarity that outweighs she who is newly arrived.
So backing away and saying something that would paint him as a dirty old man were she to discipline his violations would in turn cause those who know him to look askance at her.
He knows this too.
He does not have to be here to defend himself. That she is here asking us advice for how to defend against him puts the onus on him. A 53-54 year old man or older even, who physically violates the personal space of a teenager is a predator.
His victim is not the one who is in the wrong.
Were she my daughter there would be no mistake his advances were wrong and would stop.
That she is daughter of the King of Heaven should afford her the respect any victim of physical assault deserves. Not dissection of her emotional sense of boundaries wherein she's told she should assess why it is she's being physically assaulted by a Quinquagenarian.