:: Perhaps I Don't Have A Purpose? ::

[SportsJunkie25]

I know that's not true but that's what I feel like. Please read this and help me

I'm new to CF and I feel like fellow Christians can help me. I'm in my late 20's and I feel like I don't have a purpose in life. I was in grad school, but felt like that that wasn't the career for me (I was going to be an optometrist), so I left (2yrs ago). That was the beginning of all of my troubles. I thought leaving would make me happy but now I feel like a loser b/c I can't find a decent job. I left b/c I wanted to find my one true purpose but 2 years later, I'm still clueless and can't decide on a career b/c I don't feel "at peace" w/ anything I say I'm going to pursue. I try to pursue different careers just to get the ball rolling and make something of my life but I can't; something won't let me do it. So, I sit...and wait...and I'm not lead by God.

Perhaps I'm missing something? Perhaps there is no "You were made for something special"? I feel like I'm wasting my life away doing nothing. I'm broke, in debt and stuck in a state where I don't know anyone. Life isn't that great right now...what did I do wrong!? When is God going to show me what to do?

**I pretty much posted this b/c I'd like some help in trying to figure out what my passion is and how I can turn that into a career. HOW DO YOU KNOW WHAT GOD IS LEADING YOU TO DO?? Anyone else going through the same thing? Every since I was young, I've never known "what I wanted to be"...I guess I didn't just get it like most people did in H.S. or college. Sigh.

 

[drich0150]

I sit...and wait...and I'm not lead by God. Perhaps I'm missing something?

I know this is contrary to what some believe, but God doesn't want to micro manage your life.. We are placed in this life with the gift of free will. With this Gift God want us to choose salvation through Jesus, and an eternity with Him. But we must First Love Him or Learn to Love Him with all of our Being. Once we can do this then what ever we choose for ourselves Job, Love, Life etc, etc.. He will bless. That's not to say He won't use you or direct you from time to time, but ultimately it is up to you whether or not you choose to follow his lead..

If you have no direction, then choose one and follow through with it. If God can use you, You will know.. Right now I would say you have an opportunity to serve the Lord in any number of ways.. Just goto your church or even in your community and look for a need, that you can fill with what you already have (abilities or gifts) or even something (skill) you maybe willing to work and obtain.. Pray about it, and follow through with it. Learn to live your life in service to God..

The funny thing about finding "your" niche or purpose in life is. When you stop making it about You, and start making your efforts reflect the Love and service your supposed to have for Him, "Things" always seem to fall into place. Despite what you could choose for yourself, if you choose to serve Him you will be much happier with how you have spent your life over anything you could have chosen for yourself..

I guess this can be considered apart of Loving God with all of your being, and in Doing so you will have full filled your purpose in this life.

 

[EazyMack]

I started to struggle with "Uh-oh, life is slipping away!" a year or two ago. I went through a job transition for the first time since age 19 (almost 5 years) and it threw me for a loop for a while.

That feeling has completely vanished, as I've come to understand MY purpose. It's not so much about what my career is, but how I'm using it to glorify God. I did not have this outlook at my previous job. But where I work now, I have established very good relationships with my co-workers (whom are all close to each other anyway), and with that trust & intimacy I've had the opportunity to minister over time. It has been an amazing experience. And it's just a job, nothing glamorous. We go into people's houses after a fire and take their clothes to our facility to be cleaned. But it's been awesome working there!

My case will differ from another's, but whichever way you slice it, work is one of the most important places of ministry in our lives. We spend a lot of our time at work, working alongside people who need to know Jesus. Whether it's people who don't know Him at all, only know a little bit, or people who could always use the extra fellowship other than at church... you will have a purpose! And knowing that you are fulfilling that purpose will make your job & life more enjoyable.

 

[FG21]

Ummm.... Here ya go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

http://www.purposedrivenlife.com/en-US/Home/home.htm

I am not being facetious. Just read it!

 

[SportsJunkie25]

I know this is contrary to what some believe, but God doesn't want to micro manage your life...
If you have no direction, then choose one and follow through with it. ...I guess this can be considered apart of Loving God with all of your being, and in Doing so you will have full filled your purpose in this life.

This is my main problem: I can't seem to choose something and follow through w/ it. I'm not "passionate" about anything so I don't think it'll be a wise decision for me to spend more $$, in school loans, pursuing it. I'm already waaaayyyy in the whole from my previous grad program I didn't like. Also, my undergrad degree was in Biology so there's not much I can do w/ that...I'm just having a hard time figuring this stuff out. Maybe I'm just thinking too hard...

I started to struggle with "Uh-oh, life is slipping away!" a year or two ago. I went through a job transition for the first time since age 19 (almost 5 years) and it threw me for a loop for a while.

That feeling has completely vanished, as I've come to understand MY purpose. It's not so much about what my career is, but how I'm using it to glorify God.

I thought about that, I just need a career first.

Ummm.... Here ya go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am not being facetious. Just read it!

Lol. I'm actually reading this book right now; this is my 3rd time reading it (w/ approx 3yrs in btw each read). I know we were made to serve God but that still leaves me career-less and broke. After reading that book, I thought I'd feel lead/inspired to do something but I'm not; still confused.

 

[andreha]

I know that's not true but that's what I feel like. Please read this and help me

I'm new to CF and I feel like fellow Christians can help me. I'm in my late 20's and I feel like I don't have a purpose in life. I was in grad school, but felt like that that wasn't the career for me (I was going to be an optometrist), so I left (2yrs ago). That was the beginning of all of my troubles. I thought leaving would make me happy but now I feel like a loser b/c I can't find a decent job. I left b/c I wanted to find my one true purpose but 2 years later, I'm still clueless and can't decide on a career b/c I don't feel "at peace" w/ anything I say I'm going to pursue. I try to pursue different careers just to get the ball rolling and make something of my life but I can't; something won't let me do it. So, I sit...and wait...and I'm not lead by God.

Perhaps I'm missing something? Perhaps there is no "You were made for something special"? I feel like I'm wasting my life away doing nothing. I'm broke, in debt and stuck in a state where I don't know anyone. Life isn't that great right now...what did I do wrong!? When is God going to show me what to do?

**I pretty much posted this b/c I'd like some help in trying to figure out what my passion is and how I can turn that into a career. HOW DO YOU KNOW WHAT GOD IS LEADING YOU TO DO?? Anyone else going through the same thing? Every since I was young, I've never known "what I wanted to be"...I guess I didn't just get it like most people did in H.S. or college. Sigh.

Hey, SportsJunkie25

The Lord does most certainly have a purpose with you. He knew you before the universe was created, because you existed in His mind back then. He was pleased enough with the final outcome that He created you. So yes, you do have a purpose. Just carry on praying, and talking to Him - because one day, He'll start talking back to you. You will overflow with joy. You'll shine. Just don't stop praying to Him. Be sure to open your heart to Him. Tell Him in great detail about everything that hurts. Carry on talking to the Lord. He'll surely start talking to you - and then, you shall be changed.

 

[FG21]

Oh my. I am going to pray for you! You do know that the Lord will provide? The Lord will probably not give you one of those AIG Bonus bailouts? Ya could pray for a Lotto win LOL!

Plaster a big ole smile on yer face (Ill will will get ya nowhere!) and get yer butt to job hunting. Keep smiling. I am a bartender and I hate my job but I keep grinning LOL! Until I kick them out....

Keep that smile and (sometimes fake) positive attitude! Go to your main sports arena (think football, baseball, basketball,etc) and apply. Tackling the O-Line coordinator or Line Coach will not hurt your prospects! Just hit low and clean then say "whoops! I fell! Here's my resume!"

Yep. Keep plugging away and smile!

 

[SportsJunkie25]

Hey, SportsJunkie25

The Lord does most certainly have a purpose with you. He knew you before the universe was created, because you existed in His mind back then. He was pleased enough with the final outcome that He created you. So yes, you do have a purpose. Just carry on praying, and talking to Him - because one day, He'll start talking back to you. You will overflow with joy. You'll shine. Just don't stop praying to Him. Be sure to open your heart to Him. Tell Him in great detail about everything that hurts. Carry on talking to the Lord. He'll surely start talking to you - and then, you shall be changed.

Hey! Thanks. Everyone always tells me that but after 2 years, I'm kind of frustrated and feel like I'm wasting my time. But, I guess we have 2 choices in life: make it work or complain...I'm still trying to make it work.

Oh my. I am going to pray for you! You do know that the Lord will provide? The Lord will probably not give you one of those AIG Bonus bailouts? Ya could pray for a Lotto win LOL!

Plaster a big ole smile on yer face (Ill will will get ya nowhere!) and get yer butt to job hunting. Keep smiling. I am a bartender and I hate my job but I keep grinning LOL! Until I kick them out....

Keep that smile and (sometimes fake) positive attitude! Go to your main sports arena (think football, baseball, basketball,etc) and apply. Tackling the O-Line coordinator or Line Coach will not hurt your prospects! Just hit low and clean then say "whoops! I fell! Here's my resume!"

Yep. Keep plugging away and smile!

Ha ha ha...you're funny. Well, I think that's another one of my main problems: I'm not good at "pretending" to be happy when I'm not. I've never been good at pretending anything; it's always written alllll over my face. But, keep praying for me and my 3rd round on the book.

 

[FG21]

I'm praying for you! WAIT!

Do this. Interview. DO IT It works on people. No joke. Just keep that big ole fake smile. (remember to "crinkle" yer eyeballs). Nod.

http://www.boingboing.net/2008/01/28/waiters-use-nodding.html

 

[andreha]

Hey! Thanks. Everyone always tells me that but after 2 years, I'm kind of frustrated and feel like I'm wasting my time. But, I guess we have 2 choices in life: make it work or complain...I'm still trying to make it work.



Ha ha ha...you're funny. Well, I think that's another one of my main problems: I'm not good at "pretending" to be happy when I'm not. I've never been good at pretending anything; it's always written alllll over my face. But, keep praying for me and my 3rd round on the book.

Hey there, SportsJunkie25

It may have been 2 years, but I'll tell you one thing... When you get to your destination, you'll know all about it. You'll thank the Lord for it and tell Him "It was all worth it, Lord!"

 

[andreha]

Check out your new stars.

 

[Elijah2]

First off, stop trying to make it work, because it won't.

Secondly, get your life cleansed and refined, and start walking in obedience and discipline to our Lord Jesus Christ and His Insipired Word.

Thirdly, you are no different to the other 80% of believers who are running their race of endurance.

Fourthly, why pretend that you have it all together when you haven't. False Christians and teachers display a form of godliness, and are what they are---FALSE!

Fifthly, be glad, because His love endures forever, and His Kingdom isn't what the churches try to make it out to be, after all most of the leaders are suffering the same as you are. Trust in our Lord Jesus Christ and have no confidence in man (Psa. 118:8).

Sixthly, when you start walking the talk and not talking the talk, then things will get worse, because when you walk the talk, you become a threat to the enemy. And when you begin to submit to our Lord Jesus Christ, NOT the church, then the enemy will flee.

Always remember that love never fails.

Blessings.

 

[SportsJunkie25]

Check out your new stars.

Thanks! What do I do w/ those? I've noticed them under other screenames but I don't understand w/ the "stars" are for and the "rep power"?

First off, stop trying to make it work, because it won't.

Secondly, get your life cleansed and refined, and start walking in obedience and discipline to our Lord Jesus Christ and His Insipired Word.

Thirdly, you are no different to the other 80% of believers who are running their race of endurance.

Fourthly, why pretend that you have it all together when you haven't. False Christians and teachers display a form of godliness, and are what they are---FALSE!

Fifthly, be glad, because His love endures forever, and His Kingdom isn't what the churches try to make it out to be, after all most of the leaders are suffering the same as you are. Trust in our Lord Jesus Christ and have no confidence in man (Psa. 118:8).

Sixthly, when you start walking the talk and not talking the talk, then things will get worse, because when you walk the talk, you become a threat to the enemy. And when you begin to submit to our Lord Jesus Christ, NOT the church, then the enemy will flee.

Always remember that love never fails.

Blessings.

??? Where did this come from? Who's pretending to be false? Otherwise, good post and food for thought. Oh, and about me not being any different than 80%, I feel like I am. Most people have a job or a career at my age and I'm sitting here wondering what to do w/ my life. I know everyone goes through this but the people around me aren't really going through it so I kind of feel loserish why everyone else is doing something w/ their lives.

 

[Elijah2]

Thanks! What do I do w/ those? I've noticed them under other screenames but I don't understand w/ the "stars" are for and the "rep power"?




??? Where did this come from? Who's pretending to be false? Otherwise, good post and food for thought. Oh, and about me not being any different than 80%, I feel like I am. Most people have a job or a career at my age and I'm sitting here wondering what to do w/ my life. I know everyone goes through this but the people around me aren't really going through it so I kind of feel loserish why everyone else is doing something w/ their lives.

Sorry my dear sister, I misread your pretending segment!

Well my dear sister, I feel much the same as you do, and I've been around the traps since 1957.

I can understand that point of wondering what you are going to do with your life, and loneliness and being alone can be hard to take. Have been experiencing that a lot myself over the past six years.

So, what do you want to do?

Blessings.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

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[SportsJunkie25]

Sorry my dear sister, I misread your pretending segment!

Well my dear sister, I feel much the same as you do, and I've been around the traps since 1957.

I can understand that point of wondering what you are going to do with your life, and loneliness and being alone can be hard to take. Have been experiencing that a lot myself over the past six years.

So, what do you want to do?

Blessings.

Well, my dream job would to be a pro soccer player buuuttt we all know how that goes. Maybe if I focused on that during H.S. but, I'm too old for that now. Sad.

I'd want to do something that combines sports, kids, the beach/ocean and marine life. Can anyone think of any ideas? Another dream job would be working at Sea World...but I don't know what I'd want to do there besides work w/ the marine mammals

i encourage you to read victor frankl's "man's search for meaning."

Ok. I'll have to make a trip to Barnes N Noble. Thanks, I'll check it out.

 

[EazyMack]

Aha... see, my career dream was to be a baseball player. Other than that, I had nothing in mind. Circumstances in my high school years weren't motivating me to keep at it, and of course it slipped away. Now I often wonder if I would have ever grown the way I have spiritually if I would've done what I thought I wanted to do. Would I have sought to touch the lives of others, or would I just have been looking out for myself?

 

[EazyMack]

Just to toss this in here... right now, if I were looking to jump into a certified career of some sort, it would be in ministry. This is hugely significant because even as recently as a year and a half ago I never would've pictured myself getting involved in that way. I never thought I was cut out for anything along those lines, never thought it was "meant" for me. Now I scratch my chin as I ponder it...

 

[SportsJunkie25]

Just to toss this in here... right now, if I were looking to jump into a certified career of some sort, it would be in ministry. This is hugely significant because even as recently as a year and a half ago I never would've pictured myself getting involved in that way. I never thought I was cut out for anything along those lines, never thought it was "meant" for me. Now I scratch my chin as I ponder it...

Yeah, I kind of have a feeling God wants me to be somewhat a part of ministry. But, right now, I don't feel comfortable w/ the area of ministry I think he's calling me to. Also, like you, I never pictured myself in ministry so I'm kind of of like....uuummm...gimme somethin' else, God! Lol

 

[Elijah2]

Mate, ministry comes in all sorts of flavours. I minister a lot, and I'm not ministering in a church. HE will put people across your path.

If you want to strive for a football career, well make the effort and strive. Only you can achieve what your want by your choices and decisions.

Have you spoken to your church leaders or a mature believer at your church?

Blessings!