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[exitstageright]

exit I just know that we send out signals. I think I have been sending out the wrong signals too so you are not alone. Personally I think you try too hard, expect too much, come on too strong and are always ready to respond in the negative about your situation.

May I suggest that next time you are out try to do a little observing of other guys. See if you can pick out the desperate ones.

I cannot say whether you look handsome or not in street clothes unless you post a picture.

Another thing to consider is working on you. You are always trying to find someone and upset that no one seems to want you. Obviously it's not about the money or the clothes you wear, because you seem to be good, according to you on those fronts. It's about figuring out YOU and maybe what you expect in a relationship. Maybe your expectations are too high there as well.

I recently found out an old friend of mine hooked up with the first love of my life. I got really upset about it and it surprised even ME. What I learned from that is that I may have thought I was "OK" being single, but if I'm going to get upset about an old love I haven't been with in over 30 years, that says more about what's wrong with me than anything. So I've got some work to do.

I also know that my pest control guy kind of likes me but has never asked me out. One day while spraying my house while I was cleaning he asked me if I would come over and clean his house. That was a turn off for me because he is looking for a housemaid and I am not looking to be one. Just some food for thought for you.

Here is a recent picture of me taken on Monday, October 27,2014,and on Halloween Night,Friday,October 31,2014,in costume as..."myself"

 

[blackribbon]

All five women were notified last Friday, the 7th. On Saturday ,the 8th,three out of five women responded. One was happily surprised. One essentially said, " thanks!, but no thanks!" One said, " yes!" All five women know me and one another from past cruises. But, I doubt that they knew that they were all competing for only one spot. If one was trying to rearrange her schedule, in order to accept my offer, how was I supposed to know that, if she did not tell me?

If all of the women did know that they were all competing for one spot, they might, as a joke ,all responded ," Yes!"

I think you were being deceptive then....

If they all knew, personally I expect them all to answer "H*LL No!" because no one likes to be played and that is what you are doing.

 

[blackribbon]

Woman #4 has not yet responded...maybe because she hasn't even read the email yet. I know I don't look at my emails on days that I work...12 hours shifts means work and sleep and that is it.

What are you going to say if she says "yes"?..."Sorry sucker, you took too long responding?" and if the women know each other, why are you so sure that they aren't talking to each other? You might not be talking to any of them next cruise.

 

[exitstageright]

I think you were being deceptive then....

If they all knew, personally I expect them all to answer "H*LL No!" because no one likes to be played and that is what you are doing.[

I was not being deceptive. Do you remember me? I am the man that many women tell me that I am too nice

So ,in your eyes, does that mean that I am no longer a nice man that finishes last?

 

[exitstageright]

I think you were being deceptive then....

If they all knew, personally I expect them all to answer "H*LL No!" because no one likes to be played and that is what you are doing.

Well,one did say ,"YES!". And we are going to have a great time in San Francisco,just as we did on the beach in St.Marteen. HEE,HEE,HEE

I am living proof that persistence, and tenacity do pay off!

 

[blackribbon]

Well,one did say ,"YES!". And we are going to have a great time in San Francisco,just as we did on the beach in St.Marteen. HEE,HEE,HEE

I am living proof that persistence, and tenacity do pay off!

...assuming she doesn't talk to the other ladies between now and finds out that she wasn't really that special...just one of four and the only one stupid enough to accept...

I know I'd feel like a complete idiot if someone played me like you are doing. But maybe she is just desperate enough to not care...

 

[exitstageright]

...assuming she doesn't talk to the other ladies between now and finds out that she wasn't really that special...just one of four and the only one stupid enough to accept...

I know I'd feel like a complete idiot if someone played me like you are doing. But maybe she is just desperate enough to not care...

Well the woman,who said no,already friend zoned me last year. I was just trying my luck with her. I expected the one,who said yes,to accept my offer. Because,on our last cruise together,we,on the beach,re-enacted the beach scene from the movie,"From Here To Eternity". She was playing the role of Deborah Kerr. I was playing the role of Burt Lancaster.


Now,are you jealous because no man has offered to pay your air fare across the country?
At least something went positive for me. Or do you enjoy to see me frustrated,while suffering emotionally? Now,am I right or wrong?
By the way,if you have not seen the movie,and that beach scene,you can "google" it.

 

[blackribbon]

Well the woman,who said no,already friend zoned me last year. I was just trying my luck with her. I expected the one,who said yes,to accept my offer. Because,on our last cruise together,we,on the beach,re-enacted the beach scene from the movie,"From Here To Eternity". She was playing the role of Deborah Kerr. I was playing the role of Burt Lancaster.


Now,are you jealous because no man has offered to pay your air fare across the country?
At least something went positive for me. Or do you enjoy to see me frustrated,while suffering emotionally? Now,am I right or wrong?
By the way,if you have not seen the movie,and that beach scene,you can "google" it.

I am not the least bit jealous...just kind of appalled that you don't get how offensive your behavior is. It would have been sweet if she was the only one you asked...it is offensive because you really didn't care who accepted so obviously you only care about getting your "needs" met and not the feelings of any of these ladies.

 

[blackribbon]

since you expected her to accept, and you still asked all 4 women simultaneously, it is obvious she isn't even your first choice ....

you win...you have proven you aren't a "nice guy" at all...not so sure you will suddenly find women swooning over you though...

 

[exitstageright]

since you expected her to accept, and you still asked all 4 women simultaneously, it is obvious she isn't even your first choice ....

you win...you have proven you aren't a "nice guy" at all...not so sure you will suddenly find women swooning over you though...

Well,there is one lady at work that is very interested in me. I am going to ask her out for coffee for this coming Saturday. You see? Some women do find me attractive. By the way,I have lost about 25 pounds since I kept my 2013 New Years resolution. My resolution was not to eat at MC Donald's. I have not eaten anything at Mc Donald's since December of 2012. Even the women at work tell me that I look better after losing weight.

 

[blackribbon]

Well,there is one lady at work that is very interested in me. I am going to ask her out for coffee for this coming Saturday. You see? Some women do find me attractive. By the way,I have lost about 25 pounds since I kept my 2013 New Years resolution. My resolution was not to eat at MC Donald's. I have not eaten anything at Mc Donald's since December of 2012. Even the women at work tell me that I look better after losing weight.

I never said that you were or weren't attractive. I said that you were cruelly playing these women.

Ever hear of narcissim: Narcissistic Personality Disorder Symptoms | Psych Central

 

[exitstageright]

I never said that you were or weren't attractive. I said that you were cruelly playing these women.

Ever hear of narcissim: Narcissistic Personality Disorder Symptoms | Psych Central

When I was heavier in the past,you said that my BMI was high.That was the truth.Now that I have lost weight,my confidence is higher. Actually there are now four women at work that I am considering asking out.
Well,one already said,"Maybe.".

 

[blackribbon]

BMI and confidence are two different things. You have never lacked confidence as far as I could tell since we have been talking. Good for you if you lost some weight.

But that doesn't mean you can be a "player" and deceive women by asking 4 women to the same event knowing you only plan on paying for one. If a woman did that to you, you'd be crying on here for weeks how nobody understands you and what bad luck you have. When you were a nice guy, I would have wished you good luck. I won't do it now.

 

[exitstageright]

BMI and confidence are two different things. You have never lacked confidence as far as I could tell since we have been talking. Good for you if you lost some weight.

But that doesn't mean you can be a "player" and deceive women by asking 4 women to the same event knowing you only plan on paying for one. If a woman did that to you, you'd be crying on here for weeks how nobody understands you and what bad luck you have. When you were a nice guy, I would have wished you good luck. I won't do it now.

Well when I was younger ,I did lack confidence. Growing up, when we get about 95% of our emotional programing ,I was often called a square, ugly, an ugly square, and so on. When I was a young man, while walking down the street, I would smile at women. Most women would, frown, look scared ,sneer, and look at me as if was something smelly that they just stepped in. Some would tell me that I am a nice guy ,that I would make a good husband ,a great father ,but, that they had no feelings for me. Now, I am 60 years old with no kids. But, I have been a blessing to other people's kids by volunteering to tutor kids in Science, English, and Math.

Now tell me, how can one be confident after hearing all of that negativity all of one's life?

I received very little encouragement growing up. Therefore, I had to depend upon myself, and only myself for encouragement. No one else gave me a break. Therefore, I had to make my own breaks in life. If I did not do something, that something would not just get done! Many of my female co-workers tell me that I am a great guy. But,no one evers introduce me to anybody. Therefore,I have to take action into my own hands.

 

[dayhiker]

Well, that was a fun exchange to read between the two of you.

I've heard quite a few stories about people dating that have dates set up for Morning, afternoon and nite on the same day looking for a relationship. One lady had over 100 dates before she found a guy. So my observation is that people often give up after asking a few people and they don't find someone for them.

I agree that exit asking 4 women as once wasn't the best plan. But its a good plan in my book to ask someone he has meet on a cruise to visit him. Looks like only one will visit so its going to work out just fine.

 

[exitstageright]

Well, that was a fun exchange to read between the two of you.

I've heard quite a few stories about people dating that have dates set up for Morning, afternoon and nite on the same day looking for a relationship. One lady had over 100 dates before she found a guy. So my observation is that people often give up after asking a few people and they don't find someone for them.

I agree that exit asking 4 women as once wasn't the best plan. But its a good plan in my book to ask someone he has meet on a cruise to visit him. Looks like only one will visit so its going to work out just fine.

I think so,also.She wants me to surprise her. Since I grew up in San Francisco, I will make an excellent Tour Guide for her. She has never been to San Francisco. She is looking forward to a San Francisco Bay Dinner and Dance Cruise,and visiting China Town. Of course there will be a romantic stroll on the Golden Gate Bridge. Yes,I do know how to show a lady a great time.

Just like the song says:

"You're the cutest thing that I ever did see

I really love your peaches

Want to shake your tree

Lovey dovey, lovey dovey, lovey dovey all the time

Ooh wee baby, I sure show you a good time"

 

[dayhiker]

Sounds like a good weekend it will be, exit.

I went to our local HAI support group last night. It was really neat. Felt so much love.
I got to talk with a guy who is getting close to one of my GFs. Neat to see the love that is growing between them. I was doing a paired share with this guy and I felt to put my hand on his heart. Later he shared with me that that meant so much to him.

Tonight I'm going to a puja .... another nice and loving time for sure. Love all the eye contact.

 

[exitstageright]

Sounds like a good weekend it will be, exit.

I went to our local HAI support group last night. It was really neat. Felt so much love.
I got to talk with a guy who is getting close to one of my GFs. Neat to see the love that is growing between them. I was doing a paired share with this guy and I felt to put my hand on his heart. Later he shared with me that that meant so much to him.

Tonight I'm going to a puja .... another nice and loving time for sure. Love all the eye contact.

One lady friend of mine is trying to get me to join a HAI group. I will just have to fit it in my schedule. I have been to several pujas. It is great to feel welcomed and accepted when I go to the pujas.

 

[exitstageright]

BMI and confidence are two different things. You have never lacked confidence as far as I could tell since we have been talking. Good for you if you lost some weight.

But that doesn't mean you can be a "player" and deceive women by asking 4 women to the same event knowing you only plan on paying for one. If a woman did that to you, you'd be crying on here for weeks how nobody understands you and what bad luck you have. When you were a nice guy, I would have wished you good luck. I won't do it now.

Just an update, the fourth and last woman finally e-mailed me. She was sick and could not get back to me right away. So, I did not have to play two women who wanted to be with me. So no harm, no foul was done.

I thought that one of the three women ,in the cold weather state,s would want to visit me in warm and sunny California in January. The one woman, who accepted my offer, lives in Florida!

Well, here is my Sales Pitch :


Hello :

How are you feeling today? I have been thinking about you, and I would love to spend some time with you.
Now ,how does this sound? How would you like to spend 4 days ,and three nights, with a personal tour guide of San Francisco?
The dates are from Friday, January 16,2015 to Sunday ,January 18,2015,returning on Monday ,January 19,2015.
There is no need to be concerned about accommodations AND airfare, as I will take care of both of them!
Does this sounds good you? If yes , then all you have to do is say, ”Yes!”, wait, and pack!

My email address is . My cell number

Hope to hear from you soon (AKA "SLY")

Now, and be honest, what do you think of my sales pitch?


























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[blackribbon]

Just an update, the fourth and last woman finally e-mailed me. She was sick and could not get back to me right away. So, I did not have to play two women who wanted to be with me. So no harm, no foul was done.

I thought that one of the three women ,in the cold weather state,s would want to visit me in warm and sunny California in January. The one woman, who accepted my offer, lives in Florida!

Well, here is my Sales Pitch :


Hello :

How are you feeling today? I have been thinking about you, and I would love to spend some time with you.
Now ,how does this sound? How would you like to spend 4 days ,and three nights, with a personal tour guide of San Francisco?
The dates are from Friday, January 16,2015 to Sunday ,January 18,2015,returning on Monday ,January 19,2015.
There is no need to be concerned about accommodations AND airfare, as I will take care of both of them!
Does this sounds good you? If yes , then all you have to do is say, ”Yes!”, wait, and pack!

My email address is . My cell number

Hope to hear from you soon (AKA "SLY")

Now, and be honest, what do you think of my sales pitch?


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What is the product you are selling? (I doubt you really want my opinion, so I'll spare you.)