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That is my weakness. I can resist saying" yes" to alcohol, smoking ,and illeagal drugs. I can easily say "no" to a black woman. But, it is very hard for me to say "no" to a white woman. Now, if I was married to a white woman,(as I was before) it would be easy for me to say "no" to the other white woman.


You'd have a hard time turning down an obese, homely white woman for a date? Or do you become picky at some stage?

And how does marriage change things? Why would it suddenly be easy to do a behavior you find difficult now?
 
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That is my weakness. I can resist saying" yes" to alcohol, smoking ,and illeagal drugs. I can easily say "no" to a black woman. But, it is very hard for me to say "no" to a white woman. Now, if I was married to a white woman,(as I was before) it would be easy for me to say "no" to the other white woman.

If you find it easy to refuse to date someone based on their skin color, can I assume that you don't hold it against someone who won't date you based on your skin color? That you understand that their preferences are just as valid as yours?
 
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You'd have a hard time turning down an obese, homely white woman for a date? Or do you become picky at some stage?

And how does marriage change things? Why would it suddenly be easy to do a behavior you find difficult now?

I would not mind dating an obese white woman if she asked me out. When I was living on Oahu, I did date a couple of obese white women.

When I was married, I was faithful. The only time, that I was tempted, was in my four year first marriage, was on a cruise. I was playing a slot machine. I was by myself. This older white woman, stood next to me and said, "Hello!" I said. "Hello" to her. The next thing that I knew, she started to play with my hair! I told her, "Excuse me!" I left her in the casino. There was no way that I was going to cheat on my wife! Besides, I was cruising with my wife, her aunt ,my mother-inlaw, and my father-inlaw. That was my Fillopina wife.
During my second marriage, for six years to a white woman, I was never tempted. Yet one woman, a younger white woman, at church of all places ,did flirt with me a lot.
 
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If you find it easy to refuse to date someone based on their skin color, can I assume that you don't hold it against someone who won't date you based on your skin color? That you understand that their preferences are just as valid as yours?

Yes, I certainly do understand........absolutely. But, in California,there are many, many, interracial relationships. Now do you know why I would not want to move to the South? Also ,if I relocate now, at my new home, I will become a stranger all over again. :(
 
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