Ok I HATE being single!!

[GodsHandiwork]

Just as an aside, I have a great tusk somewhere that the vet cut off one of the boars when I worked on a hog farm. This guy has some nice ones.

 

[Zippy the Wonderslug]

now who's gonna marry me, plzzzzzeeeeee

Depends.

Are you a good kisser?

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

nothing wrong with you stating your feelings but dont try to project your feelings on to me and present them as my truth. You dont know who I am and what is truth in my life. You say we get what we say and I say that is total nonsense

I wasn't trying to project anything on to you except maybe some encouragement which seems to be a daunting task. I wonder why the bible says we should be careful with our words if they don't matter? And it is true that people are attracted to positive people. You say in the OP that you hate being single, but you don't want any encouragement on changing that? OK my bad, carry on then as you were.

 

[Javanwarbler]

Dear Hope,

Ever tried e-harmony? I don't like being single either. It's been the biggest struggle for me. I feel i'm wasting my best years by not sharing it with that one special person. I have a lot of interests and it's so hard for me to meet people and then they soon go out of my life again and then I must start over at ground zero once again. I have very few friends and i dont' date or try to be in a relationship 'to be in a relationship' or to not be alone.
Ive found out the hard way when I've been in one for unsound reasons!

Yet i feel bad I feel that way because God wants us to make the most of those years serving Him and here i am longing for something else and it gets in the way. I also feel like i don't have much to offer long term, to a good man because of my extreme depression and that i'd drive them away soon. My main concern now is that they just wouldn't really be happy with me and it's absolutely vital the other person is truly happy with you and they know and tell you in various ways how you make their life better. of course no one can or should expect that one person can meet each others' needs. Only God can fullfill that!

Yet the above is such negative thinking and the very thing that just gets in the way. it makes me so frustrated i dwell on stuff like this all the time! and it gets worse the older you get (im 39) and the pool of available people gets smaller. Yeah there are worse things in life but this one affects me the most and has been the biggest desire of my heart. It has helped praying specifically in this area for wisdom.

I hope things get better and God bless you!

 

[dayhiker]

Javan,
There are some that like eharmomy. but quit a few don't like it. Its pretty controlling of who you can meet on their web site from what I've heard. Two people have told me they only got matches from 100s of miles away. Well who wants to spend money to get matched with someone who lives in another state or even across the country.

I don't know much about depression, I love being happy. I can see what would really effect your life and who you would develop a relationship with.

What's the seasonal work you do?

 

[dayhiker]

I know it wasn't directed at me .. but I'm a great kisser! Been told that more than once

Just felt like braggin for once ... LOL

 

[GodsHandiwork]

You go dayhiker!!!

As Time Goes By - YouTube

 

[Hadassah_]

now who's gonna marry me, plzzzzzeeeeee

*pats you*

It'll happen one day when you least expect it. And if it doesn't just think of the awesome life you're living for Yeshua while you're single.

And I do understand where you're coming from; there are days I hate being single too.

 

[GodsHandiwork]

Depends.

Are you a good kisser?

“I do not know how to kiss, or I would kiss you. Where do the noses go?”
—Ingrid Bergman

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

Dear Hope,

Ever tried e-harmony? I don't like being single either. It's been the biggest struggle for me. I feel i'm wasting my best years by not sharing it with that one special person. I have a lot of interests and it's so hard for me to meet people and then they soon go out of my life again and then I must start over at ground zero once again. I have very few friends and i dont' date or try to be in a relationship 'to be in a relationship' or to not be alone.
Ive found out the hard way when I've been in one for unsound reasons!

Yet i feel bad I feel that way because God wants us to make the most of those years serving Him and here i am longing for something else and it gets in the way. I also feel like i don't have much to offer long term, to a good man because of my extreme depression and that i'd drive them away soon. My main concern now is that they just wouldn't really be happy with me and it's absolutely vital the other person is truly happy with you and they know and tell you in various ways how you make their life better. of course no one can or should expect that one person can meet each others' needs. Only God can fullfill that!

Yet the above is such negative thinking and the very thing that just gets in the way. it makes me so frustrated i dwell on stuff like this all the time! and it gets worse the older you get (im 39) and the pool of available people gets smaller. Yeah there are worse things in life but this one affects me the most and has been the biggest desire of my heart. It has helped praying specifically in this area for wisdom.

I hope things get better and God bless you!

No never tried eharmony. My problem isnt meeting single gals, plenty of single gals around me but not interested in hooking up with a guy for real. Yes they like to go on dates but not interested in serious relationships. I suppose if I wasnt a christian I would just do the date and sex game and never mind about seeking a serious committed relationship. I hear what youre saying about how only God can meet our needs but one major why He does this is in godly marriage.

Thanks for sharing and God bless you!!

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

“I do not know how to kiss, or I would kiss you. Where do the noses go?”
—Ingrid Bergman

is there a dating site for little piggy's??

 

[dayhiker]

sure .. lovethatpig dot com ...

Well, you might have to create it before it becomes a reality!

 

[aflower4God]

((((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))))
Hang in there.

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

((((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))))
Hang in there.

hey Flower, good to see you here. Sorry you are sick, hope you get well soon

 

[Javanwarbler]

No never tried eharmony. My problem isnt meeting single gals, plenty of single gals around me but not interested in hooking up with a guy for real. Yes they like to go on dates but not interested in serious relationships. I suppose if I wasnt a christian I would just do the date and sex game and never mind about seeking a serious committed relationship. I hear what youre saying about how only God can meet our needs but one major why He does this is in godly marriage.

Thanks for sharing and God bless you!!

Yeah, I tried the free profile and got no matches because I was put in the 20% group that they cant' find matches for! I answered the questions a bit too literal or honest or something, because I think my depression really effected the questionnaire results. I get impression the majority of people benefit or like e-harmony but it didn't help me.
So it would have been absolutely a waste to spend any money on it!
That surprises me about women not wanting to get serious. Usually they do and want to commit. :o I don't even date because I only would want to with the intention of marriage; not just to date or 'have fun' in the immediate term. I like that you want to date serious and settle down too!
I try to be discerning in a healthy way as it's vital you both have common interests and values, yet i find I'm very desperate too as the time ticks away. I feel so emotionally unstable in the rest of my life and I'm quite aware that wouldn't be good to bring into a relationship.

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

Yeah, I tried the free profile and got no matches because I was put in the 20% group that they cant' find matches for! I answered the questions a bit too literal or honest or something, because I think my depression really effected the questionnaire results. I get impression the majority of people benefit or like e-harmony but it didn't help me.
So it would have been absolutely a waste to spend any money on it!
That surprises me about women not wanting to get serious. Usually they do and want to commit. :o I don't even date because I only would want to with the intention of marriage; not just to date or 'have fun' in the immediate term. I like that you want to date serious and settle down too!
I try to be discerning in a healthy way as it's vital you both have common interests and values, yet i find I'm very desperate too as the time ticks away. I feel so emotionally unstable in the rest of my life and I'm quite aware that wouldn't be good to bring into a relationship.

Its probably more suited to people in US. I wonder what percentage of singles now use online dating and how many find their mate this way? You say gals want to commit, maybe thats true where you live but not where I am Anyhow Ive been diagnosed with a bonding disorder! Have seen any cures for my bonding disorder?

 

[dayhiker]

I think that's the 1st time I've heard of a bonding disorder!

 

[Life2Christ]

Anyhow Ive been diagnosed with a bonding disorder! Have seen any cures for my bonding disorder?

If you had bonding disorder you would be like me, uninterested in dating, mating or boding.

 

[dayhiker]

Now that sounds like a good way to take one of God's joy of living out of life.