Ok I HATE being single!!

[visionary]

I put my finger on the "helpmeet" verse of Genesis.. and asked God who am I to "help meet" and ohh what a wonderful mate I was given.

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

Maybe this is an irresponsible thing to say (???) - but we single women WANT those men feeling the "desires" to head out there and find us and marry us!!! Then we can BOTH use our sexual feelings to good use!!! Woohoo - now wouldn't that be fun! *sigh and shaking head* Boys.....

You say "we single women WANT those men....", do you mean you want those men? I wish it was "we single women....", then I would have a better chance of finding a mate.

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

I put my finger on the "helpmeet" verse of Genesis.. and asked God who am I to "help meet" and ohh what a wonderful mate I was given.

thanks vision

 

[jamandcrumpets]

You say "we single women WANT those men....", do you mean you want those men? I wish it was "we single women....", then I would have a better chance of finding a mate.

Well I can only speak for myself and all the other single women I have ever had a conversation with about the lack of men stepping out - especially in church... Not all women of course... But it is ridiculously hard and I know dating is scary and can be full of rejection, but it's the same for both men and women...

 

[peacechild4]

I put my finger on the "helpmeet" verse of Genesis.. and asked God who am I to "help meet" and ohh what a wonderful mate I was given.

yay.. thats encouraging..

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

Well I can only speak for myself and all the other single women I have ever had a conversation with about the lack of men stepping out - especially in church... Not all women of course... But it is ridiculously hard and I know dating is scary and can be full of rejection, but it's the same for both men and women...

must be just the men in your church, cause the guys I know from different churches have stepped out but dont seem to be able to find any available gals. Socks are a problem tho

 

[OGM]

You say many modern Christian men are very afraid of feeling and often hate the sexual desires they have. How do you know this is true?

I have counseled many Christian men throughout the years. I have read the recurring issues that men are writing about (even on CF). Also I have read the material and philosophies promoted that is used in some of the more popular men’s seminars. Like I said earlier…a lot depends on what groups the man belongs to.

Speaking from my own personal experience I hate being single and this isnt surprising considering God says its not good for a man to be alone. However Im not afraid of feelings and dont hate the God given sexual desires I have. There is frustration that I cant use what God has given me in a loving relationship.

If you hate being single and frustrated…go get married. Some people handle decades of frustration better than others.

It is my experience that men dont really talk about these issues in the church. Instead one gets patronising comments, like "just wait, God will provide", "God has someone special for you, just wait"....... yeah and Im sure someone written a "just wait" song and dont wanna hear it!!

It depends on the congregation, geography and “men’s” seminars. Some are all about fear.

Well I can only speak for myself and all the other single women I have ever had a conversation with about the lack of men stepping out - especially in church... Not all women of course... But it is ridiculously hard and I know dating is scary and can be full of rejection, but it's the same for both men and women...

It is not just Christian men either, many non-believers are not stepping up either. It wasn’t always like that and the reasons are multiple. When I have a little more time I can write more.

must be just the men in your church, cause the guys I know from different churches have stepped out but dont seem to be able to find any available gals. Socks are a problem tho

A lot depends on the individual church/congregation.

 

[dayhiker]

OH, I was so tempted to preach a bit against those that want to put all those purity rituals on me. Zipping my mouth.

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

I have counseled many Christian men throughout the years. I have read the recurring issues that men are writing about (even on CF). Also I have read the material and philosophies promoted that is used in some of the more popular men’s seminars. Like I said earlier…a lot depends on what groups the man belongs to.

If you hate being single and frustrated…go get married. Some people handle decades of frustration better than others.

Im hungry, so I just go and get a pizza, yummy and so easy!. Im single and frustrated so I just go and get married, just so easy, like getting a pizza You say you have counselled many Christian men??

 

[OGM]

Im hungry, so I just go and get a pizza, yummy and so easy!. Im single and frustrated so I just go and get married, just so easy, like getting a pizza You say you have counselled many Christian men??

Or how about this:

A) Wanted a career, I received training, applied for jobs and was hired.
B) Wanted a car, I did some research, got financing and drove the car home
C) Wanted a wife, was awkward around women, avoided asking women out on dates, did not take constructive feedback/criticism and was relationally passive.

Of the three choices; which, if any, doesn’t belong here?

If a person ultimately wants to get married there are more search methods now than ever.

Insanity…doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I agree with the insanity part! Getting married is easier than ever, but finding the one God has for you may not be as easy.

 

[peacechild4]

Just call me insane then..

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Just call me insane then..

Why? lol do you keep doing the same thing expecting a different result? I would disagree with you if you said yes, because lately it seems your life has been nothing but change change and more change (which could also lead one to insanity )

 

[dayhiker]

making weird face .. we are all insane ... grin

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

making weird face .. we are all insane ... grin

I know right? Besides, who wants to be normal anyway? Sooooo boring LOL

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

whats insane is dnp counselling I suppose if one wasnt a christian then one could just hook up with anyone to get married and even a sham marriage can be done for the right money but seriously we christians are insane according to the world!!

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

had to go back and read to figure out what you meant by dnp LOL.
But I AM insane and proud of it! I am in the world but not of the world and I'm only a visitor here. Do I sound crazy yet?

 

[OGM]

whats insane is dnp counselling I suppose if one wasnt a christian then one could just hook up with anyone to get married and even a sham marriage can be done for the right money but seriously we christians are insane according to the world!!

There is nothing insane about being proactive. Who said anything about "hooking up with anyone"? As with any goal in life it helps to have a plan.

Sometimes it is the matter of location, location, location. Meaning a person may have to move to in area where more single believers are. Or perhaps they have to look outside of their denomination. Perhaps they have to modify their search methods. They might need to improve their communications skills. Some might need to be more open about giving believers a chance outside of your social group (nationality, ethnic group, race, etc.)

My point is that there are a lot of Christians in the world that are looking for a spouse. Often times I would hear someone say they want to get married but are having and hard time finding a Christian woman. My question to them would be "what have you done to find a Christian wife" and "what makes you believe it is hard to find a Christian wife?"

Often times the guy were really passive and was just waiting for a wife to appear all the while acting disappointed when one wouldn't materialize for him. Many of these guys were introverted and did not even ask out women that were available in their own Church our community!

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

a case of the missing sock, where art thou missing sock!

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

am I insane to hate being single?