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my post was in response to your post in the PRESENT, not in the past. My concerns have been based on history, but those were not accusations.
and that was not the topic of my post
and yet I have expressed my concerns and told you why--it's not an accusation against you. Until you posted here, I didn't know you WERE an advisor. I express my valid concerns, not an accusation, not an attack, not even snarky, but valid concerns. YOUR failure to recognize it as legit simply says to those who raise the concerns, "we don't care--get over it." Not the same way tonks is presenting it--so already, there is a discrepancy--yet another reason for valid concern.
perhaps taking a moment to earnest ask, listen and care about the concerns lifted up instead of rejecting them as attacks or conspiracy might help you understand--not that you should agree, but if you tried, understanding might come.
neither have been made. Accusations? Against whom? by whom? What Accusation? Assumptions? No, comments, fears, uneasiness, questions.
yes, that IS a concern
and nor am I. So, since I've not judged you to be a part of some conspiracy, why judge "those who have been gone a while" as suddenly coming back to cause trouble, stirring the "complaint pot?" Why not actually listen to those members who have conerns? Doen't mean you have to agree or change anything. Better yet, since Tonks seems to be doing good at that, why not let him handle it?
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catty, snarky, NO concern, and "ya'll are not welcome and are obviously one here to be trouble makers and stir the 'complaint pot'"--all for expressing concern, asking questions, and expressing an opinion. Oddly enough, most of us have said we AGREE with tonks, but still have concerns--not all, but some.
please don't put words in my mouth. I never said it, in fact said precisely the opposite
yes, and the ASSUMPTION that this means they are up to no good is simply that--an assumption and it shows disdain for those you "lead" in your role as advisor. Simply having an attitude of "let them eat cake" has never gone over well in World History.
but already Tonks has said that there WOULD be an effect. He said that it would affect where posts could be moved and how--he said things could be restricted to the "non-orthodox" area. And I don't even disagree with that per se--not the point--but HE said there would be changes--not much, but changes. The concern is what this COULD lead to potentially in the future. and he said this was a "soft" changeover--this is used in business to suggest that the results of the changes will happen slowly over time, which again suggests MORE changes coming--we're not doing anything but responding with questions, concerns, and opinions. And AGAIN, I HAVE earned the right, paid my dues, and given of my own blood, sweat, and tears, time, and money to this site--I should be allowed to do raise my concerns, ask my questions, and state my opinions without being labled as a conspirator.
obviously differently from you--as one of THOSE WHO HAVE BEEN ABSENT, I see it far differently. It would be nice if you would ask rather than assume. You might try listening to people--wouldn't hurt, could help--and listening to others does not mean you are going to change your mind, but you could show some genuine interest in their concerns rathter than "snarkily" dismissing them out of hand as conspirators.
young man, I appreciate your words and your service to CF--a site I've spent a lot of time supporting.
of course not.
that is good to hear and I trust you--always have. You are a shining star amongst much darkness that exists in power struggles on CF.
good to hear
hmm, I trust you--really, but she had no business being here if she can't take a few comments and questions--and the least she could have done is apologize. The insinuation that I have no desire to help this site after all I've given of myself was just plain ole not nice
ok, I trust you. It is hard to see that from her "snarky" post.
good!
and as I said, I think a statement of faith is a good thing. The problem is I'd like Tonks to explain what he meant by:
good to hear.
I've been going around and posting in various areas. It's good to see you too. I miss you and that man you hang out with too!
you too
