I'm in a tight emotional spot.
I'm torn between helping my ex wife from getting her car repossessed and being angry with her for seeing a new guy.
A little background, she has bipolar and borderline personality disorders. Last year she had a car wreck which lead to two major mental meltdowns that I picked up the pieces of and got her treatment for. We had been divorced earlier that year because she had an affair. She was dumped by the affair guy which was also a factor in her breakdowns.
She was alone and finally got to the point where she needed serious help. I found her an outpatient facility specifically for her disorders. So I paid for her to get treatment and kept her bills current while she went for seven weeks.
She would never admit she had a disorder while we were married not take medication. They helped her through all of that and she's healing and has applied for disability. She should hear back about that by April but even then only about a third are approved right away.
Why I'm angry is that now that she's getting healthy again she's seeing another guy. I feel like I did the work to get her to this point, saw her through hospital stays, kept her afloat, and has normal moods, another guy reaps the benefits.
Now he does live four hours away but I don't see him stepping up to help her keep her car or help her lights stay on.
The problem is that I help anyone. If anyone needs help I'm there front and center to do what I can. Maybe I keep thinking she and I will give it another shot. It'd be so much easier now that she's in counseling and on the right medications. So if I let her car get repossessed then it would make things harder on me too. Our oldest daughter lives with her and our youngest daughter lves with me, they are 19 and 17. The oldest is in college and the youngest will be a senior.
I'm stable and that is what the youngest needs.
So I'm angry and I wallaby to help so I REALLY don't know what to do.
I'm torn between helping my ex wife from getting her car repossessed and being angry with her for seeing a new guy.
A little background, she has bipolar and borderline personality disorders. Last year she had a car wreck which lead to two major mental meltdowns that I picked up the pieces of and got her treatment for. We had been divorced earlier that year because she had an affair. She was dumped by the affair guy which was also a factor in her breakdowns.
She was alone and finally got to the point where she needed serious help. I found her an outpatient facility specifically for her disorders. So I paid for her to get treatment and kept her bills current while she went for seven weeks.
She would never admit she had a disorder while we were married not take medication. They helped her through all of that and she's healing and has applied for disability. She should hear back about that by April but even then only about a third are approved right away.
Why I'm angry is that now that she's getting healthy again she's seeing another guy. I feel like I did the work to get her to this point, saw her through hospital stays, kept her afloat, and has normal moods, another guy reaps the benefits.
Now he does live four hours away but I don't see him stepping up to help her keep her car or help her lights stay on.
The problem is that I help anyone. If anyone needs help I'm there front and center to do what I can. Maybe I keep thinking she and I will give it another shot. It'd be so much easier now that she's in counseling and on the right medications. So if I let her car get repossessed then it would make things harder on me too. Our oldest daughter lives with her and our youngest daughter lves with me, they are 19 and 17. The oldest is in college and the youngest will be a senior.
I'm stable and that is what the youngest needs.
So I'm angry and I wallaby to help so I REALLY don't know what to do.