Need help interperting something

[GQ Chris]

Ask her to lunch, don't rearrange your schedule unless she is truly that exceptional and amazing.

 

[Nilloc]

Ask her to lunch,

The thought of doing something like that scares me to death. I have a hard enough time talking to people as it is. Asking a girl to lunch?

 

[Paulie079]

Dude, it's not like a date. Just don't think of it that way. She's a huuuuman. H-U-M-A-N. Just ask her what time she eats breakfast, lunch, or dinner, and say, "Do you mind if I join you?" Don't let it become more than it is in your head. You're not going to start dating tomorrow, let alone get married.

 

[Nilloc]

Dude, it's not like a date. Just don't think of it that way. She's a huuuuman. H-U-M-A-N.

That doesn't really help since I don't have human social skills.

 

[Paulie079]

That doesn't really help since I don't have human social skills.

I have to believe that you have some, and I definitely believe that you can develop whatever you feel is lacking. You're a person and a human being too, so you have interesting stories, experiences, insights, etc. to share with other people. Don't sell yourself short I believe you're complete capable of initiating and maintaining a friendship with a girl, whether it's her or someone else.

 

[Nilloc]

I have to believe that you have some,

Ask those whom I went to high school with.

You're a person and a human being too, so you have interesting stories, experiences, insights, etc. to share with other people.

"Interesting" isn't quite the word I would use.

I believe you're complete capable of initiating and maintaining a friendship with a girl, whether it's her or someone else.

Why?

 

[SnowyMacie]

I don't really have any experience in this area, so I had to ask.

Last Thursday was my first day of college. I’m in a writing class as writing fiction is one of my favorite hobbies. We had to get in groups for some dumb ice breaker thing. As I talked to the others in my group, I found that one of the girls really likes writing too and gave basically the same answers as I did on the ice breaker questions. We talked a bit more. She asked me what classes I had coming up and I told her. She said she had the same one, but we have them at different times. Then she said—and this is why I’m asking this—that I should change the time of my class to the same as hers.

I’ve never been in a relationship or anything like that before, so I’m not sure if she was just being friendly in what she said or not. Anyone have an opinion? Maybe this is a really dumb question, but as I said, I don’t have any knowledge in this area.

As my friends sometimes say, "she wants to have your babies". Translation: she's into you.

 

[Paulie079]

Ask those whom I went to high school with.

Yeah, but that was awhile ago.

"Interesting" isn't quite the word I would use.

Like I said before, don't sell yourself short. Give yourself some credit. God delights in you for the person He's made you to be, so find rest and confidence in that. I've seen you post on here and you have some good things to say.

Why?

Because you can maintain a conversation on here. Now, I know that a conversation where you're typing and have more time to calculate a response is very different than a conversation where you're talking out loud face-to-face, but the components of conversation are the same. I think if you especially wouldn't let yourself get discouraged and would be willing to put yourself out there knowing that you have nothing to lose, you would be able to grow in this area. I have areas that I need to grow in as well, and it requires prayer, finding my worth in Christ alone, a willingness to take risks, and a diligent spirit towards working to reach my goal.

 

[GQ Chris]

The thought of doing something like that scares me to death. I have a hard enough time talking to people as it is. Asking a girl to lunch?

Yeah, I know it can be scarier than being a young Jedi facing Darth Vader with a light saber, but yeah, ask her out. Men don't let fear get in the way from what has to be done.

 

[gracefullamb]

I wouldn't advise changing your schedule but I do think she is interested in you. If you are too intimidated right now to ask her out on a date you could suggest getting together to do homework and study together, maybe.

 

[Nilloc]

Yeah, I know it can be scarier than being a young Jedi facing Darth Vader with a light saber, but yeah, ask her out. Men don't let fear get in the way from what has to be done.

I let fear stop me from doing things all the time. I'm good at it.

I don't even know how to ask a girl out. How to phrase it or whatever. Besides, it feels to early. I only talked to her for like five minutes.

 

[GQ Chris]

You let fear stop you all the time, sad way to live. Nut up.

 

[SnowyMacie]

I don't even know how to ask a girl out. How to phrase it or whatever.

You wanna go out sometime?
Are you free (insert day and time here)?
What are you doing (insert day and time here)?
I have an extra ticket to ______, you wanna go with me?
Do you want to grab a cup of coffee/dinner/lunch sometime?

 

[Nilloc]

You let fear stop you all the time, sad way to live. Nut up.

Life is a sad thing.

 

[GQ Chris]

I would be more direct, like, "Hey that's really great that you have the same classes as me, I'd like to take you to this great burger place I know on Saturday, would that be cool?"

 

[Nilloc]

You wanna go out sometime?
Are you free (insert day and time here)?
What are you doing (insert day and time here)?
I have an extra ticket to ______, you wanna go with me?
Do you want to grab a cup of coffee/dinner/lunch sometime?

Geez, I couldn't imagine saying that.

 

[GQ Chris]

Life is a sad thing.

Only if you're Gothic and wear black clothes all the time.

 

[Nanopants]

Compliments are helpful.

"Hey, that's a cute outfit" or something. Look for accessories, seriously. Girls really like their accessories. Pointing out how great they are is a good way to earn instant points. After that, it might not even matter if you're a little awkward.

 

[SnowyMacie]

Geez, I couldn't imagine saying that.

For me, the issue isn't coming up with what to say, it's actually working myself up to say it.

 

[Nilloc]

I would be more direct, like, "Hey that's really great that you have the same classes as me, I'd like to take you to this great burger place I know on Saturday, would that be cool?"

That's the thing, I don't wanna be direct.