Need help interperting something

[Rhye]

You can do it, have faith in yourself. Just talk to her, to other women, to other people in general. You are a very intelligent man, show your worth to others, they will see it.

 

[Nanopants]

That's the thing, I don't wanna be direct.

So... if you talk to her after class next time and get some positive momentum going, it would be a lot easier when it just seems natural to ask.

Compliments dude, compliments.

 

[Rhye]

Compliments are helpful.

"Hey, that's a cute outfit" or something. Look for accessories, seriously. Girls really like their accessories. Pointing out how great they are is a good way to earn instant points. After that, it might not even matter if you're a little awkward.

No no no. She will think he is gay.

Just say she looks really nice or beautiful.

 

[GQ Chris]

That's the thing, I don't wanna be direct.

Why not dude? Don't you like her?

 

[GQ Chris]

No no no. She will think he is gay.

 

[SnowyMacie]

No no no. She will think he is gay.

Just say she looks really nice or beautiful.

Just double checking, hair is not an accessory, right?

 

[Nanopants]

No no no. She will think he is gay.

Just say she looks really nice or beautiful.

Lol. Ok maybe that's a little too fluffy. (I was trying to make it easy on him, sheesh)

But how else can he flirt with her without being so direct as he doesn't want to do?

 

[Nilloc]

Why not dude? Don't you like her?

I guess. I mean, I only talked to her five mintues. I was just so taken-a-back by what she said. Had she not suggested me switching classes I wouldn't have thought much of it.

I don't take risks and putting any feelings I have out there is something I cannot do.

 

[Rhye]

Just double checking, hair is not an accessory, right?

No its not and its a great compliments to give!

In the conversation he can say she looks really nice, but he can just talk to her about what interests them. If writing is their thing, then talk about writing. Oh and make her laugh.

 

[SnowyMacie]

No its not and its a great compliments to give!

*sigh of relief*

 

[GQ Chris]

Okay, well, to the degree of how much you like her, only you know.

I don't know what to say then, I know back in the day one day I decided I was sick of being a wallflower and the pain of staying the same hurt more than changing, that's when I started having the guts to ask girls out. It was awkward at first and the first few times I fell flat on myself, but it got easier after a while.

 

[Rhye]

*sigh of relief*

Its one thing when a woman compliments but ever once in a blue moon a man does and I go..."HA! I knew these curls would memorize people."


In my dreams.

 

[Blank123]

mostly blind post. She sounds interested in you as a person and that she wants to get to know you better. Whether thats on a friendship level or beyond... only she knows.

Get her number and ask her to have coffee sometime. Get to know her and see where things go.

 

[Blank123]

That's the thing, I don't wanna be direct.

Trust me... women like men who are direct.

 

[GQ Chris]

I dunno maybe there's a woman out there who swoon over a man who is wishy washy and have the backbone of a wet noodle?

 

[Nanopants]

I dunno. Emo kids these days are a little different. It's possible.

 

[Nilloc]

So if I am gong to be (relatively) direct, how long should I wait before asking her?

 

[Blank123]

Considering you met Thursday and she was dropping hints that she'd like to know you better, I'd say anytime would be good.

 

[GQ Chris]

Ask her out the next time you see her after class.

 

[Nilloc]

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and advice. Really. I'll be back in class tomorrow so we'll see what happens.